#hyposexual

Im not in any ways trying to be a bigot btw! I am myself a hypersexual asexual, im just genuinely curious about the terminology!

Hello!

Here's the thing, hyposexuality is a psychiatric term that I largely don't respect. It's not even a trauma-based diagnosis, so asexuality itself is often considered disordered under hyposexuality, not specifically trauma-based asexuality.

But asexuality caused by trauma is still asexuality. It's not become magically different because trauma is involved-Many people's sexualities involve/revolve around/are affected by their trauma, it doesn't mean their sexualities have to be named something entirely different to reflect that.

And sometimes people's sexualities change, with trauma and not-That doesn't just apply to asexuality. I think sexuality is confusing and that's fine. The idea we're all born with innate and unchangeable sexualities just isn't realistic.

It's like the "gender is fake but sex is real" type of explanations for trans people existing; it might work okay with a low-rank transphobe who's actually trying to understand but it's not really realistic to how actual people work.

We shouldn't try to separate certain queer people out as "irregular" so that homophobes and shit will find us more tolerable or so that our sexualities are less confusing to others. Like, I understand what you mean but that'd only make them more targeted and more isolated. And make the community less of a community.

This isn't to say people can't use the term. I'm just saying the term asexual works just fine, hyposexuality doesn't even specifically refer to that and y'know, live and let live.

Don't worry, though! I didn't at all assume you were trying to be an ass, I like thoughtful questions and it's always good to chat things out when they're confusing you so I'm glad to answer. I hope this makes sense! <3

guys is this too specific? 😋

I am not pure

Nor innocent

Nor am I self-controlled 

I am dirty

And guilty

First of all, it is horrifically outdated and queerphobic to imply that homosexuality is a disorder. This has been long debunked by psychology and science. Please do not say stuff like that.

Secondly, attractional disorders are disorders that affect attraction (sexual, romantic, or otherwise), and includes hyper-, hypo-*, and paraphilic disorders.

*Note: There is a real issue with doctors misdiagnosing asexual/greysexual people as hyposexual in order to discriminate against them and attempt to "fix" them.

(TWs in tags, but just in case: Sex mention, CSA mention, trauma mention, SA mention, mentions of hyposexual microaggressions)

Shout-out to all of us who get left out of conversations surrounding PTSD accommodation.

Shout-out to everyone who is told to manage their triggers despite rarely receiving warnings for sexual content.

Shout-out to anyone who is affected by random sexual content from accounts they don't follow appearing on their dash, especially those which tie into their specific traumatic experiences.

Shout-out to those of us who have been in therapy for our trauma for years, yet still get treated as though we aren't working hard enough to "grow out" of our difficulties surrounding sex.

Shout-out to those of us who have been on the road to recovery long enough that we know we won't ever be fully "cured."

Shout-out to people who have lost relationships and marriages due to being hyposexual.