Unapologetically apologetic

so far one theme of the 30s for me has been realizing that literally every human being on earth who appears completely cool and collected and together with it at first glance has some threshold past which enough known information about them will shatter that mystique completely. i don't even say this negatively or pessimistically it's just been helpful to keep in mind that we're all like that.

More characters ending disabled and happy NOW

kids these days don't know what it felt like to be bisexual and wear a stupid as fuck hawaiian shirt in 2017

shirt that says I HATE WHEN CHARACTERS WITH UNUSUAL BEHAVIOURS AND MANNERISMS DUE TO NEUROLOGICAL DIFFERENCES GET "CURED" AND BECOME "NORMAL" on the front and "bye" on the back

the ONLY time I'm fine with this is when the character is STILL unusual after whatever event changed them, just in a different way. bonus points if they're upset about the change. EVEN THEN YOU (pointing my fingers around at no one) ARE ON THHHIIINNNNN ICE

"but why do you hate this? isn't it a good end to a character's arc?" my actual physical neurological structure deviates from the norm in ways that CANNOT be "fixed" and I like it when characters are like me and can still have fulfilling story arcs and loving friends [:

this includes characters who say things that don't make sense, have memory issues, behave irrationally, and more. I'm talking about characters who represent a wide range of neurological differences. not just autism or adhd!

i hate the way fat antagonists have their weight moralized and used as a metaphor for greed and corruption and i hate the way it's overcorrected into fat people being "soft squishy friend-shaped cupcakes who look like they give incredible hugs" and i long for the day we have nuanced, interesting, and complicated fat characters and most of all i long for the day people are normal about fatness

health isn't a virtue.

people still go around acting like they've done something good in order to be able bodied and healthy. that they worked for it, that it's due to their moral fibre or good upbringing or self control. they genuinely, on some level, believe that they are a good person solely based on the strength of their physical abilities. they will resist the fact that it is largely down to chance that they were able to maintain such health. whatever they think they've built from scratch, the building blocks were already handed to them. not because they're more worthy of it, just by luck. and they really think they're worth more based on that sheer luck. i've met disabled people worth a hundred of the healthiest ableds alive.

Ignoring luck is dumb, but claiming that health is entirely based on sheer luck is an extremely corrosive worldview. There are dozens of choices you make every day, every week, every month that contribute to your overall health and functioning. It's good to be healthy and it's good to make healthy choices and you do in fact have a lot of control over whether you are able bodied.

sounds like someone is mad you don't have a lot of control over whether you are able bodied

a character being a perpetrator does not negate their victimhood and neither does their victimhood negate being a perpetrator. u can accept and reckon w both dimensions in ur analysis

a character being a perpetrator does not negate their victimhood and neither does their victimhood negate being a perpetrator. u can accept and reckon w both dimensions in ur analysis

Last night was the night before this one

let me be pervertly clear

its really annoying that its like apparently impossible to explain to men that "sexual assault is not the Default State of women in distress and it's ReallyFhucking Stupid that this is literally the go-to when writing a conflict involving a woman" without it being interpreted as "writing about rape is bad and all suggestions of it as a reality for some women must be avoided at all costs" like i mean really really really annoying

like there are stories involving sexual assault where its inclusion gives you a more intimate understanding of the world and characters that would be objectively diminished by treating it with kid gloves and whitewashing it out of existence. and there are stories involving sexual assault where its inclusion makes it Incredibly Obvious the guy writing it just cannot fathom any scenario in which a woman could experience a struggle of Any Kind that does not ultimately involve rape .

the boss fight version of this is when its both and the inclusion of sexual assault is necessary for the reality of the situation to be portrayed with any sense of honesty or integrity but also the way its presented is in such poor taste that it feels like youre being held hostage by the most obnoxiously self-important nerd on the entire planet

its really annoying that its like apparently impossible to explain to men that "sexual assault is not the Default State of women in distress and it's ReallyFhucking Stupid that this is literally the go-to when writing a conflict involving a woman" without it being interpreted as "writing about rape is bad and all suggestions of it as a reality for some women must be avoided at all costs" like i mean really really really annoying

like there are stories involving sexual assault where its inclusion gives you a more intimate understanding of the world and characters that would be objectively diminished by treating it with kid gloves and whitewashing it out of existence. and there are stories involving sexual assault where its inclusion makes it Incredibly Obvious the guy writing it just cannot fathom any scenario in which a woman could experience a struggle of Any Kind that does not ultimately involve rape .

the boss fight version of this is when its both and the inclusion of sexual assault is necessary for the reality of the situation to be portrayed with any sense of honesty or integrity but also the way its presented is in such poor taste that it feels like youre being held hostage by the most obnoxiously self-important nerd on the entire planet

men and women are not opposites. men and women are not enemies. men and women are two parts of a broad coalition which fights against a mutual enemy: inkjet printers