The Crater of Misplaced Enthusiasm

check if might be teenager - if so , remember probably also have weird opinions or biases as teenager . adjust approach accordingly - sometimes to not approach is best scenario . unfortunately public social media is more common than private diaries now - this is symptom of larger problem , do not just blame teens .

some people say ridiculous , cruel things just to stir up anger - and then laugh at everyone who argue . try not to let anger jump ahead of sensibility .

some people say important things without proper fact check , or without check context of original discussions . if something is so important to share , then try to find that first and get proper grasp .

some people say things very defensively , whether specific topic or in general . step back and give some grace , try to understand why . from what contexts and backgrounds do this person speak ?

can not always assume malice and lack of care without definitive signs - some people unfortunately unaware of impacts . still , most people have hard time to listen if feel like approach with anger or frustration , regardless how justifiable that is . try to handle these situations with grace - and if grace is not possible , know how to step back and cool down .

remember , as well , not everyone intend for posts to become widespread - what intend as personal vent or opinion piece is now point of discussion for dozens , hundreds , if not thousands of people , regardless if original poster apologise , rephrase , or retract . consider whether someone else already say what want to say , and if even necessary anymore .

( might also want to consider : offer some relief , if appropriate . anonymous niceties or small talk questions can really help . )

sometimes , will still not come to agreeable conclusion with someone - sometimes just struggle to get on same page and understand perspective for any number of reasons , sometimes run out of energy to continue , sometimes discussion partner prove malice outright . in any case , know when to say done and move on , so to not completely burn out .

might not always be perfect with these even so , kossai sure is not . but to try best and take steps is better than not at all - for others' sake , and for own sake especially .