He Doesnât REALLY Want the Perfect WomanHe Wants These 3 Things from You InsteadâŚ
How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?
If youâre like most women, itâs a LOT. You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive.
All this time presenting yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest. You spend all this time showing him just how good youâd be for him⌠How amazing his future would be if he chose you as the woman by his sideâŚ
And it doesnât work. It never works. WHY? Why do you work so hard⌠And the guy in your life just takes you for granted, if he even notices you at all? Itâs probably because heâs immature, right? He canât recognize a good thing until itâs gone. Or maybeâŚÂ Itâs because youâve been doing all the work for him.
If He Doesnât Work for Your Relationship, He Wonât Value It
What men value most are those things they have to work hard to get.
Hand a man a college diploma, and he wonât value it as much as if heâd had to put in years of study and effort to earn it.
Hand a man the perfect girlfriend, and he wonât value her as much as if heâd had to woo her for weeks just to get her to go out with him. This is why playing hard to get works.
But, as youâve probably already noticedâŚ
Thereâs a BIG problem with playing hard to get. That strategy stops working once heâs actually got you.
Something happens when guys decide theyâve won you. Itâs almost like they think, âGame over.â Their minds are already on their next challenge. What is going on?!
And how can you stop it from wrecking your relationship?
Itâs Not Just YouâALL Women Experience This(Thatâs Why They Ask for Help)
Many women give up on love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off. But other women try a different approach. They get help. Relationship coach James Bauer is one of the people they turn to.
He noticed that many clients were coming to him, complaining about guys who were blowing hot and cold. Everything would be going great, and then it was likeâŚ
Something would change overnight.
A guy whoâd been warm, affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant. Heâd no longer have any time for her. He wouldnât smile in greeting. Heâd stop making eye contact. His kisses were brusque. Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.
And what he discovered made sense of everything. He knew why these men were backing away. He knew what they needed ⌠and what they werenât getting.
It didnât come down to anything wrong with these women.
Rather, it all came down to something he called âThe Hero Instinct.â
Most Women Do Something that Drives Men AwayâŚWithout Ever Realizing It
One of the most wonderful things about women is how naturally caring they are.
Look at you. Youâre always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him. Youâd do anything for him.
You never realize that, in the processâŚ
Youâre actually taking something away from him. Youâre taking away his purpose.
You see, he wants to be your hero. He doesnât want you to be his hero.
Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.
Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the worldâand get the girl at the same time.
Most men donât get to indulge their world-saving side in their 9-5 jobs.
Circumstances donât call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side. Maybe they canât save the world. But they can still get the girl.
Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find isâŚ
A girl who needs a hero. Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess⌠Thatâs not you.
Youâre strong. Youâre independent. You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself. Youâre never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.
Instead, you have a lot to offer a man. Youâre generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man whoâs willing to receive all you have to give.
And thatâs why heroes arenât showing up in your life. Thatâs why youâve ended up with so many takers instead. Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one. Hereâs how.
3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero into Your Life, Starting Today
Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound thatâs started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation. No, that doesnât make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.
2. Take pleasure in male company.
Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? Heâs a guy. Itâs okay. You donât need him to be more like you, because youâve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.
3. Let him earn your respect.
Superheroes love challenges. They donât want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They donât want your love handed to them on a plate. They want to earn it. Thereâs one thing they crave even more than a womanâs eternal enduring love: A challenge. So give him opportunities to prove himself. You donât have to do the work of winning him over. Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.
If that sounds like fun to you,
 click here to watch a video presentation about this relationship enhancement tool.
Itâs something you can learn once, but then use for the rest of your life.