#genderproblems

I'm genderfluid but I have very serious problems with being perceived as female. Male is okay, enby preferred, but female makes me just so fucking dysphoric, I can't embrace it at all. And it fucking sucks.

#MeToo If all the people who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.... If we were to get down to detailing when and where, it would be an endless list. Even the close relatives haven’t spared us! Cousin, uncle ...and then you see them being happily married and having children, daughters too, and marrying off their daughters and becoming granddad, of grand daughters! And you wonder ... #sexualharrassment #metoo #sexualassault #women #men #genderproblems

I’m not afraid of answering these questions but do remember that this is my own answers and I’m not a professional in gender 💗💫 !!! So if you do continue being curious and ask me questions just remember this is my experience and my views on the matter 🌷💐🎉 thank you!!

Liam

A harmless topic, but I didn’t realize until recently how gender conforming bathrooms are and how difficult that can be for some people. As someone who is cisgender, expresses mainly feminine traits, and doesn’t outwardly portray a nonconforming sexual orientation, I have never had to think about going to the bathroom. But for transgenders, people who are androgynous, people who are agender, people who are non-binary, etc. this can be an agonizing situation; having to think about where you’re going to relieve yourself, that’s a new low. And I realized this problem specifically as I was watching a tedtalks video on YouTube about gender. I thought about how bathrooms are not labeled in most houses: they are “uni-sex” for all guests. Guests are supposed to always feel welcome and, for instance, in my house they certainly never have to feel uncomfortable in either bathroom. Now granted, we have a “pink” and “green” bathroom, which is based on the color coordinated rugs and towels in the rooms, but those were the colors available when we bought them, they’re not gender specific. I’ll tell a guy he can use the pink bathroom as often as I’ll tell a girl she can use the pink bathroom because it is the nicer bathroom: it’s more spacious, it smells better, and it’s cleaner. We need to spread this awareness more. Although I like to believe I was raised to be accepting of everyone regardless of gender, identity, and orientation, I’ll admit, I’m still learning. (This happened recently) I can specifically remember once in the women’s restroom at my school, an androgynous individual walked in and gave me a start. Granted, this was, I believe, the same week I had walked into the guy’s bathroom at an audition and I was still embarrassed by it. But I think of how usted must have felt to my reaction, it must have hurt. Luckily I didn’t ask usted if usted was in the “right bathroom” or anything, but subtle nonverbal actions can hurt just as much. I’m apologizing to any individual who has experienced this type of reaction or worse from cisgenders and heteronormative people. Also, since English doesn't have a singular third person neutral pronoun, I use the Spanish one "usted" instead because it is still grammatically correct, just a different language.