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Let's understand what toxic parental behaviour is, when one or both parents engage in behaviours that stem long-term adverse consequences for their offspring, often continuing into adulthood.

Identifying toxic parental behaviour

• Self-centered behavior

• Physical abuse

• Verbal abuse

• Emotional abuse

• Manipulation

• Inability to respect boundaries

Here are some coping mechanisms while dealing with toxic parent/s:

• Stop trying to please them

• Set and enforce boundaries

• Be mindful of what you share with them

• You don't have to be available 24/7

• Know your parents' limitations

• Don't try to reason with them

• Always have an exit strategy

• If you wish to, you can work on their limitations

Lastly, the most important of all, don't forget to take care of yourself!

Till date, patriarchy still exists all over the nation even though there has been a call for gender equality and women empowerment. However, a small number of tribes that reside in the state of Meghalaya live differently. Also known as the ‘Abode of Clouds’, Meghalaya is known for its matrilineal society, many of which are not generally practiced in the country. The women of the Khasi, Jaintia and Garo tribes have a more active role in their societies. In a family household, the birth of a baby girl is always celebrated. They are allowed to avail the same opportunities as men such as education and having a career. They can own properties and lands as well. Traditionally, the daughter is considered the preserver of her clan, family and lineage. The youngest daughter is the primary caretaker of her parents and inherits the land and property of the family. She continues to stay with her parents whereas her husband leaves his home to stay at his wife’s. Children are given the surname of their mothers by default. In some cases, a woman is allowed to intermarry in the society. She is equally and financially inclined to contribute to household expenses and her choice in a potential marital partner is hers alone. The Khasi community never acknowledged dowry and never gives or takes dowry at all. Although the society is matrilineal, the state of Meghalaya is not matriarchal. The father continues to be the traditional head of the family. In the village councils, the Dorbar Shnong and the panchayats, the representation of women in politics was earlier prohibited. Nowadays, it is allowed though participation is minimal. It may not always be a walk in the park for women as one can often witness domestic violence done against them in any society. Still, for decades, Meghalaya continues to live by its principles, proving to the world that women are more or less as important as men are in the society and can uplift their tradition and culture to great lengths.

-Ynri War, intern at @just.lemmebe

Hi! Previously we talked about bisexuality. Today, we'll talk about pansexuality.

Let's assume you randomly choose one individual from each gender that exists and make them stand in a line and glance at them from side to side. Well, a cinematographer would say that you're panning your vision from left to right, and that is how we'll visualize the term "pansexual".

A literal dictionary definition of bisexuality, due to the prefix bi-, is a sexual or romantic attraction to two sexes (males and females) or two genders (men and women). Pansexuality, however, composed with the prefix pan-, is the sexual attraction to a person of any sex or gender. Using these definitions, it is defined differently by explicitly including intersex, transgender, or outside the gender binary.

This identity is pretty common even though the term is lesser than or equally known than "bisexual." It is a sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pan people often refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not the grounds to determine their romantic or sexual attraction to others.

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