#surgeries

A girl at my school in the same club as me told me and another trans guy that she had extremely painful and rare periods and she had to get surgery. I don't know why I said it, but I said I still wish I had that and then tried to justify it and rambled and it turned into a massive mess of intersexism, despite the fact I would have considered myself a good ally to intersex people at the time. I still haven't found an opportunity to apologize for it, but I'm constantly trying to check myself before I speak now. Someone's pain, regardless of my opinion on it, isn't something i should just say I want, especially when it's a source of oppression or discomfort

This is intersexism.

Thank you for understanding what you said was wrong, I hope soon that you can tell her you're sorry and make it right, anon.

It's unfortunately common for a lot of trans people to wish that they had something wrong with body parts that gives them dysphoria so that it can be removed (I for one remember there being a ton of memes from transmasculine people wishing they had breast cancer, or transfeminine people wishing they had testicular cancer), and I'd say there isn't anything inherently wrong with having those thoughts, because they are obviously borne from dysphoria, which is incredibly serious.

The part that makes it bad is verbalizing it to people who are suffering through such things. It's not as cut and dry as getting a surgery and going on about your life. There are many things that go into getting those types of surgeries, and they're performed on people who are suffering some sort of chronic pain. I get that you probably understand this now, which is good!

Honestly I've seen plenty of TERFs, GC's and far right people saying that there's a whole "Trans lobby" of doctors who profit out of "rush transitioning" (specially when trans people are younger)

And they couldn't be more stupid, there's more profit doctors can made by gatekeeping HRT and that "living as your gender" shit to allow transition just to start, also for the whole disphoria shit tho

Just to get clear here's a hypotetical example of a late transition trans woman into the "correct way to transition" by a GC standard (minus the erradicating thing) would need to be over 18 (sometimes even 25), be a trans het woman (AGP's aren't acceptable only the HSTS's), live as a woman for 2 years (buying the whole closet, shave everyday), pay a whole package of laser shaving or electrolisys and be at the standard of the doctor so after this they are allowed to transition, lowballing a cost average of 10k USD

Then there's the HRT and the mind of the said trans woman filled with disphoria, which she's a late transitioner and would want to do a lot of surgeries to fit, lowballing here is about 100k USD

many sectors would profit out of the late transitioner trans woman which didn't want to suffer transphobia

Now into the so scary trans lobby logic, the same trans woman, she's just goes into HRT before she even make 18 just regular exams and stuff, she didn't even needed to pass the gatekeep stuff and the disphoria brainworms woudn't even consume her, the whole cost would be highballing 5k USD for a period of 10 years

yeah transitioning early is actually less profitable than transitioning late hence why there's no "trans lobby" over younger trans people, they just want to not be disphoric

I’ve been feeling my age lately,

my skin cut into too many times

trying to fix

what’s broken inside me.

My eyes need more water now,

and I feel the aches

more than I used to.

I find myself wanting more from life—

things that matter

while I still have the chance,

a kind of love

that stays.

I feel more honest

in what I say I want.

And I know what I want.

I’m trying not to lose

the childlike heart I hold,

but everything feels

a little heavier,

a little louder.

And life—

it’s forcing me to begin again.

Maybe that’s part of it,

Ooh ooh

I'm personally against surgeons being allowed to medical mutilate mentally ill people's genitalia for the same reason I'm against all elective, unnecessary surgery—because unnecessary surgery is just harm, it is just someone inflicting wounds (yes, even percise, well practiced cuts with a scalpel are still wounds) for profit. It is inflicting unnecessary risk of infection, sepsis, and even death for no physical benefits. It is chopping away perfectly healthy non-deformed flesh for no physical benefit.

Just as how if you walk up to a rando on the street and ask them to cut you it doesn't, or at least it shouldn't, give them the right to cut you, the same shit applies to doctors. Your desire to be cut and mutilated is your right, and even doing it to yourself is your right to some extent, but no one, and I mean NO ONE every has the right to hurt you, even if you really want them to, even if you give them money to do so.

Every single plastic surgeon who profits off preforming unnecessary surgery of perfectly physically healthy individuals deserves to be locked the fuck up, including and especially those who mutilate the genitals of and sterilize the mental ill.

No one is entitled to having other people hurting them, and no one DESERVES to have someone else hurt them without severe consequences, even if they specificly requests that someone to hurt them, because there should never be a situation beyond self defense where hurting another person is allowed.

(And the same logic also expands into the "kink"/BDSM bullshit too. No one should ever be allowed to hurt someone else unnecessarily, even if they ask for it. Selfish, cruel, sadistic people should never be given the legal and or community protection to hurt other people.)

I'm simply against all unnecessary surgery for everyone, people with sex dysmorphia are no exception.

Doctors, and the medical industry in general, shouldn't be allowed to profit of the mentally ill, and so really, it's less about restricting sex dysmorphic people in specific from medically mutilating their bodies/genitals and more so about restricting doctors from mutilating the bodies/genitals of anyone no matter what.

As I got older, that need started to change. I no longer wanted, or felt like I needed to do anything. I have my hair short yes, but besides that I have done nothing else besides change my name, pronouns, and wear more masculine clothes.

I don’t currently feel the need to be on testosterone or get surgeries. It just isn’t in my transition journey at the moment. I will probably end up getting top surgery when I can afford it, however testosterone isn’t something I currently want. Do I want to get on testosterone for certain things? Yes. Do I want all the things testosterone brings? No. So I’ve decided to just not go on it and that’s that for me.

Maybe in the future id want to get on testosterone, but for now no.

We need to normalize transmascs who do the absolute bare minimum in their journey. We need to normalize transmascs who don’t want to get on hormones and get surgeries for whatever reason.