If a man ever threatens suicide because you don’t want to sleep with him it’s your moral obligation to either ignore or encourage him to follow through. If you know him irl then report it to the police if you’re genuinely concerned that it’ll happen. Never let the manipulation work.

So many women have internalized the idea that being difficult makes people think less of them, when in my experience the opposite is almost always true. Every single time I have spoken up, voiced what I actually need and refused to shrink the moment in order to be more comfortable for everyone else in the room, I have been approached afterward by people who wanted to know me better. There is no reward waiting for you on the other side of making yourself smaller. People do not love you more for taking up less space, they simply get used to you taking up less space and adjust their expectations accordingly. Every time I have been exactly as audacious as the moment required, it has opened doors rather than closed them and I have made real connections directly because of it rather than in spite of it.

I think if we keep encouraging Tumblr YA comedy-fantasy authors we can really put a dent in the idea that it's possible for writing to be good

as someone who studies this: statistically speaking, child abuse (including “spanking”, because all forms of hitting children are abusive) is pretty much equally prevalent in households of all racial, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds. so yeah, don’t let people use the “culture” excuse on you, but also, don’t believe others are experiencing it less just because it’s less normalized in their culture to talk about it. we all gotta work together to fix this shit.

I’m going to say something that might sound crazy. Suicide and suicide attempts are sort of a societal alarm bell that says “something is very wrong with the environment this individual was in.” A living being choosing to take themselves out of existence is the most extreme act of distress there is. The state stepping in to silence this alarm bell by funneling suicidal people into a state sanctioned euthanasia program, normalizing this act through a socially accepted bureaucratic system, is not a good thing. It goes hand in hand with the state’s interest in maintaining the status quo at the expense of the population and the psychiatric industry’s interest in individualizing societal problems to extract profit and aid the existing system. It’s saying “there are no complaints here, just people with sick brains, carry on.”

from what i've observed, i do think there is some pressure for women in not explicitly feminist leftist circles to affect a kind of "cool girl" posture for the benefit of the men in the movement

dystopian how common this is on the co-ed left. Assata Shakur’s autobiography “Assata” and Elaine Brown’s “A Taste of Power” talk abt sexism in the Black Panther Party

something about how bpd is overdiagnosed in female victims of dv and sa. something about how bpd is overdiagnosed in women-loving women. something about how bi women are more likely to be victims of intimate partner violence than other women. something about how bpd is overdiagnosed in bi women. etc etc etc

that fact that the Anarchist, Naom Chomsky, was given an endless platform to talk about his book Manufacturing Consent, while the ML aligned Marxist who published a book saying largely the same things two years earlier has had his work mostly ignored is very telling. Michael Parenti would have said so many things that were dangerous to the ruling capitalist class in all those interviews

parenti is incredible highkey

Yeah you're not gonna win against a country that's built around attrition. You cannot bomb away the leverage Iran has over Hormuz

There's a lot of noise about this MOU but the big takeaway is that Iran took a theoretical deterrent and turned it into a real bargaining instrument. We will know the terms soon enough but even if this MOU collapsed tomorrow, this war has left the world with a new reality. If we want global energy stability we need to cooperate with Iran.