#nonbinary identity

To me, it feels like a double standard around degendering. Everyone agrees it’s wrong to avoid calling a trans person "she," "he," or their neopronouns by using "they" instead. But erasing our identities by calling us "non-men" is suddenly allowed or even encouraged.

This kind of language isn't inclusive, empowering or affirming at all. It ignores the fact that many nonbinary people feel partly male, or somewhere in-between, or have a very complicated relationship with gender. These people aren’t included by a definition built on not being a man.

It also reduces lesbians to nothing but the absence of maleness. Instead of acknowledging lesbian identity as something real and meaningful, it defines us only through what we aren’t. It strips away our own genders, our cultures, our history, our language, and replaces all of that with a negative category. We’re suddenly not women, not men, not anything - just "non-men." That’s not affirmation. That’s erasure.

And somehow this is only ever applied to lesbians. Gay men aren’t pressured to call themselves "non-women." But lesbians are constantly expected to redefine ourselves to prove we’re "inclusive enough," even though the definition itself excludes huge parts of the nonbinary community.

[pt: My take on an Ambigender flag. /end id]

Ambigender is a static bigender identity in which two genders are experienced simultaneously with no fluidity or shifting.

The usual flag is very hard on my eyes so I decided to create my own. I don't have a name for this flag but I guess that "hydrangea ambigender" flag would work? Stripe meanings under the cut.

Wiccegender

(pronounced witch-eh gender)

Wiccegender is a noungender that encapsulates a gender identity with a significant connection to identifying as a witch, practicing witchcraft, and concepts like the witch archetype within literature and pop culture while also simultaneously encapsulating a gender identity with a significant connection to concepts like womenhood or femmeness. You don't have to blanketly identify as a woman to identify as wiccegender, though. A wiccegender person may identify with womenhood but not explicitly call themselves a woman or may not identify as a woman or with womanhood, but does identify as a femme and with femmeness. A wiccegender person may also feel that being a lesbian or sapphic is a significant part of their gender identity. A significant part of wiccegender is recognizing how the patriarchy has used the word witch and the witch archetype as a weapon and reclaiming that. Wiccegender doesn't exclude people who express themselves/dress in a way that's stereotypically masculine, but as an identity does decenter men and manhood. Wicce is actually the Old English term for a woman who practiced magic. Though to re-clarify, you don't need to in any way identify as a woman to identify as wiccegender. For me, a big appeal of xenogenders is reconstructing gender identity in a way that decenters the language of the gender binary.

★ 𓂃 A term for someone whose identity involves mice and/or being a mouse, even outside the bounds of gender. Because the user's already existing identity as a mouse is so intense—it then began to play a role in their gender. It plays too much into one's general identity as a whole to be fully classified as a xenogender; this term would be more akin to that of a nonbinary identity.

𐔌𐔌 ☥ COINER: 🐾🐁 (me) . . . REQ: self — indulgent ࿐ TAGS: N/A 𓈒 Dm/send an ask to be added or removed ⛓

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