Dichotic-Phoenix

Wither do you summon this monstrosity upon thyself? Do you imagine I should call upon your politics or fetishes, as though you would be embarrassed of things you wear so openly? Or that I would poke fun of such strengths as events of emotional vulnerability and openness? No, those common targets are mean to hit, and accomplish regressive goals.

No, you want to be made fun of, and mocked, but lightly. And feel an illusion that people dislike you a little bit, because that feels familiar and paradoxically makes you feel safe, because you feel you know where you stand with people who are mildly annoyed with you at all times. Because you're used to that. And so you post such bait.

Rules: You MUST use all 3 ingredients in the dish, but may use any additional ingredients not listed to complete it. The dish may be established (apple pie) or something of your own creation.

Honestly there are so many sources that I wonder whether i even need to add one but here you go: Source

Thus, let's make a holiday for culturally appropriate approved crossdressing. Just a day where people get dressed up as the opposite sex, for fun!

people who can't safely crossdress or otherwise indulge in their clothing preferences otherwise having a day to do so

people being given a safe space and day to explore their relationship with gender and clothing - no matter if they end up being trans or not

trans* people being able to return to/try out clothes they could not wear or enjoy before, i.e. because of dysphoria or prejudice from their surroundings

Crossdressing Day is October 13th every year.

This is an all ages all genders non-sexual* holiday. On that day, try crossdressing. Maybe go to a party or a lunch or whatever, crossdressed. Try it out. Get someone to dress you up, or go by a thrift shop and find some second hand clothes to try out. The important thing is to have fun with it.

And it's not a gender-binary-enforcing holiday! You don't need to dress as the "opposite" sex. Dress androgynous or weird genders or whatever. (just please try to avoid "man in a dress" comedy)

Fellow trans people: you can use this holiday to dress more fem/masc than you usually do, you can use it to not have to boymode/girlmode, or you can just skip it, of course.

Anyway the idea of the holiday is that you can try crossdressing for fun. It's lighthearted and not at all serious. Obviously consider your safety first, because there is sadly still transphobia, but hopefully there'll be a little less once Crossdressing Day catches on.

“All milk is fine, caffeinated and not caffinated i’m game, hot and iced both work, it can be coffee or tea or anything.”

#oh and they start making a mystery drink for me every time I walk in the door now and the baristas will argue on who gets to make the drink

#when the manager I've never seen before went 'are you (full first and last name)' and thanked me for the review I was so happy #THEY PINNED IT ON A BOARD BEHIND THEM SO I SEE IT EVERY TIME I ORDER COFFEE NOW #AAAAAAA

Oh yeah there was a lot of "Hayes Code be damned, all of us making this film are queer/friends with queers and we're going to have some fun with gender identity" in this film. That's why it still holds up. It's not a story based around getting a laugh out of dressing men up as women so they can be clowns - there's an integrity to the cross-dressing. Daphne is an identity Jerry realized he had when he put on a dress. Every time he chooses to keep his wig and outfit on and maintain his feminine mannerisms while alone with Joe, it shows his comfort in this identity, and it elicits laughter from the audience through the dialogue, ie. the audience isn't laughing at the fact that a man is in a dress, but at the characters as fleshed out characters and human beings. The laughter comes from the situations the characters are put in and their reactions to them, not from a parody of womanhood presented through a male perspective. Similarly, Osgood's classic line at the end of the film is an affirmation that he likes Jerry as he is, even if he's Daphne. It's a way of getting the audience to say, "this is fine, we're comfortable" through laughter to something socially unacceptable in its time.

Joe's masculine identity, meanwhile, is used to highlight his misogyny and force him to understand it (and the same with Jerry, but as he's less of a womanizer, there's less of a point to be made with him). In a world where men and women often had separate social circles that overlapped only when romance was on the table, putting a man like Joe in a female space where he's privy to the conversations and emotions that his actions elicit gives him a lot to contend with and understand because he can see the consequences of his actions as raw pain and secondhand, instead of as anger being spewed directly at him. Again, the joke isn't that he's a man in a dress, or that he's parodying womanhood, it's that as a selfish misogynist he's put in situations where he's forced to empathize with the experience of womanhood in order to convincingly enact it for his own safety.

Now I am not going to spew out a wall of text on the subject or anything, but I did want to point out that he did not just "sneak things by" the code, he actually deliberately REFUSED to abide by it at all for this film, he willfully refused to even apply for the certification, he knew it wouldn't pass, and he knew he wouldn't bend to let it pass.

He and the studio took a gamble that a Wilder-Curtis-Lemmon-Monroe flick would do box office and get play without the "seal of approval" from the code folks.

The story has been updated and Daphne is a canonically trans woman (though granted, they do not use the term), and her relationship with Oswald (the man who want to marry her in the above gif set) is played as an unabashed, adorable romance.

They have also updated it to be a more racially accurate depiction of the Jazz club scene, so both Daphne and the Marilyn Monroe character Sugar Kane are both black. Not race blind casting; it's in the script, and Sugar Kane has a incredible solo on her experience with segregation.

It's a beautiful, touching, inspiring story, and one of my favorite adaptations, in any medium.