Gender, sexuality, love, and 亏.
Seeing men in drag or being âfeminineâ causes no reaction in me since I donât care about things like othersâ gender expression or sexuality. Yet I recognize right away that theyâre a part of Kyoâs art.
And hereâs what I find really interesting: in his case, itâs like a channeling of those qualities. Iâm not sure if that explains it. Some dude said itâs more that âhe becomes itâ and I thought it means that heâs channeling this female/sexual energy into his expression.
And thatâs different from those bands that dress âlike womenâ, or drag queens, transvestites, or even actual trans women. It makes more of an impact to me that he does that, because heâs a straight man.
But thatâs not all thereâs to it.Â
When I see him do that thereâs definitely a reaction because thereâs a feeling to it that is unbound and purely instinctual. Itâs genuine. Heâs said that there are many types of love, and he wants to show all of them. I think thatâs why it feels so primal to me, because itâs not an expression of individuality or identity, but of love. Thereâs a quality of selflessness in love that self-expression doesnât possess. It goes beyond any construct, be it social or self-imposed. It transcends any logical barrier, and even defies the course thatâs been set by our own life experience. This expression of love is present in everyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. Heâs acknowledging that, accepting it, and embracing it so fully that he âbecomes itâ.Â
It canât even be compared to a drag queen show or trans girls marching with their tits out at Pride, or visual kei. I feel nothing seeing those things but this, for instanceâŚ
Itâs like watching someone conveying both yin and yang, male and female. And all the tones in between. That is, all the ways in which these two qualities meld, and then that fusion relates with another, in an expression of desire or need. He becomes not one with the witness, but whole. I find it alluring. It just draws me in.
Because Iâm not gay, it isnât sexual attraction [my tone]. I just recognize that this female energy is also present in every man, even though most wonât show it or even acknowledge it. He freely and fearlessly shows it, and he does it so well. Itâs like he has no limits.
No matter what is being expressed: self, desire, love...although to me thereâs nothing more important than being unrestrained, I can see that having your expression acknowledged and accepted fulfills a human need for love and belonging that not too many people are capable of giving you, unless they know you and care about you.
But he, though he might not know you, accepts you. Thatâs a kindness we often wonât grant strangers. Itâs rooted in love, in actually knowing love, and comes from a place of self-acceptance. You are a stranger, but youâre not strange, is what heâs telling you. Probably.
(Thanks to @yridenergyridenergyâ for scans and @post-noseekâ for gif. )