I Guess I Like Things Sometimes

straight men enduring 24/7 sexual assault each other in order to not be labeled faggots is honestly the best example of how masculinity operates. the other day before work a coworker fr shoved a finger in another coworker's ass (above pants) as one of their little "ha ha you're gay" jokes. fuck is wrong with them. equal parts disgusted and fascinated by their behaviour.

of course these people are fucked up and unable to hold healthy relationships grounded in mutual respect! they're constantly assaulting and being assaulted by their friends just to Not Be Gay/Like A Girl!!!

the biggest reason men refuse to recognize a lot of what they do to women as sexual harassment/assault is bc of their misogyny and wanting to maintain our power over women, 100%. BUT can i just point out that maybe a smaller but not-insignificant reason might also be that they can't even recognize sexual assault when other men do it to them???? i didn't tell that coworker bc he's an asshole, but i have had to tell other guys at work "hey what they're doing to you is terrible and you shouldn't have to put up with it you know" which most of them hadn't ever been told before because """""roughhousing""""" is part of that "boys will be boys" thing that makes everyone ignore our abuse

"boys will be boys" okay well maybe boys should be shot

the thing about job searching is i see all these job postings and im like i dont wanna do any of this for any of you