#late

I had been looking forward to this concert for weeks, and he knew how excited I was about it.

We had plans to go together. The venue was far away (about 1 hour and 15 minutes), so I had told him beforehand that we should leave to the concert around 6:30 PM to make it on time. I had also told him that I hadn’t eaten anything all day, so the plan was to get food before heading to the concert.

He was supposed to arrive at my house around 4:30–4:45 PM because he said he’ll get ready in 10 and the road takes 20-30 min so we can eat together. We talked on the phone at 4 PM, and during the call I told him to charge my power bank a little too as I had forgotten it with him. He said he’d charge it for 10-15 min.

He didn’t end up arriving until 6:15 PM which is about an hour and a half late. By then, there was no time to get food, and we were already cutting it close for the concert. When I asked why he was so late, the only explanation he gave was that he was “charging my power bank.”

What upset me most wasn’t even just the lateness. If he knew he was going to be late, he could have called or texted me so I could at least eat something instead of waiting. I had planned my day around us going together.

When he finally got to my house I got upset and told him I was going alone. He thinks I overreacted, but I feel like I communicated the timing clearly, he knew how important this concert was to me, and a quick message would have let me adjust my plans.

Am I overreacting?

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (90% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR never wait around for a man or anyone else who doesn’t value your time. You should have just left without him but I get it. Being that late is blatantly disrespectful.”

Notable comment: “girl I ended it with a man who was "late" by my standards to a comedy show I bought tickets for. I told him to be there for 630. Show starts at 7, and the theater closes the doors at 7. They do not reopen the doors after 7, that one of their hard rules. I specifically told him 630 so we can have a drink together, find our seats and settle into the show. (For some context, this was maybe our 7th or 8th date and he had been late to almost every single date, so at this point I was over it).

Its 6:58 and hes nowhere to be found. Ive texted him multiple times, I told him exactly where inside I was waiting for him. He texts me at 702, "im at our seats where are you?" He legit showed up at 7 on the dot and laughed while telling me how silly it was the door guy almost didnt let him in.

He said he was late because he wanted to "shower and look good for you" despite me telling him ahead of time that I had to leave right after dinner after the show as I had to be into work early the next day. He knew we were not going to be hooking up after.

He then spent the entire dinner trying to figure out what childhood trauma of mine caused me to be upset by his lateness. I reminded him that id told him multiple times not to therapize me, as I already pay someone to do that. (He was a therapist) and then claimed the death of my father was the cause, because I said that he had taught me early on that if youre on time youre late, if youre early youre on time. (Which is also something I told him after he was late again to our 3rd date. I gave this man too many chances I know lol)

All that to say... if something like being on time is important to you, and he cant respect or understand that, you have no reason to stick around for someone like that. NOR”

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That's more fireball than cake.

HAPPY (LATE) BIRTHDAY to these Old men. Plus time skip of dipper and mabel