Iām allergic to soy. I didnāt know this until I was 28 or so. Before that, I avoided soy because my Mom had inflammatory breast cancer that could be exacerbated by soy. So soy was monitored in my house. Then I moved to Taiwan. I tried roasted edamame beans, and they were delicious. And made me so sick to my stomach. Vomiting and diarrhea and just feeling terrible. I thought I just got sick (flu, stomach bug, etc.) But it kept happening. Tofu, edamame, soy milk. Didnāt matter, it made me ill. So, I quickly learned the phrase ābuyao soyaā (I donāt like soy).
I had made friends with a big group of expat English teachers. And several were rabid vegans. I would mention when we went out to eat that I could not have soy as I was allergic. This was of course met with scoffs, because āno oneās allergic to soy!ā Fun fact, itās one of the major food allergens.
One day, a friendās band was playing at a vegan place, and I was there with some friends. We were doing a group order, and I told them just to not order me anything with soy, but I had to run to the toilet. I came back and the food came. My friends asked me how it was, and I said it was good. The looked smug, and said, we knew youād like tofu if you just had it right! I was so upset. I had to stop eating everything, and not 30 minutes later, I am back in the toilet sick as anything. My friends couldnāt understand why I was so sick. I finally said,ā Would you feed someone peanuts if they had a peanut allergy?ā No, of course not! āThen why,ā I asked, ādid you think it was ok to trick me into eating soy when it makes me sick?ā I told them I couldnāt trust them anymore, and now I was going to miss a friend playing in his band. I apologized to my friend, explained what happened, and said Iād catch their next performance. I was sick for two days.
Oddly enough, there was a vegetarian place that I loved, but I would always say buyao tofu/soya, and they finally said, āYou always say buyao soya, do you not like it?ā I told them, āNo, I like it, but it does not like me!ā They laughed, but understood that I had a food allergy, and from then on they would say, āOh, donāt get that one, it has soya! You canāt have it!ā