Some life advice nobody told me that Iāve slowly gathered through navigating the adult world;
If you go out to eat, tip in cash. 100% of that money goes to the server if itās a worthwhile establishment, whereas a portion of a card tip goes to the business owners.
You donāt owe your bosses anything thatās not in your contract. They will try to get more out of you than youāre paid forādonāt give it to them. Even if they try to guilt you over it.
If you canāt muster up the energy to take care of yourself, whether through work fatigue or depression, at least brush your teeth. That is the most expensive part of hygiene to fix/replace. Everything else can wait if you canāt manage it at the moment.
That said, a shower is Temporary Depression Eraser. Itās kind of incredible how well it works to help you feel better, even if itās a lot of spoons.
Go out in the sun. Itās so dumb and small but human minds become a very not okay place to be if you donāt get your daily sunlight. Seasonally Affected Disorder is very real and stupid but itās easily treatable. If you live in a climate without a lot of sun, they make lamps that emit the same rays to compensate.
Donāt feel bad for eating bread. Carbs are important and actually encouraged as long as itās not the only thing you eat.
Vote in your local elections. Your voice will matter way more in those than anywhere else. They donāt tell you this because itās true.
Donāt put stock in any bad thoughts you have after 8-9 pm. Again, so stupid but itās a very real thing.
Kindness goes a long, long way. Even little things like āI like your shirtā. I promise you it makes a difference.
Eat at least one vegetable a day to keep your levels stable. The human body is a temperamental little bitch that makes everything Horrible Forever unless you eat a vegetable.
Hold landlords accountable. If youāre paying them an arm and a leg to live somewhere, they can fix your fucking boiler. Itās part of their contract as a homeowner if theyāre renting to someone.
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thereās this extremely kind soul of a woman on instagram that makes accessible recipes that donāt require standing, chopping, or a stove and she might just have a permanent place in my heart
getting older is all about getting weirder and sexier and more perverted and gluttonous and intelligent and blunt and eloquent and spontaneous and skilled. i love that for us.
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call your representatives to urge them to vote against further funding for ice. this is a very easy process through 5calls and it takes 2-3 minutes. you are almost guaranteed to leave a voicemail so please donāt feel nervous or stressed about it, this is something that could make a difference. all you need to do is put in your zip code and the site will provide a script and the numbers for your representatives.
Any travel advice site will tell you to travel like a local, but honestly you should local like a traveller. Go out with wide eyes and curiosity. Visit museums and parks and art galleries, try out the overpriced but highly rated restaurants that only tourists visit, take photos and video, stop to read those heritage information signs, treat yourself to an ice cream on a hot day. Don't let tourists be the only ones who take joy in your home.
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I'm not here but the true puritan threat is people's hatred for fat, carbs and salt. You'll see the most mouth-watering video of the world's most delicious food, a spread that makes you wanna weep with jealousy, and most of the comments are, "mmm too much salt, too many calories, I'd only eat this if calories didn't exist." Hm. We live on a rock rotating around a gaseous star in a spiral galaxy. Eat the damn triple dipper.
(this list is mainly ways non-locals can donate but by extension offers a lot of resources and places to volunteer in the Twin Cities + there are specific ways to donate time under the cut which can be adjusted to your local neighborhood)
Memorial Blood CenterĀ declared a blood emergency on Tuesday, Jan 13. MBC is the blood supplier for both tier 1 trauma hospitals in the metro area (Hennepin County Medical Center and North Memorial Health).
Reach out to your neighborsĀ āĀ especially if you know they are staying home right now āĀ and ask if they need groceries or toiletry items. Offer to pick up prescriptions, give rides, or shovel their driveway. If you know them well, bring them a treat that you know they'll enjoy. Or just ask them how they're doing and let them know you are there to support.
Connect with any of the orgs aboveĀ and see if they are looking for volunteers.
Connect with a church or mosque in your area.Ā FromĀ u/MuddieMaeSuggins: "I know a lot of regular Redditors are not religious (myself included) but like it or not this is a where a lot of community organizing happens, especially in immigrant communities."
Connect with your local school's admin office and/or their PTA.Ā It's ok to reach out even if you don't have kids at the school. PTAs are organizing mutual aid for school families, safe rides, school observers.
Find an official protestĀ or other event viaĀ Indivisible,Ā 50501,Ā FREE AMERICA, orĀ MIRAC. Students at many high schools areĀ staging walk-outs; if your local school is doing this, reach out to school leadership or the PTA and ask how you can support as a community member.
Join the effort to stop Hilton from housing ICEĀ by booking hotel rooms and then cancelling at the last minute. This action can be done from home! The effort is being organized by Sunrise Movement, who are telling activists to target specific hotels one-by-one. More info:Ā SHUT DOWN HILTON
Find people in your area who are actively monitoring ICEĀ and/or stationing themselves in high-traffic areas and ask how you can help. Check for local FB events where people are organizing and just show up.
At minimum, read theĀ COPAL HandbookĀ before you go out to observe.Ā The DFL, Monarca, and other orgs have been hosting online trainings for constitutional observers (though these fill up quickly).
When you see ICE in action, start recording. Be as loud and as disruptive as possible: honk your horn, set off your car alarm, blow your whistle. Let people know that ICE is in the area. If you see someone being detained, try to get their name and a phone number to call their emergency contact.
If you do not feel comfortable observing ICE in person, there are ways you can support from home. Just ask the people who are organizing in your area. I have social anxiety, and I had never participated in any kind of political action before this past Saturday. If I can do it, you can!
Local organizers are requesting that people who help monitor ICE DO NOT participate in 1-to-1 mutual aid efforts, as these can put the families you are helping at risk.
If you have friends/acquaintances who are sympathetic but not politically active,Ā reach out to them. Show them that they're not alone in feeling helpless. Pick a few low-commitment actions from this list and do them together.
tbh I find it kind of hard to take selectively pro-cop or pro-psychiatry leftists all that seriously, especially when their leftism is very "comfort-based feminism" flavoured.
So, it is actually pretty dangerous to leave the house and be in public while seriously psychosocially disabled. Cops routinely assault people for shit like "acting strange," and the common line when they do so is "well I thought he was high on something." They are almost always cleared in court and seldom if ever even suspended with pay for being like this.
I was once slammed to the ground, pinned, handcuffed, dragged to the station and almost charged because I mistakenly thought I had the legal right to use a bus while schizophrenic.
See, I was pacing around talking to myself, as one does, and some nearby white woman called the cops on me. You MUST understand, there is always a Nearby White Woman. I wasn't threatening anybody, getting up in anybody's business, nothing like that, I was a fair distance from everybody else. I know because she fucking filmed me the whole time she was waiting for the cops to arrive lol.
Then old mate in the uniform comes right up, hand on his gun. "What have you taken? What have you taken?" The thing is, psychosis often comes with disorganized speech, and he's interpreting my answer as evidence that I'm high. Uh oh.
Then for forty eight hours I'm in the psych ward. Blood tests, invasive questions. Explain to me why Dr. Densecunt had to ask me about my sexuality. Explain to me why Dr. Densecunt is asking me if I masturbate. Explain to me why even after a blood test came back clearing me Dr. Densecunt is asking me about if I'm on The Substances. Explain to me why Dr. Densecunt is refusing to call my family when I tell him to. They have no idea where I am. My grandma's losing her mind. Explain to me why Dr. Densecunt's answer to "when can I leave?" is "when we're confident you're safe," as we're the only demographic it's legal to hold captive indefinitely without the violation of any crime on suspicion alone.
You don't see schizophrenics outside unless we're homeless because you are a danger to us, Heather. Our safety depends on your comfort, Heather, and you are never fucking comfy, Heather.
And the thing is, I tell this story in leftist circles, and some fucking Melany, some Susan, some Cassandra or her wannabe boyfriend Mark always slithers out to tell me that I need to be sympathetic becuase wh wh what if she had trauma.
What if the sight of a disabled man fifteen feet away from her existing in public really triggered her tr tr tr trauma. Her mental health, defined as her comfort, is more important than your mental health, defined as a right to exist in public spaces, because you are ontologically a threat. Does this actually keep Heather safe? Fuck no it doesn't. Mate, the shit they do to disabled and especially schizophrenic women. You call the pork patrol on a schizophrenic woman, you have almost guaranteed she's going to be sexually assaulted, but what's worse? A disabled woman's rape, or Heather being expected to share a fucking sidewalk. Goddamn
You cannot be serious with viewing either disabled men as automatically a threat to you, or the police as existing to protect women. Exhausting. One day I will kill god for allowing the creation of the true crime podcast
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hey young queers. I need you to hear me when I say part of growing up is learning to not care. part of growing up as a queer person is learning to abandon online discourse in favor of a āwho cares, welcome to the clubā kind of attitude. I promise you, you will feel so much less stress when you stop the infighting over slur discourse and identities you think donāt make sense. adopt a āI may not understand but it has no impact on meā mentality I promise it will be so much better for your mental health.
As we all have to sit and consume the horrors just remember we will survive this. Remember that no amount of information will change what has happened. Stay informed but put the phone down.
- community is an act of rebellion, the powers that be want you isolated and afraid - do not let them win
- this is an extinction burst. The majority of our congress was freaking alive during the height of segregation, we are witnessing the collapse and end of a historical period that unfortunately the people holding office are not handling well. The pendulum WILL swing
- this isn't doesn't mean that everything will be okay because of some mystic being that makes everything right again. THE PENDULUM ALSO REQUIRES A PUSH- exercise your right to vote whenever you are able to, do not fall victim to the age old "my vote doesn't even matter" bullshit. It obviously does.
-WHEN YOUR RADIUS OF AWARENESS IS WIDER THEN YOUR SPHERE OF INFLUENCE YOU WILL FEEL POWERLESS!
-INFORMATION IS ONLY AS USEFUL AS OUR IMPLEMENTATION OF IT! YOU MUST GO FIND HOPE IN THE WORLD AND BRING IT TO OTHERS THIS IS WHAT IT MEANS TO BE HUMAN
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