A conversation with a mother.
So last night, I finally had the chance to have a proper conversation (VC) with Sofeaās mom, Pikah. Honestly, we talked quite a lot...and surprisingly, it went better than I expected. She wasnāt her usual ākerekā self⦠instead, she came across quite easygoing and open.
We covered a lot starting from what happened during her stay at DSV, her ongoing treatment, and of course Sofea. We talked about Sofeaās upcoming kindergarten, her behaviour, and even shared thoughts on handling kids at her age. The conversation also drifted into our personal lives I shared about looking for a new workplace since mine is quite far now, and she mentioned her upcoming product launch and business plans.
Iāll be honest, there were things I genuinely admired. The way she carries herself, her drive, and how clear she is about what she wants especially when it comes to her child. She made it very clear that she doesnāt want Sofea to go through the same struggles she did, and sheās willing to work harder and smarter to provide more. That kind of mindset? Respect. You can tell she has a strong business mentality, and I truly believe she has the potential to grow into a powerful lady boss. If it comes to business, I can see her being a good mentor or even someone to collaborate with.
Of course, not everything was perfect this is just my honest take. From what I observed, she tends to focus a lot on herself. Most of the conversation revolved around her experiences and perspective, which I tried to see from a positive angle at least she acknowledged her own efforts. But I do feel like thereās a bit of a lack in empathy and awareness towards others in certain moments. And when it comes to motherhood, naturally she takes pride in what she does,vwhich is fair. I do similar things for Sofea too, but for me, I try to balance it with boundaries and budgeting.
Overall, the conversation was⦠okay, in a good way. I appreciate her clarity, her goals, and the effort sheās putting into her life now. I can see where sheās coming from, same goes for Sam. Both of them share similar approaches when it comes to Sofea, especially emotionally. Meanwhile, I realised Devin and I are quite aligned in terms of discipline, we believe you canāt always give in, boundaries are important.
At the end of the day, I still respect her as Sofeaās mother, always. But I donāt think weāll be close friends and thatās okay. I can sense she has her own standards and circle, and maybe weāre just meant to stay on a mutual, respectful level.
But overall, Iām glad we had that conversation. It gave me a lot of insight and understanding.
Good luck, Sofeaās mom. Wishing you all the best š¤













