#transsexual

id say my general transmed aligned beliefs r that trans ppl are dysphoric, and most nondysphoric ppl simply havent identified what their dysphoria manifests as. i also think you need to at least desire transitioning in some way, be it socially or medically. you need a desire to get away from what you have been assigned by sex and society. if you do not, you are not trans. a trans person is not comfortable being what they were born as or predominantly being the traits associated with it.

but on the flip side, im totally chill w nonbinary people. i consider myself to be actually nb but a binary trans person for irl/ease of communication purposes. i would ideally be seen as no gender, but im quite content also being seen as the opposite gender. i am transitioning as though i was binary. in my head, i am both of these, tbqh. and i am confident in it; i dont feel a need to forsake either one. i am not a "demi" or whatever, i am wholly both.

i think shit like xenogenders and rq are actively harmful. a lot of it is poor coping mechanisms for mental illness. it also sets up the wrong expectations of what being trans is. it groomed me personally out of pursuing transition or analysing my dysphoria for years, and ive found my story isnt unique.

that said i also think bullying xenogender stuff does do harm. my first tiptoes into gender exploration were through nebulous labels. if a person isnt an adult, we really dont need to be mocking them or what they do. just let the kid sort it out.

it/its pronouns are fully harmful and i refuse to use them for a person. i dont care if you consider it misgendering. i am not calling another living human "it". you will get they if you have no auxiliary pronouns.

neopronouns are useless when they/them is right there. we barely have societal acceptance for they/them and trying to shove neopronouns is only making it an uphill slope.

transgender is a fine term. it really doesnt matter. if you wanna call yourself transsexual that's fine too.

some people take a long time to figure out they're trans. everyone's journey is unique and mental illness or other circumstances can obscure a lot

male/female socialising is absolutely real and we are taking so many steps back in feminism by trying to deny it. its not a death sentence to say you were raised a certain way. thats the entire basis of being trans actually, being raised a way and going hold on a minute.

uhhh i cant think of anything else that's relevant. i have a lot of thoughts on the contemporary online trans community, especially with the way a lot of trans women act. a lot of it has been seriously turning me against the community. im just kind of suicidal seeing how transgender communities are these days bc i know i have no home there. i want to fully transition and cispass and never be out bc i loathe the thought of being associated with the current culture or having to talk to most of these ppl.

I’m sorry you feel excluded from your community, and from what you’ve said earlier about nonbinaries I do think they exist but I’m also not calling someone it/its Lmaoo

But yeah it’s fine to call yourself transgender but I personally don’t call myself that because I don’t believe in transgender I believe I’m transsexual

I think a lot of “nondysphoric” trans people have dysphoria it just isn’t AS severe or they don’t understand how it works.

I’m also sorry that you were groomed, it’s fucked up what people will do to others on the internet or even in real life

I do not know your age so I will assume you’re probabaly a minor, correct me if I’m wrong you are free to do so.

I will never bully a child for what the internet tries to brainwash them with..again I hate to mention this but it’s been seen a lot on tumblr, radqueers I mention it time and time again I hate them because they groom children into thinking harmful paraphilias are okay and to think them being groomed is okay because they’re trying to normalize it

I try to move minors away from that because I think it really messes up their heads.

would u be chill with me sending u my various thoughts on trans stuff and gender, and you tell me if im a transmed or not?

i want to find people w beliefs like mine and im not sure i really go here but i feel like the average trans tumblr user would tell me to kms. so idk, some input from the other side might help. or if you know any words for ppl who are borderline between the two sides. idk i just have no one and need help

You’re fine with me, I wouldn’t tell you to kys unless you’re a radqueer which I assume you aren’t.