I can vividly remember being in Reception (I think this would class as kindergarten level in the US; pre-compulsory education for 4-5 years old, but held in school and treated as the first year/grade). We were singing "Old MacDonald" and I couldn't understand why we were being taught "Oink oink", which was nothing like a pig, but *snort* *snort*. It made some of the other kids laugh. The teacher eventually made me sit at the front. I thought this was because I was doing it right. I don't have any vivid memory of being told I was doing it wrong, but it eventually occurred to me I wasn't actually being brought to the front for doing it perfectly.
I don't actually know if this is an experience as a result of my autism. It wasn't explicitly traumatic. But I definitely have a lot of memories of having no idea I was doing things wrong. In my eyes, everyone else was doing it wrong (for blindly following "oink oink"). It seems to be at that crossroads of the autistic need to be accurate/not understanding social cues or social rules/not being explicitly told a rule. And also an element of, in my opinion, the education system not telling us what is right, but merely requiring that we conform without finding out for ourselves.
