"how do you feel about labels as a queer person?"
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"how do you feel about labels as a queer person?"

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Hereās your periodic reminder that language exists to serve us, not the other way around.
If x label is close enough to your experience that youād like to use it, then use it. If y label fits your experience perfectly, but you donāt want to use it, then donāt.
The purpose of words isnāt to neatly divide everything into perfect categories, but rather to provide a useful shorthand to communicate ideas.
gently reminding you that you donāt have to be certain about what *exactly* romance is before calling yourself aromantic. If aromantic feels right, you can use it. Romance is culturally & socially defined, it can be hard to explain even when you *do* feel romance. Itās impossible to pin down a definition for it thatāll cover *everything* romance is.
And if later you find that you do feel romance āthatās fine too!! Not all aromantics feel *no* romance! Even if you later realize youāre alloromantic, that doesnāt detract from your time identifying as aromantic! Identity is weird and complex and always evolving. Labels arenāt leases. Theyāre meant to help you describe yourself in the present, in the *now*, not 2, 5, 10, 20 years in the future.
Just Grow Up
There's a paradox in a lot of plural spaces. System kids are welcome, but only if they're Literal Children who stay in child-only soft boxes where they can be ignored. If a kid wants to have an adult conversation, then they're spoken over, pushed away, or otherwise discounted more often than not- and if they're accepted, then it's often at the cost of expecting them to have absolutely no childlike qualities to "prove" that they're mature enough to stay around. We even see this pattern within systems sometimes.
What are systems without adult members supposed to do if the only place system kids can talk is in the Super Soft Safe Box? What about system kids who want to talk about theoretical physics or drugs or sex or a thousand other taboos? What about kids who function as adults? And what about system kids who are kids but don't want to live their lives in the Super Soft Safe Box like the world expects them to?
Acceptance of system kids as being wildly different from each other in mindset and ability is improving, but we still have a long way to go in treating system kids with a shred of respect and decency in wider plural spaces.
Not to mention... why is there so much intense focus on mental age as some universal concept in the first place? It feels like a lot of the plural community takes the concept of mental age as a given without considering where that idea comes from, how it affects how they treat others, and how it interacts with systemic discrimination and ableism. It can sometimes be a useful construct if approached critically, but I see so little critical thought about it.
If you want some reading on the topic, one of the articles cited is worth at least a skim- it's a fairly good surface overview of eugenics and its tie to IQ/mental age, immigration, racism, ableism, etc.
ID below the cut with the full quotes- sorry to alt texters, I fit as much as I could in there but the text limit is real.
purposefully using they/them for an it/its user because you "don't want to disrespect them :(" is still misgendering!!
the difference to using it/its respectfully is consent. an it/its user is giving you full consent! just use people's pronouns, please. they are not for your comfort.

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from the reggae label art archives, c. early 1970s.
I think personal labels can be useful for āthereās a word for itā, āIām not aloneā, and āoh neat, I know what to put in a search engine nowā reasons, but I also think they can be troublesome.
Plenty of people wonāt fit 100% neatly into a label, and when they encounter a rare exception to what is otherwise an accurate label for them, it can feel like an identity crisis.
The labels arenāt literally what you are. Theyāre words. Theyāre meant to assist communication and organization, not to control you.