Gay Not Queer

It's really heartwarming. I wish I could stay, but it's best to focus on other more positive things in real life. Also, thank you to everyone who has been kind to me while I did this blog, you have no idea how much it has meant. I'd name names, but being forgetful I'd end up offending people. I send my wishes for the best for everyone in their lives, even the trolls and trans cultists. Particular thanks to all the radical feminists and the few gay men who have been kind to me.

because your blog has meant a lot to me. I know it sounds silly, but it really was formative to to me and the way I think today. Had I not stumbled across your blog, I’m sure I’d still be wading around in the bog that is postmodernism. I used to be a really hardcore postmodernist--I was all about the pomo queer theory and third-wave liberal feminism. I acknowledge that that was an important part of my life, and I’m not going to decry it, but I’m glad I’ve moved past it. Your blog helped (2/4)

me to see that the postmodern ideas I’d been spouting (namely, those of pomo queer theory and of third-wave liberal feminism) are really fucked and problematic and needed to be examined critically. Thinking critically is so important, and I’d sort of passive accepted the tenets (what tenets there are) of postmodernism and played the part of the good postmodernist for so long I lost sight of critical thinking. Your blog kind of, ah... opened my eyes, I suppose, and allowed me to (3/4)

examine these ideas more critically, and to examine other theories less critically and to be more kind. I used to vilify radical feminism so much before (with a totally misconstrued idea of what it was), and now, I would consider myself to be more of a radical feminist than anything else. It wouldn't be fair of me to thank you for all that, of course; I simply want to thank you for (accidentally, granted) helping me in my journey as a feminist and critic postmodernism. (4/4)

(I didn't intend to write a novel-length thank you, but there you have it--I can't express how much your blogging meant to me without writing profusely. You truly opened my eyes to how harmful and destructive gender is, and in turn that lead me to examine so many other things critically. So I would like for the million time to extend a sincere thank you.)

Well, so far yes, I haven't had a reason to dislike her. I don't have a clue of what is going on in terms of what people are saying about her. It seemed like she had a lot of supporters not long ago, then I took a break from Tumblr, and when I came back her blog was gone, but I never saw people saying things against her that I can remember. All the things that are being said against her are new to me and I'm not even sure why she is being called these things. I just am not up-to-date on this. I also didn't feel right asking anyone about it, I didn't want to be nosy.

[cont] becoming brave enough to talk about it with some of my close online friends and also after realising that I could never truly become a woman I tried to accept that I was male and that there was nothing wrong with that. It took another two years before I really felt comfortable in my body, however. I distinctly remember being in some pretty heavy denial about my sexuality at that point - I'd literally avoid looking at men I found attractive because I didn't want to accept that I [cont 2]

[cont 2] did find them attractive - did you ever do anything like that? Looking back on it, I think I simply didn't notice the homosexual attractions I had before then because I was so set on becoming a girl I guess it just felt like something I'd naturally want as part of being female. Was it like that for you? Also, I understand if you do not wish to answer such a personal question, but are you out to your family (i'm guessing you are, at least to your parents/siblings) and how did they react?