#interesting perspective

Its still ableism to say that the symptoms and traits associated with NPD are inherently bad things. The only reason pwnpd struggle is because society is ableist and would rather stigmatise our traits instead of accommodating them and understanding our experiences. I know this is controversial but I think anybody who wants "recovery" really just wants to stop experiencing constant ableism.

If my "friends" hadn't decided that I talk about myself too much because they've been raised to think that talking about yourself is what bad people do, then they wouldn't ignore me and cause me to crash. If they understood that the ONLY THING that can make me feel better is having a supply, they wouldn't tell me to figure out coping strategies.

We shouldn't need to *cope* with narcissism or try to cure it to make ableists comfortable, we should be able to celebrate it and be proud of it!

"This is not to say that we should allow people to “get away with” harmful behaviour or force survivors to stay in relationships with abusers. Boundaries are a necessary part of love — setting boundaries is the way that we create the space to love ourselves and others at the same time. There is a difference between setting a boundary and containing harmful actions, even ones as harmful as abuse and violence, and punishing someone for the sake of vengeance. There is a difference between ending a relationship with an abusive person and demanding that the abusive person should be “disappeared” from society."

This article does a great job addressing a widespread issue within both the community and cancel culture more broadly. My workplace shared it with me for analysis, and I think many others could benefit from reading it.

Hill of Crosses

He said when he was a really young man that he didn't think he was cool, that he had to work really hard at it. He's talked more than once about knowing he's not the best singer or musician, and how he thinks about it, manages it personally and professionally. He almost constantly deflects questions that are superficially about how great or talented he is, and ends up answering with a focus on other people (often 'the fans'). He is always centring his mental health in interviews. Look how he was positioning Harry's House as an album he felt he would be happy with even if it didn't do well.

There's quite a lot of 'content' out there which people love - like the James Corden Daylight thing, the Brittany Broski 'interview' - where I see an anxious man going through the motions because he kind of has to. I could go on and on! (People ask why Harry and James are friends but it's obvious to me that James is a kind of safe space for Harry, since the start of 1D.)

All this to say, I don't know if the 1D members were told by management they wouldn't be any good solo: surely it's a given that a boy band will break up and people will try their hand at solo stuff? If I had to guess I'd say that Modest! would have loved to manage Harry alone. I don't know. Harry had Jeff around quite a bit from the middle of 1D, he had Harry Lambert later on, he was out there writing songs with as many people as he could. I think if anyone was telling him he'd be no good alone, it was certain other members of 1D. All supposition and no facts, sorry, but I'd lay money on Louis having a go at that in order to protect his own income stream.

Oh yeah, Louis would have given the other guys regular reminders that they failed their auditions as soloists and would be nothing without One Direction.