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No matter how injured. If a parent doesn't deem it necessary to see a doctor, it doesn't happen. Teachers can suggest a doctor visit, but unless it's a very acute injury (and even then), it's ultimately up to the parents.

You can be 13. Twisted, maybe broken ankle. You teacher lets you sit out in PE. She's concerned, and tells you to rest when you go home, and see a doctor. You get home, ur parents fill a bath and add some Epsom salts, and then laugh at you for using it moms old colorguard stick as a cane. Take some ibuprofen they say. It's just a little sprain, ur a kid.

You go to school the next day, go to ur office assistant time. Office calls ur mom to come get you, because you're clearly in too much pain for school. Your mom laughs when she gets you, says you just were so determined not to miss school. Scolds you for making the office ladies worry.

You never see a doctor for the injury.

Your parents come into the exam room at every visit. This does not stop with age, except for gynecologist. But your parents are on the medical release forms. They fill them out for you, with you. You do not get to take them off.

You never get to tell s doctor about the ankle. Even though it never quote healed right, and it hurts every day.

Then your 18. In college. Still on your parents insurance, and have no car. The on campus clinic only does std testing. You fall down some stairs. Same injury. You call your parents, crying from the pain. You are using a mop as a cane. They console you and say to have a bath, take some meds, and let them know how it feels in a few days. You end up borrowing your roommates rolling chair to get around for the weekend.

By Monday, you can walk again. You walk miles to class every day. You ask to see a doctor, but your parents won't drive the hour to come take you, and you don't have the insurance card. You are still at their mercy for medical care. The ankle tries to heal again. This time worse than before. The tendons click with every step.

Now you're in your twenties. Finally have your own healthcare. You see a doctor. You get to mention the ankle! They say it's been too long to really even know what was damaged. That you have arthritis now. It healed wrong but it can no longer be fixed.

ironically its in a book about female sex anatomy that ive come across it (Vagina Obscura by Rachel E. Gross). everyone only wants to focus on the secondary sex characteristics and not the bazillion other functions of estrogen, testosterone, and co.

uses both of them!! for a

million reasons!!!!! aaaaaa!!!!!!!

At minimum about 4.5 thousand people liked this without reblogging it.

Progress.

3 Toronto cops flashed their badges after assaulting a woman in Barcelona

7 Toronto cops were charged with corruption, including leaking info to organized crime, planning murder, etc

Kink exists because people find taboo or unorthodox situations erotic and/or stimulating to experience in their imagination but would otherwise be disgusted or traumatized if it were to be real. BDSM facilitates a safe way to play out these situations just like a theatrical play.

Pet play is not bestiality. All parties are human adults. Perhaps they are wearing leather or some sort of costume. That does not diminish the fact that they are irrevocably human.

Ageplay is not pedophilia. All parties involved are adults. They may be pretending to be younger than they are but they still are an adult and have the agency of an adult. They may be an adult in a diaper. Still an adult.

Consensual non consent (cnc) is not rape by definition. All parties agree upon the scenario of play and the safe word(s) they will be using beforehand. All parties are willing participants that are consenting and want to engage in the play. Aftercare is especially essential with cnc because dominant partner(s) can feel like they actually are a rapist - when in reality all parties consented and enjoyed the play otherwise they would have safeworded.

Kinksters attend workshops and seminars to ensure that their practices are the safest they can be for the type of play they are engaging in. They openly communicate with their partner(s) in order to make every experience the best for all parties. Of course there is no type of play that is without any sort of risk (it may bring up buried trauma you weren't aware of, one wrong placement of a cane and you might need to visit the ER, etc) but you cannot assume that every kinkster and BDSM practitioner engaging in "fringe" kinks is into those acts in reality outside play. People that abuse the BDSM space by participating in unethical practices are not welcome.

Disgust is not equal to morality. You can be disgusted by things and not personally partake in things without ascribing morality to it.

Murder, rape, pedophilia, and bestiality are unethical and immoral because they hurt people and animals. Murder in real life is a horrific, harrowing act that ripples through the lives of so many. Murder in fiction is just another interesting puzzle for Poirot to solve.

There aren't any crimes happening when adults play make believe. Thought crimes aren't real and you can't tell what beliefs someone subscribes to just because they're into a kink you would never touch with a ten foot pole.

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I haven’t pissed people off lately by reminding them that ALL types of physical punishment of kids has been proven beyond ANY reasonable doubt to have only negative long term outcomes.

So let me scream it from the hilltops:

Stop hitting kids. End of sentence.

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For example, being exposed to corporal punishment as a kid makes it more likely for a person to commit domestic violence against a partner. In places where corporal punishment is normal, people are more likely to think that rape and intimate partner violence are normal. Kids who are spanked are more likely to be violent with and to bully other kids.

Spanking is literally teaching a kid that violence is okay and normal and it affects the whole society.

And this forces you to decide whether your autonomy matters to you more than the approval of the group - while they'll still act like you're on thin ice either way, if you give in at this point they know you're theirs forever, because now they've established a foothold, you've shown a moral weakness, which they will brand you with so it can be used against you in the future ("hey RICE-addict here doesn't want help break into the city records office") to force you to double-down and isolate you further.

sexism is immature

and bad anyways

By (not so) popular demand, my hate mail!

Heads up, I will be answering this one, as I feel I need to adress it.

Genuinely as afab who's been victimized both when I was presenting fem and pass for male, y'all are doing too much. I wouldn't be sending my supporters to attack the supporters of my alleged assaulter and it's wild to me that shubble still can't control her audience.

You guys look pathetic and you're being hypocritical, "you don't have to be ride or die" nether do you and yet here you are doing exactly that.

You're not better than us just because you're on the other side, your streamer isn't automatically right just because she says so, it's not misogynistic to disagree with a woman and the more y'all push that dispite Wilbur's audience being mostly women because you can't get over your own abuse trauma and are projecting the behaviors of your own abusers on him is the more you do a disservice to yourself.