not an apologizer but a contextualizer. yes the character did that but please understand the Circumstance. yes they had other options but they had to make this choice in a sea of available bad choices. and also it made the narrative more interesting. won't anybody think about the narrative!!!!!
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
every so often i come back onto this app overwhelmed by my Big Challenging Degree and am so happy and touched by how people still respond to and resonate with my rory gilmore meta from last year :,(((
It gives off twin flame energy. I think the director was intentional with the Carmy and Syd's mirroring in this episode. They were both wearing dark sweaters with a design on their right side, possibly the same side as their shoulder tattoos, along with the choreography. This is the last time we see Sydney and Carmy's partnership play out smoothly before Claire and Carmy reunite and Emmanuel fills Sydney with doubts. This moment shows us that they are a union and that they're better together than apart- they're equals.
I just realized that Carmy seeing Sydney essentially become a Berzatto, without his help, essentially furthered his idea that she is him but better in every single possible way. I think it was his final straw. Sydney being so close to everyone at the bear INCLUDING all his immediate family as well without his help or introductions, makes him think, yeah, if I step out of the equation and use her as my replacement everyone will be better off. Now that Sydney has proven that she is not only on par w/ his cooking skills but above it, Carmy’s thinking that it’s done, he’s fixed his family, he’s fixed the restaurant, they have someone better then him taking his place. That’s why he never pushed her away and that’s why he’s stepping out. It’s exactly why he screams I’m your friend twice and rejects her partnership. He doesn’t seem them as one, he see her as something so much better. Cause he thinks he’s stumbled across a miracle through Sydney. What he doesn’t know though! Is that when he gets together with Claire, and he retires from cooking, it’s not going to fix him. He thinks cause he’s “fixed” everything else, that he’s bound to be fixed with it. He’s gonna implode when he finds out that, no, romantic love is not the cure all, especially not when she knows every bit of your past that you are so desperately trying to lug off your shoulders but won’t, and that seeing the rest of your family and friends all be together while you miss out, is the true heart breaker of them all. I think that’s why it’s also SO significant that Claire’s occupancy has nothing to do with the kitchen. Like consider Pete and Nat, yeah, they’ve got nothing to do with cooking, but they do have everything to do with the buisness and technical side of The Bear, as do Jimmy and Computer, or the Fak’s w/ maintenance. They all have some sort of risk and stake to The Bear physically, wether their calling relates to food or not. Claire’s detachment from The Bear physically, and her being a stranger to the back of house and a guest in the front of house is SO significant. Because everybody else has a stake and understands ALL of The Bear (The Bear also being Sydney and Carmy), she doesn’t, Carmy wants that, he wants no stakes, but at the end of the day, when he gets what he wants and realizes that he’s now become a guest for the front of house and is merely someone looking into something he spent his entire life to build, he’s going to loose his fucking shit.
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
Also like to point out that when her mother says “I was your mother much upon these years that you are now a maid,” (translation: I had you when I was your age) you have to remember her father’s words: “earth hath swallowed all my hopes but she,” (translation: all the other children died.) The whole plot point of Juliet being an only child is explained by her mother being a Margaret Beaufort type who had her first child too young and it damaged her past the point of being able to bear more children.
Margaret Beaufort died in 1509. She was a major player in the Wars of the Roses, the swirling on-again-off-again civil wars that consumed England from 1455-1487. Romeo and Juliet was written and first performed in the early 1590s. Your average English person of Shakespeare’s day would probably have had at least a vague understanding of who she was and what happened to her, because she was a key figure in recent history and was still getting passed around as a cautionary tale.
There are two great problems with what happened to Margaret (and that her parents are trying to do to Juliet). One is easy for modern people to spot (but was also a common response back in her own day). And that’s the moral implications of what was done to her. She was too young to be married, and it was horrifying that she was forced into it so young. Every one of the adults around her either acted immorally or failed to protect her. They were wrong. This is what modern people see, and it’s important to remember that people back in her day mostly agreed with it. You’re supposed to think it’s fucked up! When girls were married that young (and it didn’t happen often!) it was a formality 99% of the time. It was for dynastic or financial reasons (the girl has lots of money and/or land and/or a title that her husband wants), but the “couple” don’t consummate their marriage for years. And it’s not just that they would have separate bedrooms. They might not even live in the same country until the girl was in her late teens and physically and mentally mature enough to bear and raise kids. Hell, a lot of times they didn’t even meet until the girl was older! They had this thing called “proxy marriage” where you would have two separate ceremonies, in two separate places, with each party saying their vows separately, one in one city and the other in a different one. So, yeah, sure, the girl was technically married at 12, but she didn’t actually meet her “husband” in person until she was 17 and they didn’t start sleeping together until she was 20. That was a thing they did.
The other problem, the one that modern people don’t notice, is dynastic. See, marriage wasn’t generally because you loved someone. It was because you had the resources to support a family, and you or your family wanted to pool those resources with someone. It’s about “our family has these resources, and we want that to continue.” It’s about continuity across generations. It’s about making sure that your children and grandchildren have the best possible resources to survive and thrive, whether those resources are land or a trade or a title or money or whatever. In order for this to work, you have to have kids! The family and the family’s resources depend on the married couple having children. If the couple doesn’t have children, the marriage is a failure. And that failure affects not only the couple, but both families. This is a really big problem. And you can’t have just one kid to pass on the family name, because half of all kids die in early childhood. If you want to be safe, you need several kids, to be sure at least one will survive to adulthood (when they can marry and pass on the family name and resources.
You know what happens when a girl has her first pregnancy too young? She is very likely to either die in childbirth, or have complications that destroy her future fertility. Just like Margaret Beaufort. Just like Juliet’s mother. In other words, the marriage is a failure, not just for her, but also for her family, and her husband (who can’t divorce her, it’s not allowed except in extremely rare circumstances), and her husband’s family. So even the people who didn’t have a moral problem with adult men having sex with pubescent girls had a practical problem with girls married too young because you are very likely to destroy the entire purpose of the marriage by doing it. As Shakespeare reminds us in the play through Juliet’s mother having been married too young and only having one child.
Shakespeare is telling us “yeah, this is fucked up. but even if you’re the kind of awful person who doesn’t think girls marrying too young is morally wrong, it’s also a problem for practical and dynastic reasons, don’t forget that by doing this wrong thing you are very likely to destroy what you most want out of it.”
another thing i noticed, the year my local community shakespeare theater did r&j, and i made the costumes so i got to watch the show every night: part of why capulet is telling paris, take your time, get to know each other, no rush, is that he still has his nephew tybalt as his heir. as long as tybalt is in the picture, there is no pressure on juliet to go further with paris, than get acquainted. once tybalt is killed, then suddenly capulet needs an heir, he needs a husband for juliet, now, this week. (the role of capulet is best given to the actor in the company that can do over the top apoplexy, you need to believe his urgency comes at least in part by how clearly he could drop dead any moment from giving himself a stroke)
i feel like this play is often taught in middle schools as if it was somehow relevant to, or about, teen hormone storms. really it's got more to do with the social structures around family and inheritance. leaving that context out makes it confusing, why is capulet suddenly flipping from nice dad to evil dad?
“the monster is supposed to be good-looking” “why didn’t gatsby just move on” “romeo and juliet is about two teenagers being stupid” “of mice and men is ableist” “wuthering heights romanticizes incest” “lord of the flies is about the innate evil in human nature” “holden caulfield is a whiny brat” “if i was orpheus i wouldn’t have turned around”
should be working on my degree at the best uni in the country but instead i’ve written 18k words of jess and rory and luke and lorelai to procrastinate a hamlet essay
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
should be working on my degree at the best uni in the country but instead i’ve written 18k words of jess and rory and luke and lorelai to procrastinate a hamlet essay
Heyyyy, I'm back with more messy, nuanced meta that nobody asked for and will probably just piss people off again, but whatever, I can't help myself, apparently.
I want to start out by saying that, concerning Luke and Jess's fight in S4 over whether Luke kicked Jess out or Jess "got himself kicked out," I am more on Jess's "side" here. But I have this irritating need to see things from other people's perspectives and figure out why they do the things they do. Luke is acting like Jess wronged him by leaving without a goodbye and never contacting him, and insists that Jess got himself kicked out. I see Luke as a generally good and straightforward man who is not usually INTENTIONALLY manipulative, but he is, despite the façade of taciturn practicality, a VERY emotional man who feels things VERY strongly, so I think he must FEEL like this is true. So, why does Luke FEEL like Jess abandoned and discarded him when Luke was objectively the one who told Jess to leave in the first place? One of the things Luke keeps bringing up is the "agreement" they made way back at the end of S2, when Jess said he "wanted to come back" and live with Luke again, and during the fight when Luke does kick Jess out it seems clear that Luke does not understand the way Jess's situation spun out of control. The situation from his point of view was that Jess COULD HAVE honored the agreement (if he CARED), but CHOSE not to because he DID NOT CARE. And no longer cared about Luke PERSONALLY. That's how he sees it. It's not TRUE, but that's how it looks TO HIM.
Luke does SOOOO many things that he does not want to do out of a sense of duty towards the people he cares about. His parents both got sick and died when he was fairly young, and he was the one holding things together, trying to hold his little sister together, and he didn't WANT to do ANY of that. But he DID because he CARED. Luke does not seem to understand that he and Jess are, despite their similarities, very different. Their situations have been very different and their personalities are not the same. This is emphasized AGAIN during these same episodes when Liz arrives. Luke expects Jess to do exactly what HE has always done and to play the same role (man up and manage Liz as best "we" can, because that's "our" job) and he cannot see that Jess's relationship with his mom is (and indeed HAS to be) very different from his. Jess didn't WANT to go to school. Fine. Who does? (Only freaks like Rory, that's who) But Luke had ASKED him to, and Jess AGREED (way way back), so Jess neglecting to do his duty means, in Luke's mind, that he DIDN'T CARE about HIM.
And the most obvious difference Luke DOES see between Jess and himself is that Jess is SMART, like Book Smart, in a way that he himself never was. Jess is ALWAYS reading and always "studying" SOMETHING- he burns with insatiable curiosity- and so the obvious conclusion to why a kid like that flunked out of school (as so many ADHD kids have heard so many times...) is that he "just wasn't trying hard enough," and the obvious reason WHY he wasn't trying hard enough is that he just DIDN'T CARE, and Jess's defiance about the situation didn't help. Jess's defiance was just him clinging desperately to the edge of "this is fine" while his life was going up in flames around him, but Luke didn't know that!
I really do think that, when Luke told Jess he "had to go" when he refused to go back to school, Luke assumed/hoped that his ultimatum would "scare him straight." The idea would be that Jess presumably (hopefully) liked living with Luke (loved Luke) more than he hated going to school, or at least liked living with Luke (loved Luke) more than he hated the idea of being homeless, but that's not how it worked out. Luke did not understand how desperate and hopeless Jess was feeling, and so do you know what LUKE thought had happened? Luke FELT like Jess would RATHER be homeless than live with him. THIS is why Luke jeers about Jess's living conditions in his squalid New York apartment. Because he TRULY FEELS like Jess would RATHER live in squalor than live with him. "You hate me that much?" Luke really does think that Jess hates him that much, and it HURTS him to think that. (He is SO WRONG about ALL of this, but this is GENUINELY how he FEELS, and this is why it's such a tragedy.)
The final ingredient in all this is Time. "Time heals all wounds," they say, but that's only true if the wound isn't infected, and this one IS. Luke has been festering in this hurt for MONTHS by this point. He may have started with "I failed him," but after the initial shock and dismay wore off, he's been dwelling over and over on all the things he interprets as Jess NOT CARING and rejecting all of the love and care Luke thought he was clearly offering. It's like he's been picking at it, so by the time Jess comes back, the wound is WORSE than fresh: it's angry and swollen and red, and sensitive to the very slightest touch (and Jess is the same).
Anyway, this is why I think the "I'm here, Jess. I'm always here," was SO important. Because he needed to SAY IT! They BOTH needed to outright say it! Because they both THOUGHT the way they felt was "so obvious" to the other one, but it wasn't, and that was a big part of the reason why it got so bad between them in the first place. They both needed to hear the other one say that they were WANTED, and that's why it's a satisfying conclusion to me, despite the way Luke had previously messed up. He always meant it, even when he made Jess feel like he didn't (just like Jess always appreciated Luke, even when he made Luke feel like he didn't).
"This is an explanation, not an excuse." Please do not take this as me saying "Luke did nothing wrong!" He did SO much wrong, not only at this point, but in everything that led up to it, haha. But I also think that his actions made sense TO HIM. SO MANY fights between family members (and humans in general) are like this. Families are messy, people are messy, LIFE is messy. Both Luke and Jess are very messy, but I love them a lot and, more importantly, they love each other a lot too.
Hello, my name is Saja. I’m a mother to a beautiful 8-month-old baby girl, writing this from a place I never imagined I’d be — surrounded by destruction, holding on to my daughter while the world around us falls apart. 💔
We used to have a home. 🏚 A simple place, but it was filled with love. Now it’s gone. What remains are memories, silence, and an overwhelming fear of what tomorrow may bring.
Each day, I wake up not knowing if we will make it through the next. My daughter should be learning to walk, to smile at strangers, to feel safe in her world — but instead, she’s learning to live in the middle of a war zone. 🕊️
I’m not writing this to ask for pity. I’m sharing our truth because silence won’t protect us. Maybe, through this message, someone will hear us — and care. 🤍
If you feel moved to share our story or offer support, it would mean more than words can say.
Every kind act ripples outward. ✨
i barely even go here (the only time i really watched gilmore girls was with my mom, through about season 2, i think), but your post reminded me: i see so much bad faith interpretation of the characters in the show, and rory especially, that it makes me wonder if the people offering critique even... like... the show
this is so real - everyday there's a new take about someone being the 'real villain' of the show for being momentarily cruel or complex and it gets to a point where ur just like ... why are you watching then?
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality
Anya is LIVE right now
FREE
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming