Aaaand this is your friendly reminder that it's perfectly okay to disengage from media that isn't working for you. Criticism is a completely valid response to art. It always has been, and it always will be. What I struggle with, though, is how comfortable some people have become using the internet as an excuse to abandon basic social etiquette.
There's a reason online discourse and offline discourse often feel so different. And I think a lot of people blur that distinction in ways that end up excusing some genuinely awful behavior.
The people you're talking to online are still people.
They have their own experiences, perspectives, biases, and histories that shape how they engage with artâjust like you do. You absolutely can engage in challenging conversations. In fact, I think it's often healthy to do so. But conversations are a two-way street. That's the one thing people seem to forget when they decide to jump into discourse.
If you're entering a conversation expecting others to listen to your perspective, engage with your points, and take your thoughts seriously, then you also have to extend that same courtesy to the person you're talking to. Otherwise, what's the point? And if that kind of engagement isn't something you're interested in, that's okay too.
Block. Mute. Disengage. Move on.
Curate your online experience however you need to. There are plenty of ways to have constructive conversations about media. Plenty of ways to discuss what isn't working for you, where you think something falls short, or why you disagree with a particular interpretation. But those conversations stop being productive the moment they become needlessly hostile. And fandom spaces thrive on discussion. They thrive on people bringing different perspectives to the table, because fandom has never been one thing.
It's the person who watches something after work and wanting to spend a little more time in that world. It's the person who wants to spend hours dissecting a character's motivations. It's the person who loves a story enough to criticize it because they want more from it. It's the person who's simply here to have a silly goofy time with something they happened to enjoy. All of those people belong here. That's THE entire point.
Fandom is a table with enough room for all kinds of engagement.
So if encountering a different opinion immediately makes you want to become cruel, hostile, or vicious, maybe that's a sign to step away from the conversation for a bit.
Log off. Take a walk. Do literally anything else.
And if nothing else, learn a little internet etiquette before deciding to take your frustration out on strangers. Because disagreement isn't the problem.
Treating people poorly because they disagree with you is.