you are able to shift, to manifest, to achieve your goals, to finish that book, to start your driving lessons, go back to school, make friends, to live.

PSA - I am no expert nor am I a socialite. I mostly have dreams and scour the internet and read books when i am not talking to others, but you do not need to be a cat to know what a cat is so here is my two cents.

This is the main comment I see under any question relating to being a socialite or anyone who is trying to climb the ranks fall under this:

"Money money and money."

"Get rich first"

"If you are not born from it than forget about it."

There are more - a lot more - viewer may now better but for those who don't, I will explain.

Do you need money to be a socialite? No. The short answer is no. Long answer:

Think of popular girls in school or in media - yes, they have money and that helps but what else? could it how they talk? the way they walk? the people they hang around? How they style themselves? The attitude? Do they only sit in their house and not go anywhere? do they have friends? Maybe their charm? And the list goes on.

Being a socialite can be a job, but at it's core it is a lifestyle - the way you live and spend your life. If you are creative, you don't need a lot of money to do it. Here is a list of example:

Ada “Bricktop” Smith, Josephine Baker, Eartha Kitt, Dorothy Dandridge, Diana Vreeland, Bianca Jagger, Dita Von Teese, Iris Apfel, Tilda Swinton, Grace Jones, Edie Sedgwick, Amanda Lepore, and Julia Fox are all examples of self‑made socialites who rose from poverty, instability, complete obscurity or nothing at all than got into elite cultural circles.

What do they have in common? Passions, charming personalities, smarts and, most importantly, the want for better. It would have been so easy for these people to just accept the situations they where born with and decide that that would be their life.

Or maybe it would be harder to accept that since that would mean giving up all your dreams or watering them down...anyway-

Maybe we thing that something superficial like money, follower account, views or the sorts is the only thing that matters and actual social capital and being an actually interesting person outside of social media.

I see why we may think this because when we think of socialites we think of the Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashians and whatever media icon you could be thinking of, but the personalities that last mostly do not appear on social media or not so well known to the general public - they are known in their communities and behind the scenes work.

Most of unknown socialites climbed up the corporate latter and that is how they get exclusive invites (money would be the result of those kind of path), some do it threw friends of friends, either way you have more to stand on when you do it threw friends.

If you are convinced that someone would need money to be able to do anything, than sure I will play with that idea, but it wont get as far as you are thinking.

Think this: Money is what is going to get you in the door, but personality is what people are going to love and want more of. There for, you are going to keep being invited. Makes since? If all you have is money and nothing else than that is all people are going to want from you and when it is gone, they are gone.

"I want to wear this, but people will stare because my tummy is not flat." = " Can I have your permission to wear this dress even though my tummy is not flat?"

"I don't want to wear makeup today but people will stare at my acne scars" = " Can I have your permission to go outside without make up even though I have acne scars?"

Don't ask people for permission to be alive and live, just do whatever you want, live your life, you might die tomorrow, think about that.

Let’s get real, if you’ve been trying for months (or even years) and feel stuck, it’s probably not because shifting “isn’t real” or because you “can’t.” It’s because:

1. Law of Assumption

You assume you’re not shifting, so your reality matches that assumption.

If every night you’re thinking, “I hope I shift” instead of “I am shifting”, your subconscious is being told you’re still in lack.

You don’t manifest what you want, you manifest what you assume. If you assume you’re stuck, you’ll experience being stuck.

2. Unbalanced Root Chakra

Your root chakra is all about stability and safety. If it’s blocked or overactive:

You might cling too tightly to your CR (current reality) because it’s “known” and “safe.”

You could be subconsciously rejecting your DR (desired reality) because deep down it feels too different or unstable.

Fix it:

Grounding meditations

Spending time in nature

Eating grounding foods (potatoes, carrots, root veggies) and foods that are red in colour.

Wearing red or working with red crystals like garnet

Walking barefoot on the earth

“I am” mantra

3. The Deep Fear of Letting Go

This is a sneaky one. Sometimes the thing holding you back isn’t technique, but fear.

Fear of not liking your DR as much as you think

Fear of losing people in your CR

Fear of actually getting what you want (yes, this is a real thing! the mind gets scared of change especially for fellow neurodivergent folks)

Fix it:

Journal your fears and address them logically

Script safety nets into your DR

Remind yourself you can always come back to your CR

4. You’re Overcomplicating It

Shifting doesn’t require perfection, constant “high vibes,” or hours of visualisation. The more pressure you put on yourself, the more your body stays in “fight or flight” mode — and shifting needs relaxation.

Fix it:

See it as inevitable, not a test

Play with techniques instead of clinging to one

Take breaks, but keep your assumption that you are shifting