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Ganganista all I did was tell him that my height decreased to 5’1✌️😔 but I appreciate the message tho🤑❤️‍🩹

I (F23) have had a stalker for around 2 years, I met him online through gaming and only had him added for around 2 weeks before quickly realizing he was weird and dangerous and blocking him.

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now and last month I got new messages on a new account from my stalker, which my boyfriend saw. My boyfriend asked who it was and after I explained the situation he decided he wanted to mess with the guy from my phone. He started sending him messages like "I miss you" and "I keep fighting feelings for you" and was trying to get my stalker to call me so he could tell him it was actually him sending these messages and to leave me alone.

That did end up happening and I recieved messages the next morning from my stalkers friends calling me and my boyfriend names. Everyone was quickly blocked, but my boyfriend thought he needed to mess with him again and asked for his number to shoot him a text pretending to be a girl. I told my boyfriend that it wasnt a good idea and to just leave it alone but he did it anyways and immediately started receiving phone calls from 3 different numbers.

My boyfriend and I were on a call while this was happening and he eventually hung up to answer a call, after 5 minutes I started getting worried and shot him a message asking what was going on, 15 minutes later he called me back and said my stalker had made up lies about me and said I was the crazy one who wanted him and was talking shit about me the entire time and even threatened to show up at both mine and my boyfriends house. I immediately got irritated not only with what was being said about me but also because my boyfriend didn't defend me besides for saying "I dont think you're telling the truth".

I told my boyfriend I was irritated because he unnecessarily started more drama with someone I want nothing to do with and I had already said I was uncomfortable with it happening then answered the call and let me get talked down on and lied about for 15 minutes and did nothing. He said he had gotten scared after hearing that the guy might show up at his house and wanted to get on his good side but why even take the call or send the text in the first place if you weren't gonna do anything?

After I explained why I was upset with the situation, my boyfriend started crying and said he was going to bed. I dont think im wrong for being irritated, I understand being scared after that, but he knew what kind of person he was before sending the message and did it anyways because he wanted to "get back" at him. So am I overreacting?

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (92% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR. What your boyfriend did wasn't just stupid, it was legitmately fucking dangerous. I would be livid if I were you. I would also be reconsidering the relationship entirely.

Instead of listening to you, the person being stalked, he decided to antagonize and escalate the stalker. Which is *wild*.

His need to feel like a big macho man defending his girlfriend outweighed your actual sense of safety and that's really fucked up of him. He didn't start to question his behavior until *he* was being threatened.

I'm sorry you're dealing with both a stalker and a dumbass boyfriend.”

Notable comment: “NOR. Your boyfriend is psychotic. Who irritates a stalker? Who invites a stalker back into someone's life? To mess with him? He gets to suffer the consequences of his actions, this is a classic FAFO. And then when you explained why this _obviously_ affected you, he turned into a cry baby and went to sleep. He's a walking red flag and has 0 social awareness and he didn't even take you into consideration. He put you in harm's way and for what? To mess with him? Leave. This man is unstable and I don't care if he has autism or whatever cause that tends to be the first excuse people give now.”

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Me(30 m) and my boyfriend (35 m). Long story shorty is that I used to work out religiously and then I stopped because my boyfriend told me that I shouldn’t be spending too much time away. That was about 6ish years ago. I know how it sounds and yes I know I look ridiculous. I have gained weight in these years and my boyfriend has even jokingly asked if I wanted to take ozempic. I decided to get back into the gym and make it a priority again. My boyfriend goes every morning without fail and I’ve never had a problem with it even though he leaves me to handle the household and our pets (we both work but he does work more hours on his feet). Anyways I asked him if I could use his hand chalk before I went to the gym this morning because I tend to sweat and I just like a firm grip. He told me that it’s ridiculous that I need the chalk and I’m not even doing any type of work outs that would require it. It bothered me all day and this evening when I brought it up he basically stated what he said again. I got up and went downstairs to the couch and when I got up to leave, he made a comment under his breath about me leaving and I asked him what he said and he said back “are you still here?”. Was I over reacting by being bothered enough to go sleep on the couch?

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (94% confidence)

Top comment: “Nor. Why are you with him?”

Notable comment: “NOR. He doesn't want you to go to the gym yet he goes. RED FLAG He says you need weight lose shots. He isn't joking. He is saying what he thinks and projects this to you. RED FLAG The way he totally disrespects you. Not Good Not sharing chalk. WTH This bullying and treating you like you are an enemy to make you disposable. THE WORST

Talk with either a therapist or a divorce lawyer. This is no way to live being held under his poor treatment.”

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