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#aromantic education <- education on aromantism!

#trans education <- education on trans-related things!

#intersex education <- education on intersex-related things!

#hormone education <- education on hormones/HRT

#sex work education <- education on sex work!

#kink education <- education on kink!

#consent 101 <- education on consent!

#disability education <- education on disability-specific sex ED!

Because of transmisogyny.

There are plenty of cis women and other people who experience periods without bleeding but transfem periods in particular are pushed as "just symptoms" or "side effects" of estrogen or even just imagined and its absolutely fucked.

Yeah, that can happen sometimes. Unless the pain gets extreme or you're experiencing other strange symptoms, it's probably okay.

Sometimes you'll have a period with very little to no blood (as in, you experience the 'symptoms' of a period, just without the blood); this can happen for several reasons.

Sometimes your body didn't release an egg, which is what encourages bleeding. Without it, you can still experience a period but you're unlikely to bleed.

It can also be stress, weird hormone stuff, birth control, pregnancy, there are a lot of options. But the point is that it definitely just happens sometimes and its okay.

If it starts happening consistently, you might want to check in with a doctor if you have access but just as something happening once or once every blue moon, it's not a dangerous sign or anything like that.

Ngl, I don't know a lot about names of kinks but that sounds like something in the arena of power exchange. I can't get anymore specific than that though.

Coercive! So, it's "(coercively) assigned gender at birth".

It just sounds like you have a kink, Anon. You're not hurting anyone by having specific sexual interests.

I've seen some trans people say that in order to be trans you need to have dysphoria (in whatever way that presents), and whilst I agree with this I've also seen others say that you don't need dysphoria at all to be trans. I think my confusion comes from why some people would identify with a different gender or sex if they didn't feel any dysphoria at all, but I also feel like some of these people don't really seem to understand the whole spectrum of dysphoria, and that it isn't just constantly feeling suicidal but it can be something as simple as 'I would rather be referred to as he because being called she makes me feel uncomfortable'. I've seen people say you just need gender euphoria but I think that you can't have euphoria without dysphoria, they're two sides of the same coin and one can't exist without the other.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, would my view on this make me a transmedicalist? I don't believe in the other statements that align with being a transmed, but I also feel like I can't agree with the 'you don't need dysphoria to be trans' statement because it feels like at that point it makes it seem like being trans is a choice since I don't see why someone would choose to transition if they were fine as they were in the first place.

Again I'm really sorry if this comes off as rude, I'd just like to understand as much as possible and would appreciate any insight you or other people could give me 🙏

Thinking that there is a requirement to being transgender beyond being/wanting to be another gender than you were assigned is kind of automatically transmedicalist shit.

It's not a medical diagnosis, there is no specific "criteria" you must meet to be transgender besides fitting the definition/identifying with it.

I completely understand where you're coming from on people misunderstanding how dysphoria works. It is much more complicated than just feeling suicidal or something like that and a lot of people are pressured out of recognizing their dysphoria as it is.

But I think you're also misunderstanding euphoria. The idea you must have been feeling bad or uncomfortable before in order to feel great happiness/joy isn't how it works! It's also a whole spectrum.

Sometimes I'm happy hanging with my friends and they say some shit that abruptly makes me super happy. It doesn't mean I was sad or uncomfortable before; it just means there are infinite shades of happiness and some things can make you abruptly happier or just generally happier.

I think you've created, like, an alternate meaning for gender euphoria in your head but its just a feeling of happiness or joy related to your gender, Anon.

You don't have to have been feeling sad or uncomfortable in your gender to suddenly feel happier about it or happy generally; sometimes people are completely neutral to their gender or happy in it but find something that makes them happy/ier! That's all.

The thing is, "requiring" things to make someone trans besides fitting the definition of "wanting/being a different gender than you were assigned at birth" is kinda one of the key components of being a transmedicalist.

Because it's transphobic and treats being trans like some sort of medical diagnosis you have to meet the criteria of as opposed to just a gender label that describes your relation to your (c)agab.

You don't want it to seem like being trans is a choice but the thing is, there's nothing wrong with that.

There's nothing wrong with being trans. It's okay if someone chooses to change their gender for no reason other than it makes them happier even if they were "fine" in the first place. Some people just want to be happier or have fun or do things that bring them joy.

There's nothing wrong with someone choosing to be trans because there's nothing wrong with BEING trans. No, not everyone chooses to be trans but some people do and there's nothing wrong with that either.

It doesn't hurt anyone. The only people who really give a fuck about it are transphobes and their opinion shouldn't have any place in the conversation.

It's just a different experience and you don't really get to decide other people's experiences just "don't count" because of a definition of transgender made by people who explicitly hated us.

Also, is it possible to diy a sex toy? I can't get one due to my age.

No apologies needed! I don't mind resends at all, I miss questions sometimes and also just take awhile, so it doesn't bother me.

As for how far you "should" be able to go into your vagina, it really depends. The thing is, often the vagina is meant to stretch!

So as you relax and/or slowly stretch the muscles, you can go further. But also, some vaginas are small (there are vaginas without any depth at all) and you often have to angle yourself when you're trying to put something into your vagina!

Which means trying different angles and listening to your body when you feel pain and maybe trying a different angle, speed or simply stopping.

So there's not a specific amount you "should" be able to go in exactly, it depends on your body and what angle you're trying!

As for your mom, I don't know tbh because I don't know your mom or why you want an ultrasound but you could just tell her you want to see a obg/yn to get checked out and then talk to the doctor there about an ultrasound if that's what you want.

Or you could explain why you want an ultrasound to your mom, whichever works best for you.

You can. It might not work very well because spit isn't a lubricant and will dry up very quickly but you can use it.

Just keep in mind your mouth has germs in it and if it causes discomfort (you don't enjoy) or pain (you don't enjoy), you might wanna stop.

... will i be fine if i dont wait a week ? If i'm having protected sex, that is

Okay, so, the risks of having sex before the recommended wait time is over (which is usually 1-2 weeks for chlamydia) are primarily reinfection (which is admittedly less of an issue as long as you're using protection for any type of sex, from oral to penetrative, etc) and aggravating your infection before it's completely gone.

Especially depending on how bad your infection was, having sex can worsen any symptoms you're experiencing or fuck up your healing.

Or, for example, if you didn't take all of your antibiotics or took them irregularly, it can simply mean your infection doesn't go away or takes longer to go away, which can also put you at risk of reinfection/worsened symptoms.

Its not a guarantee or anything like that but its definitely a possibility to keep in mind. If you want to do it, you're at less high of a risk for reinfection with protected sex but you can worsen your current infection.

Hello!

Not particularly. Of course, if the person hasn't cleaned up, especially around the anus, germs can annoy the vulva if you have one.

Well, the thing is that even if you're having anal sex, specifically unprotected, semen can still get out of your anus and into the vagina, which is what puts you at risk.

Semen doesn't stay put. Its a liquid. It slowly moves out afterwards and sometimes when people ejaculate, they pull out partially, which can also get on/near the vulva! Because semen is a liquid and moves.

So yeah, its not as big a risk as having unprotected vaginal sex but its still a possibility. It was just kind of a myth that having unprotected anal sex was completely safe in terms of pregnancy.