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(cutting off the rest of this ask because it's largely irrelevant to the point)

No, I do not thing assigned gender or sex at birth is a "useful" or true, or real thing. I think it is a social process which arbitrarily and often violently imposes a gender or sex onto a person's body. It is a social process that I strongly oppose, I do not think for a second that we should be assigning genders or sexes to anyone, (in fact, I think that doing so should actually be illegal, but that's another discussion).

A precondition of me thinking that we should abolish that social process, is me understanding that it exists. The fact that I was assigned male at birth has impacted my life tremendously, in ways I cannot begin to fully understand, let alone describe. It is an incredibly powerful and critical process in the operation of misogyny and transphobia, perhaps the singular most important one to the operation of both.

The idea then, that the people most impacted by this assignment, transfeminine and intersex people like yourself, should not be centered in and listened to in discussions about how this social process works and how we can go about abolishing it is simply ridiculous.

That is exactly what TMA and TME are as terms. While I prefer other terms myself, the base functionality of them is a very practical one; it tells you whose voice is most important to listen to, whose needs must be prioritized in our activism, and who is more strongly incentivized and able to engage in behaviour complicit with patriarchy.

Instead of treating that statement like a personal attack to deny, you should treat it like a challenge for you to overcome. Instead of denying your complicity in patriarchy, prove your commitment to feminism. Instead of trying to prove that you've done nothing wrong, focus on doing something correct. I know that you can, if I didn't think men could do better, I wouldn't be wasting my time on the criticism.

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