Nerdy but in a Punk Way

Coming from a trained actor who has worked on movie sets:

there are more than thousands of people and crew on set at all times

the director, assistant director, sound crew, lighting crew, cinematographer, and camera man are usually less than 50 feet away from you, you talk to them constantly if you are not an asshole to work with, which, reportedly (people in hollywood talk) Gosling is not

they work 12 hour days, with breaks, there's usually a 1 hour lunch break where cast, crew, and everyone else talk with each other. Family and friends can come talk to you here, depending on how intense the set is security and secrecy wise. but you can call people

the filming of project hail mary took about 5 months, but Ryan Gosling wasn't sitting there all alone in a dark room talking to a standing camera

what James Ortiz was referring to in the interview about "helping him feel less alone" was that he was giving Ryan Gosling a scene partner, and saying the lines and giving him a face to react to. This is something that happens in a lot of one-on-one scenes, sometimes they'll make you go stand next to the camera so that way an actor has an actual face to react to.

That was not keeping him sane, Ortiz was helping him act. Gosling did spend 100 days-ish alone on set IN THE SCENES, and hats-off to him because he did such a good job, but he was not developing isolation sickness. I think it would actually, in every sense of the term, be physically impossible to develop isolation sickness on a movie set, my brain is going ??????????

anyways, final point 2 points: NO ONE HAS SAID THIS EVER IN ANY INTERVIEW I CAN FIND

They aren't magically okay with everything. Its still uncomfortable when they have to be vulnerable and its still distressing when they have to be away from loved ones.

But, what outlines them as secure is their ability to call back to core beliefs that are foundationally related to trust. They choose to believe that they are safe, and whilst doubts may still appear, that choice is what they act upon. They are able to communicate respectfully and openly as well as exit a situation if it isn't working out for them.

That doesnt mean those things aren't uncomfortable, or that they dont hurt. Everything can be painful at times; humans are a deeply feeling species. Its about how we deal with the pain that defines our relationships and security.

Don't try to push down your emotions or thoughts to achieve an ideal as that will send you deeper into unhealthiness, just in a different form. You should accept your experiences and work with them the way you would work with a scared child. Don't give in, don't ignore. Prove to them that its safe.

If two people on SSI are married, the MAXIMUM they can receive is $1,491 a month, total, for both of them. (Meaning marriage to another SSI recipient reduces your maximum income possible to $745 a person each month.)

Could you live on that?