#aro rant

Don't get me wrong—aphobia exist. I've encountered it in many instances both directly and indirectly, but in my experience, the topic of sex doesn't come up as often as romance. Maybe my immediate environment plays a part on it too but I find that generally, the topic of sex doesn't come up as often in day-to-day basis as romance does. The topic of sex is still seen as invasive and inappropriate to some degree—and while people shouldn't be afraid to talk about it or avoid it entirely, the taboo on that topic created a sense of boundary which makes it easier for me to navigate the world—and I could curate my online experience to exclude that topic for the most part. Explicit sexual content are NOT meant to be immediately visible or accessible online.

But romance? God that's EVERYWHERE. People turn everything into romance. People talk and inquire about romantic life with much less reservation than they do about sex. It's seen as less private because it doesn't necessarily entail the "gross" stuff sex does—even though people do make assumptions about it—so people have no qualms in prying about it—it's 'normal'. Prying about other people's romantic life is just casual curiosity. It doesn't make you a creep at all—thus makes it easier to receive hostilities if you even so much as to imply that you don't put that much importance on it in your life. The media makes everything about romance. Even stories that aren't about romance has romance on them—and even if they don't? People WILL find a way to make it into romance somehow. There's literally no way to block the topic of romantic love both online and in real life. How am I supposed to do that? Block every ship tag in every media I'm into? People don't tag romance the way they do with sexual stuff. People don't refrain themselves from talking about romance and if you imply that you'd rather not talk about it, you're a bitch somehow.

what if I actually find someone and I'm not aro

what if I was wrong and it was actually a phase

I'm 17 and I know I'm still very young but I've been doing things that weren't for my age since childhood, those experiences made me know myself better and obviously I'm the one who knows myself the best and I can say I'm no longer worried about the "what if".

I know I'm not going to fall in love with someone, I don't feel like I need another person to be happy, I don't crave a romantic relationship and I honestly never did

the idea is nice and I obviously don't shame allo people but still, that's just not me. the next time you tell someone "you will find someone", "you're too young to know", "you'll figure it out" just know that the chance that they might change overtime (since sexuality is as fluid as cats) doesn't mean you're right, it just means people change and that it might not even happen at all.

Allopls try not to assume every single aro is friendship obsessed maniac. Or that everyone has a best friend. No,no we fucking don't. Not everyone has someone that's willing to stay or just put them as a 1st choice.

Or any type of love. It doesn't matter. Some of us are aplatonic/afamiliar/loveless/etc.

Not everyone wants to/has spend their life with someone. No matter if they have the chance or not (some of us are unlikeable & don't have the nerves to bother w ppl when we know they're not gonna like us anyways no matter how we'll try or we just had enough of the treatment we received).

I said this like 400 times already but not everyone feels love & has the ppl 4 it.

This is like every post in the aro hashtag whenever I open the feed,it makes me mad. If I could block this shit,I would,but considering ppl don't tag their posts smth like alloplatonic or platonic favorable, I'd have to block the entire hashtag,which is no.

It pisses me off. & its not just these sentences,it can be anything w love or partnerships.

i can't tell if I'm on the arospec, autistic, traumatized, or all 3. Like I alr struggle w telling what's romantic, platonic, and whos just a fp (bpd moment). Like ughhh

I get butterflies once in a blue moon then just feel, numb. Idk. I want a relationship and live having one it's just. Huh.

Like idk what's the difference between being really REALLY good friends or liking someone. Like the idea of kissing, cuddling, doing things together sounds great but idk. Tbh I don't wanna marry people but also I want to? Like I think it's js for the label to call someone my "wife" bc actual marriage seems too stressful

Like QPRs sound cool but idk how it works. It sounds appealing but I can't tell when I keep feeling romance or just really really like someone. I don't wanne be on the arospec bc I want to love I just. Can't tell.

Thing is it's not even like I feel 0 romance like one and a while I get those "butterflies" and happiness but lately it's just been. Wegh.

Maybe that's why I'm disinterested in romance and just go "ok cool" to every LEGAL AND NON TOXIC ship. And why I can't write romance