i just donât think âis dude gender neutralâ is that productive of a conversation because a word can be gendered and still used regardless of gender. i call my male friends girlypop and my female friends man but i donât think anybody would agree that those are somehow not gendered terms.
the real question is just âwould you be willing to apologize and stop using a word if somebody told you it made them uncomfortable?â the answer to which in a surprising number of cases is no mostly because it seems like overall ppl r more upset abt getting accused of transphobia than they are abt being transphobic






















