i want to emphasize this, anyone transfem or otherwise tma will get less respect in lgbt spaces and this goes even more so if they dont present as femininely, or god forbid if presenting masculine. i experienced this firsthand. there are points in my transition where i was still boymoding, where i was trying to be feminine and various stages of doing this better as i got used to it, and times when i did not want to shave or dress fem or anything so i didnt. there was a time i identified as nonbinary and then started identifying as a woman. throughout all of this, i was treated worse than my tme peers. this includes my transmasc friends who still presented femininely, who although by wider society would be observed as women, in these lgbt spaces (even those trans focused) they would have their identity respected. i cannot say the same for me.
they werent treated lesser, i was. they werent questioned on their identity, i was. they werent degendered constantly, i was.
the difference was like night and day no matter what i did.
the reason you do not see 'subversive' trans women as often like you do trans men, those trans men who are happy still wearing dresses and having breasts and wearing makeup, is because if a trans woman tries to do this same thing she will lose what little clearance she is given to a feminine identity. trans women often do not get to be gender nonconforming because the very notion of there being men who would choose to become women is already too radical for society
