Y’all I might be taking this literally?? I think? But I’m fucking bamboozled here. Can someone help me understand what y’all mean when ya say “nonbinary is not a third gender?” I am genderqueer, okay? I understand the NON part of not on the damn binary!
But I’m just really confused about the wording of the “not a third gender,” statement, because uhh why wouldn’t it be a third gender? Nonbinary is a gender in and of itself. Is it because it also is an umbrella? But then man and woman are too, because binary trans people need them to be in order for their experiences as trans to be recognized(Aka woman includes binary trans women). As in there are differences experienced that are important to people. Is it because there’s not ONLY 3 genders?? But then why couldn’t Nonbinary be a third, Agender be a fourth, and so on? Would that not help us with the whole binary issue anyway? There’s not really a strict binary solution, if there’s idk actually more than a binary listed for the genders??? Like is that not what we’re wanting here?
The only other way I see it “not being a third gender,” would be because of it being closer TO the ID Trans than not? Because you know trans is usually paired up with another word, but that makes even less sense to me, because again, Nonbinary IS a gender, and there’s lots of Nonbinary people who don’t even want to be identified with Trans, so then why would they turn around and use Nonbinary in the same way??? I’m just really gotdamned confused…