you pass so well!!!!! i hope that once im out and i start transitioning, i can pass as well as you !!! you look so cool /pos
sorry if this comes off as rude, im bad at phrasing
You're not being rude, Anon, but maybe I can recalibrate your thinking a tad?
It's sadly fortunate for my personal safety that the way I like to present has a lot in common with passing as a cis man, but I feel it's extremely important as a trans person to find things you like - even love - about being trans.
There's a lot about being trans that frustrates me or even puts me in danger. There's also a lot that I enjoy, including parts of my body that clearly are not cis passing. But it took a while to get there.
I had an "oh." moment some months ago when I finally splurged on a realistic packer. Like, *super* realistic. Looking at myself naked with it on -- if you didn't look too hard at my chest scars, you could swear I was cis.
And it was strange! I thought wearing it would be this massive moment of euphoria! But instead, I merely felt, "huh, this is cool and fun and I guess I'm a little hornier than usual, but I also like the genitals I ended up with from just HRT."
It was a huge moment of growth for me. Not that I don't have bottom dysphoria (because I do wrt a certain hole), but that I found a very visibly trans part of my body just as - if not more - attractive than the cis counterpart.
I still have the packer and use it about 50% of the time. It's nice to have the option, it does still look good, and it's funny to me to have a growing collection of dicks in my dresser drawer.
I also think it's not a coincidence that I've become a lot more comfortable referring to the girl things in my past. It's a part of who I am.
Everyone has different goals for their body based on personal dysphoria/euphoria, but it's still important to feel good about being trans. Maybe it's about parts of your body (what you have or have not changed), parts of your past, or how you navigate the world today. But there should be something that makes you feel good in a way that a cis person won't ever experience.
And the best way to feel good about being trans is to consume trans art & history, and follow/hang out with other trans people, especially those not of your own gender, those who do not pass, those who choose gender fuckery, and those who say "no thank you" to gender.
So, as you work on your own sense of style, remember that "cis passing" doesn't really mean anything wrt what your Vibe is. Really focus on the type of person you want to be, and let your look follow that. :)