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And not one person thought to bring it up.

When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.

Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.

HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?

No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.

I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-

When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.

Softer less oily skin

Less acne

Prevent male patern baldness

Less cleanup after orgasming

More free time (masturbating feels less urgent)

You can make new friends (membership to a new community)

More trans girls will wanna date you

Jiggle physics

It's something to do

Maybe you're bored

Be spared during the alien invasion and their purging of lesser lifeforms

It makes you smell nicer

"This is why I try so hard to protect my trans sister, she has to deal with so much of this all of the time."

"And this is why I will never learn how to swim"

"I never go swimming, unless it's an event that explicitely mention that Trans Women are welcome"

Or how I learned to stop worrying and love the dilator

Part one: The search

I’ve received several messages and questions from people asking for advice on how to get bottom surgery, and what they’ll need to do so. That advice usually begins with explaining how to find surgeons for their procedure. To do so you need to make a decision about how far you’re willing or able to travel, be it within your state or farther across the country. (While this guide is mostly restricted to the United States there are options available more affordably in other countries, particularly Thailand.) Once you are able to decide your travel boundaries you will start to have a better idea of what surgeons are available. Usually I will recommend that prospective patients google search “gender affirming bottom surgeons (selected area) to begin their search. You can also use https://www.transhealthcare.org/, or the transgender surgery reddit wiki at https://old.reddit.com/r/TransSurgeriesWiki/wiki/srs/usa which can be used without a reddit account. After finding a few possible options you should make sure to research them carefully by searching their name along with the search terms, “results”, “Lawsuit”, and, “reviews”. Be careful to double check sources on negative claims and make sure that the articles aren’t being written by known transphobes or anti transgender religious organizations. I also recommend asking around your local friend groups, transgender support spaces, and even your hormone provider for advice or recommendations. Local sources often have more reliable information than the internet. After you’ve decided on one or two options you’ll need to schedule a consult.

Part 2: The interim and preparation

Most clinics will have at least a 3 month wait time for a consult and sometimes up to a year so scheduling as soon as you can is essential to receiving surgery in a timely manner. Make sure to check the websites of your selected surgeons for information on scheduling an appointment. Some will have a form on their website allowing you to schedule directly while others will require you to call. I recommend using both options and calling to confirm that your appointment has in fact been scheduled. Make sure to request to be put on their cancellation list so you can take advantage of earlier appointments if available.

You look so adorable~

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An oldie from last year that I had finished during Pride month.

Would it make a change if I kissed you for the first time?

I know you like me, I can tell the way that you always remind me every time our eyes meet I know there’s something that you’re feeling for me The world keeps on turning, are you turning with me?

Trans women who *do* pursue bottom surgery….

Are not mutilating themselves.

Do not have “fuckholes”.

Are not “an angel who lost her wings”.

Unable to accept their bodies.

Are not “butchered”.

Are not being “frivolous”.

Neovaginas are beautiful, real, oftentimes come with few or easily solvable complications, and for some women, are the ideal way to alleviate bottom dysphoria.