#hyposexuality

(TWs in tags, but just in case: Sex mention, CSA mention, trauma mention, SA mention, mentions of hyposexual microaggressions)

Shout-out to all of us who get left out of conversations surrounding PTSD accommodation.

Shout-out to everyone who is told to manage their triggers despite rarely receiving warnings for sexual content.

Shout-out to anyone who is affected by random sexual content from accounts they don't follow appearing on their dash, especially those which tie into their specific traumatic experiences.

Shout-out to those of us who have been in therapy for our trauma for years, yet still get treated as though we aren't working hard enough to "grow out" of our difficulties surrounding sex.

Shout-out to those of us who have been on the road to recovery long enough that we know we won't ever be fully "cured."

Shout-out to people who have lost relationships and marriages due to being hyposexual.

So first, let’s remember that lack of attraction doesn’t mean lack of desire. Not every asexual is sex-repulsed.

Hyposexuality is generally described as a lack of desire. So if you still like and have sex but don’t really feel sexually attracted to anyone? Congrats, that’s being ace.

But, that being said, some of ace folk are sex-repulsed. Now how do we tell the difference?

Unfortunately, it’s still a little hard to sift out. Generally, the difference should be that the lack of libido is distressing to the person, but this is a problematic line to draw as in an acephobic society, people may become distressed because they don’t know that ace is even a thing. LGBT+ activists have pointed out this problem numerous times.

It’s easier to tell when the lack of libido is sudden, when previously you experienced it, and now you’re upset that it’s gone. This also makes it easier to treat because the cause is easier to find.

But some people are just sex-repulsed, regardless of if they’re ace or not, and are fine that way. 

The problem is that we see hyposexuality as requiring treatment because we live in such a society that sees sexuality as necessary, when it’s not. Similar to how autistics are seen as needing to be cured, when we're just different, not deficient - or really, a lot of ways one can be neurodivergent or disabled. 

People with hyposexuality, sex-repulsion, etc, need to know it’s okay for us to feel this way and we don’t need a cure if we don’t desire one. This is where the “distress” thing comes into play again, problematic though it can be - but if someone appears to be fine as they are, then diagnosis isn’t needed and definitely treatment isn’t.

ADHD can make someone either hyposexual (likelier with inattentive symptoms) or hypersexual (likelier with hyperactive-impulsive symptoms). 

Hyposexuality can be mistaken for asexuality. 

the opposite of asexual is allosexual

Hyper/hypo-sexuality is dependent on libido

A/allo-sexuality is dependent on attraction

I see hypersexual used as the opposite to asexual a lot, which it isn't. ​you could be hypersexual and asexual or hyposexual and allosexual, cos those lables reference different parts of your sexuality