Gomez gives out better relationship advice than like 90% of dudes.
Gomez Addams is a suave motherfucker who loves his wife more than his own life.
Everyone should want a Gomez. Heβs p cool.
Gomez and Morticia Addams actually have a very loving and extremely healthy relationship, both in the old TV show and in the more recent movies. They were also one of the first television couples to be shown to have an active (albeit offscreen) sex life. Their frank attitude towards sexuality was shocking in itsβ time, but their relationship and their family dynamic is actually more functional and moreβ¦dare I say itβ¦sane than most families portrayed on TV.
The comedy in the show came from the familyβs βoddβ lifestyle, rather than from infighting and petty bickering, or worse, as was common on other shows of the time, thinly veiled references to spousal abuse. They didnβt make fun of each other or act like their children were creatures from another world. Were they strange and outside of social norms? Yes. Were they united in creating a loving home and being good, supportive parents? Absolutely.
These two support and adore their children, care for an aging mother and an estranged brother, put family before everything, and they love each other, wholly, fiercely, without reserve. They are every bit as much in love after at least a decade of marriage as they were the day they met.
Relationship goals. LIFE goals.
Just remembered in the second movie when their third child became βnormalβ for a period and although they were shocked and didnβt know how to handle it, they didnβt mistreat the child or love it any less. They accepted the difference, even though it was hard for them.Β
Reblogged for truth.
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Posts about Gomez and Morticia Addams are almost always uplifting and Iβm happy to have them on my dash, but I think my favorite bit about this conversation is what Gomez is actually saying to Fester.
Itβs nobodyβs surprise that many of the aesthetic and thematic elements of The Addams Family in its various incarnations are influenced by Gothic tradition (not goth, that mostly came later. And not Goth, that was much much much too early), and I think Gomezβs words are a dead bullseye in terms of Gothic mentality.
βMake her feel like sheβs the most sublime creature on earthβ
The sublime is a recurring theme throughout Gothic literature. Although the word (like βawesomeβ) has lost a lot of itβs original luster over the intervening decades, sublime doesnβt really mean elevated and lofty (or even heavenly) as itβs often used today, but rather something possessing the power and grandeur to induce awe and veneration in the mind of the beholder. Although less than divine, something sublime possessed a wildness and power that transcended human ability to controlβ¦or even to comprehend.
Sublime is standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon leaning as far as you dare over the railing and still not being able to see the canyon floor below. Sublime is warrior-queen Galadriel being tempted by the One Ring. Sublime is waking up in the middle of the night in the heart of a wild thunderstorm.
βMake her feel like sheβs the most sublime creature on earthβ
Gomez isnβt advising Fester to treat a woman he fancies like a princess, or even elevate her to pedestal of angelic nature (whoβs idea was it to equate femininity with purity anyway? What a laughable and historically damaging idea. Shame on whatever dead (probably) white dudes promoted that!)
Gomez is advising Fester that if he truly loves a woman he must do everything he can to remind her of how sheβs an untameable force of nature whoβs grandeur brings him to his knees in awe and terror. Just like Morticia, for Gomez.
Iβll sign off with one of my most favorite quotes of all time, because it feels suddenly very relevant:
βWhen I find myself surrounded by so much beauty, I feel as if I am the eye of a hurricane.β
- -Sanjay Kulkarni
Reblogging for the commentary on the Sublime
I remember seeing this post ten years ago. love the more recent addition.
my friend, if you mean the bit I wrote then the most recent addition is also ten years old :)
Dang! Somehow I remember coming across this when it was sometimes between the October 24th post and the Nov 20th post. ....I'm allowed to be old and I will not be apologizing XD
