Someday, I believe I will hear the sound again

you mentioned that that article on menopause for trans and nonbinary people was aimed at transmascs and didn't have much ifo for trans fems.

that makes perfect sense tho in my mind, people who were have uteruses are the ones who experience menopause. trans fems dont. or am I incorrect in that??

its just that in my mind/to my knowledge, info on menopause isn't useful to trans fems because they wont experience menopause

Good question! (Believe it or not, you're not the only person who was wondering about this.)

So, peri/menopause isn't something only experienced by people who have uteruses. You can even have a uterus and/or ovaries, get them removed, and still experience peri/menopause.

Which is funny, by which I mean, makes it blatantly transmisogynistic, because transfems can experience peri/menopause but are frequently told it "doesn't count" because most transfems don't have a uterus and/or ovaries.

Peri/menopause, much like periods, is largely about estrogen and your general hormone levels. Not necessarily just about whether you have a uterus and/or ovaries.

There's actually a number of transfems who prefer to lower their estrogen doses as they age, as well as transfems whose estrogen levels drop for other reasons, and that can cause what's usually referred to as "menopause symptoms".

Its referred to as "menopause symptoms" in much the same way transfems having periods/PMS/PMDD is referred to as "having symptoms of X" instead of "experiencing X".

By which I mean, they can go through menopause, its just often differently than considered "normal" and the way its talked about is often transphobic.

So far, it seems as if it's not very common but given the fact that's been said about many transfem health related issues that people refuse to study, it's hard to say how common it actually is.

So information on menopause can be useful to transfems, they're just largely excluded from it! Even in discussions of trans people experiencing peri/menopause, unfortunately.

He asked: "Oh, was she the only son or something before *waves hand*?" and I was like, warily, no she has two brothers. And he responded with a great deal of confusion: "Then what's their problem?!?!"

When he found and married my mom, he was nearly 45 and they had so much trouble conceiving that he went to a Guanyin temple supposedly "magical" for praying for children. When I was born (not a son, also an only child until now), my mom said, "when you prayed at the temple did you ask for a son?" He said, "Aiya, everyone is asking for sons, so I said any gender is okay. If I asked for a son, maybe we wouldn't have gotten a child because Guanyin's son quota is already used up. Do you want that to happen?" My mom laughed for days about "son quota" and continues to tell people about it today, but her honest answer was: "Any child is okay."

Jokes on them. They didn't specify a gender, so Guanyin Ma gave them a non-binary child!

More seriously: my dad doesn't care about sons. When I told my parents that I wouldn't marry or have children, I thought he might be disappointed, but he wasn't. Then again, maybe I should have expected that, given he tried to become a monk at 18 🤪 I think he said the thing about sons to poke fun at people who care too much about sons because he frankly thinks it's all a bit ridiculous. In his eyes, a child is a child, so what's the point in caring about gender? If the child "changes" gender, does it make a difference?

Ahead of Pride Night, the team would like to announce the following changes:

3B Matt Chapman (#26) and SS Willy Adames (#2) have become married. They will proceed to get a divorce after Pride Night is over and not talk about it but continue to go to brunch together every weekend for the next 30 years.

OF Drew Gilbert (#0) changed gender to trans man.

OF Jung Hoo Lee (#51) says through interpreter: "I'm down for anything really, I don't know why everyone is so hung up about it."

DH Casey Schmitt (#10) has become position-curious.

- preheat the oven

- grease and flour a cake pan

-mix flour, sugar, salt and baking powder

-add eggs, milk, butter/oil and vanilla

-beat until smooth

-pour batter into the pan

-bake for 25-35 minutes

-let the cake cool completely

(the option with the most votes goes first, the option with the second most votes second and so on)

If your advocacy for Black people stops at Black queer people your allyship is conditional. If your advocacy for Black queer people stops at Black trans fems, your allyship is conditional. If your advocacy for Black people has terms and conditions you have unchecked racist beliefs to unlearn and combat within yourself. That is something you desperately need to address in order to be a genuine ally to the most vulnerable demographics of Black people within our community.

First off, there are three stitches that are really useful to know:

Running stitch - easiest and quickest to do, but weakest.

Ladder stitch - also very easy and quick, more sturdy, and also sometimes called an "invisible stitch" because the end result is pretty well hidden. Good for seams and tears.

Backstitch - a bit harder to do and definitely takes more time, also definitely more visible, but the end result is damn near indestructible. I used this to sew a couple chair cushions as a birthday gift for my mom out of scrap materials and the results have lasted years. I also used this to repair some couch cushions and take in a skirt whose elastic had failed.

Further Tips (from a non-professional, so keep that in mind):

*Threading the needle is the most difficult bit, but wetting the ends of the thread helps.

*If you tie off the ends, you're going to want to use a double knot. I've also heard a backstitch can be used to hold the string in place, but when I tried that, it came undone so I ended up having to tie off the ends anyway (but again, I'm not a professional seamstress, I just needed to get the job done).

*You'll also want the thread length to be several times the length of the tear - like 4-5 times, even more, especially for a smaller tear. This is because you'll need more length to tie off the ends, and you'll lose half the length of the thread at the very start (I recommend double threading - both for strength and because I've found it easier to do).

That's like telling me to pick the oysters off a pizza when I'm wondering why you put oysters on a pizza to begin with. Just do normal things like communicate and eat normal pizza 😭

My coworkers: man, youre a real red-card commie, aren't you? You gonna start telling us to vote NDP and that healtcare isnt a scam too? Jesus christ go give someone else your goddamn revolution pamphlets, lenin.

Me on tumblr: while i appreciate the animosity towards billionaires, i dont think literally dragging a guillotine into the streets and beheading people as a public spectacle is going to actually solve the problems inherent in the system considering the french already tried that and it didnt work out well for them. Also i dont think anybody has the right to decide who lives and who dies, im pretty anti death penalt-