so much of being an ok person is just 1) not panicking, 2) not taking things personally, and 3) not letting the vindictive gargoyle that lives in your head tell you what to do. this sucks because brains love doing those things

"Your love language is what you were deprived of as a child" actually no you're allowed to want, prefer and like things without everything tracing back to some dormant unprocessed trauma. You can just say you want to bounce on it without having to explain how as a child you always wanted - but never got - a trampoline.

You become at least 1% more patient I think when you remember that literally nothing is obvious. Nothing.

I spent years teaching Sunday school to toddlers and then spent a few years teaching British literature to adults and both of those experiences combined taught me that literally nothing in the universe is easy to understand at first glance. I ended up explaining just as many “obvious” things to the adults as I did the toddlers.

got called a misandrist for saying i think its bad if a man has no women friends

never understimate how hostile overtly liberal men will become if you start talking about feminist ideas in any way that suggests misogyny is still a major social force, especially if it implies even slightly that they or anyone they know might be misogynist

I think when you correctly identify a trauma that is the base of a woe of yours it should just disappear. It should be like "aaahh. you got me" and vanish and leave 100 dollars behind

#if you line up several neuroses and identify the interlocking connections between them they should all vanish like clearing a line in tetris (via @karliahs)

when someone says its bad to assume that someone else is a trans woman as opposed to a gnc cis guy what i hear is that if i do not pass they WILL misgender me

"No, I don't want to misgender you! It's just that if it came down to misgendering a cis man or misgendering a trans woman, I would care more about the cis man."

The urge to lie down. The urge to just lie the fuck down and do nothing.

many of you have uncles that died tragically

everyone’s telling me how their uncle died 😭 never change tumblr

it is absolutely essential to have friends you can have extremely insane pervert conversations with. this is kind of what makes life worth living

hung out with cousin's DJ friend last night and he said the best compliment he's ever received was when he was DJing an orgy and did his research ahead of time and came prepared with Portishead/Massive Attack/Cocteau Twins/etc and halfway through the set, a woman stopped mid-blowjob and pulled the dick out of her mouth to say (to nobody in particular) "damn, this mix is incredible!"