#frayrose

Only aspec people can ship aspec characters until you allos learn to behave

aphobes don’t have coherent views on the ace or aro spectrums, they just don’t believe any of it sadly. demirose and frayrose people are very valid!!

for those who may not know:

demirose- being both demiromantic and demisexual, which means they don’t experience romantic or sexual attraction to someone until a strong emotional bond is formed

frayrose- being both frayromantic and fraysexual, which means their romantic and sexual attraction will fade once an emotional bond is formed

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Ft. Aloeian/nullic/x loving none with...

Aspen lesbian × two spirit × frayrose

Aspec × lesbian × he/him lesbian

Gay × lith/akoisexual × aroace

PT: Igcecidimus /end PT

Igcecidimus: a combination of fraysexual/romantic and demisexual/romantic, which means one has an immediate attraction to a person when one first meets them, but the attraction starts to fade away as one gets to know them, but the attraction comes back as one gets to know them even more.

Similar to autresexual, a sexual orientation in which one is partially demisexual and partially fraysexual at the same time.

I'm 30 yo and have never been in love or had sex. I've only had a couple of crushes (on men and women) but they were fleeting, almost on a surface level. I'd feel attracted to their looks but not in a sexual way, to their intelligence, their charisma, the way they knew and loved themselves, their kindness, etc. I loved some of them, though not romantically (at least I don't think it was). I think there were a few times in my life when I actually felt a sort of physical/sexual attraction for someone but it didn't last long enough for me to want to act on it. In the last few years I've started feeling like I want to have sex, to experience it, which was weird because I didn't think my libido existed lol but I guess it's called arousal? But I definitely don't want to actually have sex, I find it a bit disgusting really (like even if I tried I couldn't stand anyone touching me; thinking of the sweat, saliva, and other fluids involved definitely kills my interest). I wish to find a companion, someone to love and who loves me back, someone I can share my life with, someone to walk this world with, someone that feels like home for my soul, but when I picture it I don't know if one could describe it as romantic love, but I don't know.

I hope I was clear, english is not my 1st language and sometimes I struggle with vocabulary. Thank you for reading 😊

hi! you can always just use aroace if you wanted, but here are some labels i’ve found that sound like what source described, i recommend reading about any of these further that sound good!

aesthetic attraction- feeling attracted to someone’s looks without any romantic or sexual attraction involved

orchidsexual/romantic- feeling romantic/ sexual attraction but no desire to act on it

greysexual/romantic- feeling romantic/ sexual attraction rarely/ less often than usual

demisexual/romantic- only feeling attraction to someone once an emotional bond is formed

fraysexual/romantic- only feeling attraction until an emotional bond is formed

what about grayspecs? for example i'm frayrose and cishet and i don't feel super queer. i get crushes on the opposite gender and i don't feel like i fit in w queer people because i am cishet. i feel sexual and romantic attraction. that is the definition of non-queer, right?

i want to be queer. but am i?

how is there logic there?

arospec and acespec people are queer because they do not feel conventional attraction towards people, not just the opposite gender. since you are frayromantic and fraysexual, that would be considered non conventional attraction, since that attraction disappears when you get to know a person.