Not climbing up the hill again

How to Identify that Light in the Sky

Look me dead in the eye and tell me that people being able to sit at home and watch The Game -- the fandom that encourages, the ongoing investment over the years, the memories and traditions of Watching the Game with family and friends -- harms the ticket sales of real live go-to-the-stadium sports. Of course it doesn't. Of course all that *is the reason* that people care so much about sports they'll invest a small fortune on not only tickets but often travel costs to be part of it all in person. And the people who aren't doing that *can't* do that and weren't going to regardless, but their at-home participation and investment still boosts the profile of pro and NCAA sports as cultural institutions.

You mean like how people read books at libraries, and end up buying them if they like them?

“That’s not the same 😡”

I think Dawn would have a lot of respect for Jenny, the way she lives her life, and the choices she makes. But one thing Dawn would NEVER understand, is why Ms. Calendar and Giles aren’t married. No matter how Jenny tries to explain not wanting to get married, Dawn has the same argument.

Jenny: Some people don’t need marriage, Dawn. Besides, I’ve said this a thousand times, my people-

Dawn: Your family would never accept your marriage. Jenny, I KNOW! But he’s yours anyway, what difference does it make?

Jenny: And what difference does it make to NOT be married?

Dawn: There’s a difference to Giles.

Jenny: Dawn, he and I have talked about this EXTENSIVELY. He doesn’t care.

Dawn: Sure he SAYS he doesn’t care, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t.

Jenny: He doesn’t.

Dawn: Sure.

Jenny: Well, the difference matters to me and I don’t want to choose.

Dawn: Choose what?

Jenny: If I marry him, I’m choosing him over my people.

Dawn: Who said that? And besides, you already DID.

Jenny: No, I-

Dawn: You picked him. That’s why you’re with him.

Jenny stared at her.

Dawn: If your family told you that you couldn’t have him anymore, would you ever listen?

Jenny: No.

Dawn: Then there’s your answer.

Jenny: It’s not that simple-

Dawn: It really is. You love him more than anything. Why do you act like marrying him would take something away?

Jenny: My culture is important to me. My-

Dawn: And what about marrying GILES takes away from your culture? He lets you do WHATEVER. I’ve never seen a man LESS in his girlfriend’s business, actually.

Jenny: Dawn-

Dawn: Whatever. But if you EVER marry someone that isn’t him-

Jenny: And why would I do THAT?!?

Dawn: I’m just SAYING! Giles loves you more than anything. So if you’re gonna marry someone, it better be him.

Jenny: I’m not marrying anyone, Dawn. Ever.

Dawn: Fine. Whatever. I just know he would marry YOU in a heartbeat.

Something about that sounded suspiciously like Rupert had discussed this with Dawn.

Jenny: What did he say to you?

Dawn: What?

Jenny: Rupert. Giles- what did he say to you?

Dawn: He didn’t say anything.

Jenny: Dawn-

Dawn: He didn’t! I asked him why you weren’t married and he said you didn’t wanna get married. And when I asked why he said it was none of my business and to stop being so nosey and that if I was gonna keep being nosey, I could at least ask YOU.

Jenny: Dawn-

nicki jenny calendar’s one-episode journey from ‘fuck that old man’ to ‘i’m gonna fuck that old man’

@gifevents: From Script to Screen Day 4 - Action lines

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

Rating: T

Fandom: Stargate Atlantis

Prompt: @monthlywritingchallenges Misadventure May: Disaster

Summary: Surviving the Genii invasion was just the beginning.