I lived as a trans man for 10 years before detransitioning and reconnecting with myself as a woman and a lesbian.
I'm against transition because it's medically harmful, not because I have any hate towards trans people.
Gender ideology disproportionately affects lesbian and bisexual women and tomboys, and causes us to become divorced from our community of women and disconnected from feminism. This leaves us vulnerable to all forms of abuse as well as psychological and medical distress.
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not 2 be fake deep butâŚcapitalism commodifies everything, even the self. You think about your body as though you are outside of it. You assign a value to it based on how well it can help you move thru the world. I stand outside of myself saying âat least this body is still young, at least this face is still beautiful. These are things that will help me make it.â Your body becomes a thing. But the whole time your body has been you, and so you become a thing.
Not sure where Iâm going with this yet, itâs kind of a jumble⌠but I thought I would share some information about the history of sex changes in Iran, because I think it can be useful for radfems.
Iran is the 2nd leading country in the world for most sex changes. Why?
At most, I think western radfems have heard that âIran does forced sex changesâ, and thatâs the extent of what people know. So I wanted to dig a little farther in and get some more information about how this actually functions and the history of it.
First things first - theyâre not exactly âforcedâ. But young gender non-conforming and gay people are being diagnosed with GID and pressured into transition for the sake of conforming to a fascist society, and escaping the heavy discrimination and criminalization of homosexuality in the country.
Those who do identify as transgender are heavily pressured and potentially subject to violence if they choose not to undergo surgery. They are forced to have surgery in the specific case that they want to live legally as the opposite sex. The law is essentially - Pick a side. If youâre gay and donât choose to transition, or your partner doesnât choose to transition, you have no legal right to have sex or live your life with someone you love. This has been going on since the 1980s.
Something I find interesting is how obvious the pipeline from gay -> trans is in Iran. Mental health professionals in Iran appear to be diagnosing anyone who is having issues related to their gender nonconformity or orientation as transsexual. (Sound familiar?) And because homosexuality is illegal in Iran and can even be punished with the death sentence, itâs easy to see why the pressure to conform is so heavy.
The first link below talks about how this system reinforces homophobia, with some transitioning people actually having homophobic beliefs despite being homosexual themselves.
I donât know⌠I think people have this idea that Iran is such a different place with such strange laws and religion that dictates what people do - But itâs almost exactly the same as whatâs happening in western countries, just amplified under a more fascist system, and in a different language.
Now theyâre trying to profit from medical tourism for sex change operations. See the last link below. Theyâre flying Americans and others in from western countries, organizing the whole thing, and doing major surgery before shipping them right back, likely without competent local doctors to treat their inevitable complications. All while gay people are still being beaten, killed, and subjected to conversion shock therapy practically right outside the door.
I think people in the US right now have this idea that conservative governments will put a stop to transition. And that may be true when it comes to children, at least in parts of the country, but we can see in Iran that sex changes are not only something that can be permitted under a conservative or fascist government, but can even be endorsed by that government and religious leaders. Not to mention the surgeons who make bank off the procedures.
Sex change in Iran is seen as a better alternative rather than accepting openly gay and GNC people. The lives and wellbeing of the people theyâre âtreatingâ are secondary to their need for absolute conformity. I donât think Iâm out of line to say that we see similar things in western countries.
I think that one of the biggest difficulties for women detransitioning is how much it can impact your life, your livelihood, and the way youâre treated by society when you go from passing and conforming as male to being viewed as a very masculine female person. The level of discrimination that weâre faced with as gnc women, and especially as wlw, is less severe than in more fascist and homophobic countries, but that discrimination is still very much a factor. And for many of us, we experience way more discrimination and possible violence or harassment as masculine women than we did as transgender men. There are so many social forces that push conformity at any cost, even in countries which are relatively liberal and less homophobic.
I think itâs important for radical feminists to know this history because itâs an important case study. I think it can be used to explain this concept to people who arenât aware of how conservatism has led to trans ideology, and how that pipeline functions in individual people who transition even in the west.
How it became possible, what Islamic law says, and the statistics on surgeries.
Forced sex changes must stop now - Justice for Iran
Transgender rights in Iran - Wikipedia
The New York Times describes how Iran, already known for its large number of sex reassignment surgeries, is actively promoting itself as a
"ability" to be sexually assaulted is insane language.
this new notion of trans women being better at womanhood because they don't go through the fear and pessimism of living the reality of "womahood" in today's society.... is so... so misogynistic.
imagine looking in the eyes of one of those afghan girls who said they hate being a woman, or an exhausted mother, or a young girl being picked on by boys in school and saying this to them.
essentially, if you're not a toxicly positive bimbo who "enjoys" her womanhood despite all the violence & hatred she gets from society, you're doing the whole woman thing wrong.
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A significant portion of "transfems" are nothing more than just women-hating incels.
The thought process that goes behind believing a demographic that statistically does the least amount of harm is actually evil and deserves to be killed, while simultaneously holding nowhere near the same level of vitriol towards the demographic that actually murders and assaults "transfems" (which is OTHER MALES, mind you) should raise some brows, even amongst TRAs.
Also, notice how in many of these posts it isn't just "transmascs" but "tme" people in general, which includes "cis" women, y'know, the group these trans identified men claim to be the same as and share "kinship" with. They believe themselves to be superior to females because they are "trans" (aka MEN) while simultaneously claiming to be female. This is nothing new; males have been claiming that females are inferior for centuries, this is just the same thing in a different font.
I donât understand why they hate the trans mascs so much. Like I know itâs misogyny but I donât know the reason they claim to have such beef with their supposed âbrothersâ
sorry to add more examples but they actually REALLY hate trans mascs. They hate them beyond belief. this isn't even all of what i have seen, i randomly selected a few screenshots in the folder that i've been saving for a few weeks.
So the reason that they hate them is misogyny obviously, but also consider that these are the "afabs" that are closest and most accessible to them, the ones who bear the brunt of their abuse. It's like asking why amish men especially mistreat amish women. And I think what we need to be aware of is that ftms/transmascs deserve empathy and understanding in this situation. It simply won't work to attack or to ridicule their beliefs and identity, when they're already facing harassment from their own community. From everything we know about religions and cult dynamics, that will only entrench them further in their beliefs that feminists are the enemy.
I would suggest that radfems treat transmascs with respect and empathy. Or failing that, leave them alone. They have a huge mental and social block when it comes to speaking with "suppressive persons" aka radfems... I know it's frustrating to watch, but this situation is growing unsustainable for many of them, so it's likely that many of them will reach these conclusions on their own, in their own way and in their own time. The best thing we can do is provide acceptance, solidarity, and support when they get there.
i will always have an endless amount of love and empathy for transmascs because i've been exactly where they are. i left the community before the tme/tma shit started but the violence aimed at trans men by trans women has always existed.
it was this violence that i could never fully agree with. i realized that they treat transmascs the same way they treat radfems. i realized that, despite their insistence to the contrary, we were still women to them. swapping the terms they used (from "transmasc" to "terf") revealed an identical rhetoric of hate.
and then i experienced the horror of knowing that i played right into their hand. that i was not only agreeing with their misogyny, but i was actively praising and promoting it. i played a part in normalizing the rhetoric that has hurt my fellow women so badly.
i think this realization keeps a lot of people trapped in the community. acknowledging reality means acknowledging the hurt you've caused yourself and others. it means swallowing your pride and accepting that you fell to manipulation and propaganda.
"i would never be stupid enough to join a cult," says everybody on earth.
They hate transmascs and wlw more than any other group of people because we have what they never will:
A female body and the ability to date female lesbians.
They canât stand the fact that weâre able to live the life and date the women that they fetishize but will never have access to.
Theyâre insanely, irrationally jealous. Thatâs why they lash out, talk shit, call us names. And itâs also what makes at least some of them physically dangerous to transmasc people.
Trans is used like 'not identifying with their sex' ('assigned gender at birth') and cis is used like 'identifying with their sex' but for me it's just like fake and real. You can't 'identify' with your sex like you can't identify with the rest of your body. You might feel disconnected or distressed because of some body parts but the body parts themselves aren't the problem. The disconnection/distress is.
Sex doesn't determine interests, hobbies, emotions or thoughts either. Sex isn't part of personality but it can affect personality like developing the fear of men because of bad experiences or getting conditioned into certain stereotypes but those personality changes/traits aren't triggered by biology, they're triggered by trauma and social expectations
I think that plays a big role for gender dysphoria but instead of saying stuff like 'you might feel disconnected to your breasts because you gained bad experiences because of them' they say 'it's because you're a man' and that's honestly sad and dangerous. It takes away the responsibility to protect girls and women from gaining bad experiences (because of their sex characteristics) and feeling bad, getting depressed or traumatized because of those experiences since 'they can identify as a man' instead
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someone else said it first but iâm forever revolted by the fact that gender clinics and other parts of our medical system define a âfunctionalâ vagina as any hole between the legs that a penis can be put in.
This is how society views female genitalia. They don't quite view it as a human organ in all the integrity that would insinuate. They view it kinda like an accessory to dick. It's defined in relation to dick- not defined by its own self. It's viewed as like a negative space juxtaposed to a positive object (dick). It's viewed as like the background to the main character (dick). It's not seen fully as its own thing with its own functions for its own right and its own integrity. Because of this, something interesting happens with the way people view women- we are seen both as sex objects, and as sexless objects simultaneously. This is the heart of why women aren't seen as fully human, in my opinion. Part of being human is having genitalia. Women aren't fully seen as having genitalia.
Anyway. This is why, in people's mind, it makes sense to cut a random hole and say what? It's exactly the same as a vagina what's the difference?
'Patriarchy does not select who to oppress based on how we feel, behave or identify ourselves. We are oppressed based on the sex you can see on that sonogram. Beginning with that sonogram, females are designated as subhuman, belonging to the class to be exploited. Once born, we are educated on how to be âfeminineâ (that is gender), to ensure our submission. We are not oppressed because we are feminine, we are feminine because we are oppressed.'
the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.
btw this is maybe the single most key distinguishing feature of the terfy strains of radical feminism, the seed all the rest of it springs out of: they have absolutely no faith in the ability of feminism to actually destroy patriarchy. they do not think feminism can truly build a better world. they cannot really even imagine that possibility. they think patriarchy is an inevitable natural consequence of unchangeable biological facts, and therefore the goal of feminism can only be to mitigate the worst effects of patriarchy, not to get rid of it.
they can imagine a society where women get some designated safe spaces without men around. they cannot imagine a society where the presence of men is not inherently a danger to women.
We want safe spaces bc men, yes, are conditioned and raised not to respect women's autonomy. (and the Trans Cult continues to prove that, too)
We want safe spaces bc we had to fucking fight for them in the first place.
We want safe spaces bc we DO live in a patriarchy.
If this was a matriarchy, let's be so fucking for real, any accused rapist, let alone leering predator, would probably get the gelding he deserves. We'd actually be taking care of the women and children men harm by making sure it doesn't happen.
But since we don't live in a Matriarchy and fuckass bastards like you continue to make it impossible to do so, we have to work with what we're given. So maybe you can tell all the men in your life to stop being creeps and enabling creeps (including "trans women" who are men, too) and we could fucking move on? It's amazing how this wasn't an issue until men put on dresses and pretended that made them women but NOW you and similar braindead asshats want to act like this is a historically-backed take. It's not. You're just grasping at straws, using whatever trigger words you can cobble together, and blatantly being a misogynist about it.
For years I've thought my dysphoria wasn't "actual dysphoria" because I was able to acknowledge that it's caused by the social perception of myself, and I've only just realised that that is literally.. what dysphoria is, at least for women. The hatred and disgust I felt whenever my breasts were visible in the tshirt I was wearing, the way my stomach would turn whenever I got referred to as she, the way I'd feel sick and shudder whenever someone called me a girl; that was all due to me recognising from an early age that people would sexualise, degrade, objectify, belittle, dismiss me because of the sex I was unwillingly born as.
Dysphoria is always described as some mystical "knowing" of your true, innate self... but in reality I think it's caused by the subconcious internalisation of misogynistic stereotypes and actions which we suffer through from being a young age, and the dysphoria is a mental manifestation of the feelings which arise when the girl or woman acknowledges these things as wrong and rejects them... but unfortunately, many of us end up going down the route of transition rather than therapy and unlearning these internalised ideas due to the prevalence of transgender ideology online, in YA books, in celebrity culture...
It's quite sickening to think of how this ideology profits off of our suffering.
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âEvery year weâre learning more about what women are capable of, physically. The myths about female weaknessâthat our reproductive systems are fragile and dictate that we not be too active, that we have no endurance, that we canât do anything requiring upper-body strengthâhave slowly but surely been shot down during the last century. But that doesnât mean people donât buy into those myths. They do. Girls are still treated differently than boysâin the classroom, in the gym, and, eventually when they grow up, in the boardroom. Theyâre not expected to be as competitive. Aggression is frowned upon in girls, yet lots of jobs require a certain amount of aggression. The whole notion of âfemininityââwhich is really just a way of acting and thinking, not some God-given qualityârequires girls to put unhealthy restraints on themselves. It disempowers them. It keeps them from really going for it. When it comes to their bodies, it makes them fear getting âtoo big,â or âtoo strong.â So they prevent themselves from developing fully. They actually stand in their own way because theyâre taught that they should. Whoâs teaching them? Read The Frailty Myth and find out.â
â Tiffeny Milbrett & Colette Dowling, The Frailty Myth: Redefining The Physical Potential Of Women & Girls [Foreword].
That feminism has a tendency to trash the past, setting fire to its own legacy in order to start afresh - a process Susan Faludi has dubbed its 'ritual matricide' - is hardly a new observation. What I had not understood is how closely connected this is to our knowledge that, in the eyes of mainstream society, the not-young woman becomes trash herself. In late 2020 a tweet comparing Covid-19 to feminism went viral, declaring both to have 'problematic second waves'. The young female tweeter gained multiple likes and follows, which may be of less practical use than the equal pay legislation and domestic violence shelters created by second-wavers, but at least they are clean. The longer you live, and the harder you fight, the dirtier your hands become.
- Victoria Smith, "Hags: The Demonisation of Middle Aged Women"
