Being AroAce and having aesthetic attraction is funny sometimes. I think a lot of people are attractive but I donāt want to do anything about that information.
aesthetic attraction can be super weird sometimes

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Being AroAce and having aesthetic attraction is funny sometimes. I think a lot of people are attractive but I donāt want to do anything about that information.
aesthetic attraction can be super weird sometimes

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For ace asks: Is it possible for an aroace to want to be in a relationship thats more than just āvery close friendsā? Iām not sure I understand the difference between romance and the kind of bond you have between yourself and someone you consider someone to be more than a āclose friendā
If youāre aroace and you want it, thereās your answer! Although labels can help to a certain extent, I think there are times matching our emotions to labels can be confusing. We might not have the language to explain how we feel or what we want.
Relationships are a spectrum and thereās more than just āclose friendsā and āromantic partnerā. We have some labels for things like āqueerplatonic relationshipā but even then, theres an entire color wheel of relationships out there. Focus on what makes you happy, not trying to define your relationships to a society that wasnt even made to fit us.
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Have you come out to anyone? If so, how did you tell them? How did they react?
I have come out to 3 people. Since it's a low number, I can count all 3 stories, I guess.
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The first one was unexpected, in february this year. I was sure about being ace for a long time, about being aro for 1 or 2 weeks. One friend of mine, that lots of times asks me random questions, asked me what my sexuality is (by message). I was sure about it and thought I was ready to come out. (also I probably said how that ask was innapropriate, but I wasn't surprised bc he does that stuff often). Also he is one of my closest friends, so why not?
He said something like "You'll find the right person" and "You probably felt a crush but haven't realized that". That was the moment when I realized that no, I wasn't really ready to come out. I didn't have the energy to explain better. So the conversation died and we never touched that stuff again (after that I thought that I could have argumented with something likeĀ āyou havenāt found the right guyā, but I couldnāt bring that conversation up again)
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The second one was also a surprise. But a good one. This is a really wholesome story, that happened somewhere between February and March.
So, I was in a choir class (I have music classes outside of school) and the person that was by my side was showing me memes. When they were scrolling on the gallery, I saw a rainbow flag, so I said something likeĀ āsameā (I was talking more about seeing queer memes than being queer, but both are true). They asked meĀ āwhat letter?ā. Although we arenāt that close, they were obviously queer, so I saidĀ āAā. They saidĀ āme too!ā. So I came out as aroace and they came out as ace and nonbinary, and that was so cool! After that, they showed me ace memes! Itās so nice! For now theyāre the only ace person I know. I donāt know any aro irl (at least for now).
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The third one was to my closest friend, the one I really, really wanted to come out to, but I thought too much about it since there would be a chance of her reacting badly.
Weāre in different classes, so it wasnāt easy to find each other. On a break between classes, we were together. She told me personal stuff that involved a good friend of hers coming out as trans. During that, I was thinkingĀ āthis is my chance! Iāll do it now! Or is itinnapropriate?ā. After she told me that stuff, I didnāt know how to react (because it was something very surreal and dramatic tbh). But whatever, I came out. And she said,Ā āI know you since 10th grade!ā (so for 2 years, basically), as a way to sayĀ āIt was so obvious, I knew that all along!ā. She was so chill about it, I was relieved. In May I showed her photos of pride pins I made. Sheās basically the only person I can show pride stuff to.
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I wanted to come out in person to the rest of my friends, they would be so cool about it, but itās not easy to put that stuff in the middle of a conversation, itās not that relevant, and quarantine happening made all that stuff complicated. We hung out sometimes, but now we arenāt that much together. I assume some of them already know, because I was so obvious.
Wow, this is such a big text! (Iām compensating nanowrimo that Iām not doing XD (jk))
Anyway, if you did read this far, thanks for asking!Ā
hey, aro and/or ace people
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I remember as a kid getting annoyed that there were so many love and breakup and lust songs out there, and turning to my mother one day and asking why was that the only thing the singers ever talked about, and if they couldn't sing about other things, like cars. My mother told me I was just too young to understand, but tbh, I think I should have realized then I was aroace lol
it is true that there are a lot of songs about romance though!

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My mom is approaching 70 and is in what I can only describe as a Queer Platonic Relationship. My whole life my mom has been ambivalent about romance, and I suspect that if she were young today sheād describe herself as aro. She and my dad were happily married before he passed away, but even so, I donāt really have memories of them being over romantic. Their friends and and family didnāt believe them at first when they announced their marriage (when she was 36!) bc they ādidnāt act like a coupleā. They worked well as partners and both wanted kids, but there was always something different about their relationship compared to the relationships of my friendsā parents. Since my dadās death she has shown zero interest in getting remarried and has been happily single for more than a decade.
My mom has an incredibly full life. Sheās got lots of friends of all ages, fulfilling hobbies, and a shitty little dog that she loves to pieces. I never worry about her being bored and lonely.
She has this neighbor in her apartment building. They help each other out the way couples do with tasks like grocery shopping, attending family events together, and they co parent the shitty little dog, but she swears up and down that thereās nothing romantic between them. They help each other with medication, hospital visits, and navigating the scary changes of getting old together. She and my grandpa used to argue about her getting remarried to this neighbor bc he didnāt want her to be ālonelyā. My mom insisted that sheās not lonely and the relationship was not romantic. Thereās love and companionship, but itās ānot like thatā.
Back when I started to show interest in dating as a teen my mom was so confused. āYou actually want to go on dates? My mom used to force me to date and I hated it.ā When I came out as gay as an adult she was like āThatās cool. I still donāt get why you wanna date people.ā
My dad once told me a story about how early in their marriage, my mom once accidentally ādatedā a different man without realizing that he was taking her out on dates. From her perspective she just was having fun outings with a friend. When the guy ācame cleanā and told my dad āIām dating your wifeā he just laughed because my mom had been excitedly telling him all about their ādatesā. She missed every single clue that this guy had been laying down for her that he was interested. āHe invited me to have breakfast on his boat! Iām so excited for the birdwatching that time of day!ā (My mom also might be a little autistic but thatās neither here nor there). She just is not a romantically inclined thinker.
I love my mom very much and Iām so lucky to have her as a role model. Sheās taught me that happiness is extremely versatile. You donāt have to follow a traditional set route for a complete life with meaningful relationships. Romance is a social construct as much as anything, and you are free to engage with it on your own terms. Donāt be afraid to live and love the way you want to. Your life will be fuller and happier for it.
Iām so happy youāve had a positive experience, and your mum sounds lovely!
dude I used to think I had crushes every time I thought someone looked good cuz I had no idea that romantic attraction was more than just thinking they look good (aka aesthetic attraction)
aesthetic attraction: confusing aspecs since the beginning of time
aroace experience is when youre first getting introduced to LGBT you assume youre bi first because you think having "potential" attraction to everyone means youre bi but actually the "potential" attraction is just attraction you dont have and youre aroace as fuck
the bi to aroace pipeline is real