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@avoidingavoidanceissues
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avpd culture is: a girl refused my offer to go see a movie together in 8th grade and i have literally never recovered from it. i've never tried to initiate an activity with a friend since. because obviously that girl didn't actually like me and/or thought i was super weird for asking and it'll surely be the same with anyone i try to ask now
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You wonât just keep missing great movies.
You could be missing great connection â¤ď¸
avpd culture is feeling lonely and longing for deep, meaningful friendships, and yet feeling almost nauseous when thinking about reaching out to people.
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You can always work through the avoidance.
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
â Albert Camus, The Misunderstanding
You donât have to understand to love.
But you can help them understand if you donât give in to the urge to run.
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
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It can be.
Reach out. Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš

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Learning to communicate in a healthy way doesnât mean you get it perfect. But it means you take accountability and make efforts to clarify if needed.
Fumbles are fine.
You can say:
âThat didnât come out right.â
âI was trying to ask for closeness, but it sounded like blame.â
Itâs okay to fumble. It doesnât mean youâre a failure. No one is perfect and you donât need to get it perfect every time.
The same goes for avoidance. You donât have to be perfect. It doesnât make you a failure. It just means you stumbled. You ran instead of talking. It happens.
What can you do about it?
Turn around. Reach out. Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
if i was no longer in your life, would you even care? did my presence ever matter?
Weâre willing to bet they do still care, and the presence you left in their life when you ran left a deep emptiness to them.
Reach out. Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
Love isn't something for the weak to do. Being romantic takes a hell of a lot of hope.
It also takes courage, it takes patience. It takes commitment every day. It takes overcoming your fears. It takes not running when things get hard or deeply emotional. It takes reaching out and talking about your concerns, your doubts, your anger, your hurt, your worry, your fear, your joy, your sorrow.
It takes healing.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
The Right Person Wonât Regulate Your Nervous System for You
Yes, relationships can be healing. Yes, co-regulation is real. But letâs get this straight:
The right partner can support your healingâbut they canât do the emotional work for you.
If you expect someone else to keep you grounded, calm you down, give you safety, stability, and a full sense of self, youâre not looking for a relationship. Youâre looking for a nervous system manager.
Hereâs the clinical side: co-regulation depends on both people having some capacity for self-regulation. If you canât soothe your own system, youâll treat your partner like a human Xanax. And when they canât deliver perfectly, youâll spiral. Not because they failed, but because you outsourced your emotional safety to them in the first place.
This isnât about shame. Itâs about clarity. The right person will hold space for youâbut they wonât heal your attachment wounds for you. Thatâs your job. Otherwise, your need for reassurance turns into emotional dependence, and closeness becomes claustrophobicâfor both of you.
Regulation is an inside job. Someone else can sit with you in the storm. But they canât calm the weather if you refuse to learn how to sit with your own thunder.
Are you building intimacyâor just outsourcing the parts of yourself you havenât learned to hold yet?
Once again we donât have much to add.
Yes. Call them. Visit them. Talk to them. Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
But make sure youâre healing yourself too â¤ď¸ a beautiful relationship is one where both partners are putting in the effort.
When youâre feeling down just remember baby
Weâre all fucked up
Itâs true. In some way we all are, but thatâs one beautiful thing. We all fuck up too. Maybe the reason you ran is they fucked up. Maybe you did and you ran to avoid dealing with it.
But you know whatâs not fucked up? Trying to fix it.
Reach out to them. Have a talk.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš

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None of us always know what weâre doing.
But we can support each other.
The people you love and whom love you can support you.
If you let them.
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
a quick âwhy is my life so badâ checklist
howâs your sleep schedule
have you eaten or drank anything besides sugar and caffeine
how long have you been sitting in one spot
have you gone out in public recently
have you taken a shower/brushed your teeth/groomed yourself properly
have you spent time doing an activity that doesnât involve a screen
etc
i myself needed to be reminded of this today. the freedom of summer also means the risk of falling back into bad habits if i'm not mindful
Be sure you take care of yourself today. You canât break the cycle if youâre not also taking care of your own needs â¤ď¸â𩹠get a snack. Get some water (not soda. Not coffee. Not tea. Water.) step outside for just a few minutes, then have a quick shower.
Then reach out to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
When your phone buzzes,will you quietly hope it's me?
- Evenlis
Maybe that one you ran from is hoping itâs you.
Maybe youâre hoping itâs them, even if you left no way for them to.
Maybe if you call theyâll answer. Maybe theyâll say âitâs ok. I missed you. I love you. I want you. We both need to do some healing, but youâre always welcome.â Maybe, just maybe, theyâll have learned better how to love you. How to recognize and ask. How to give space when itâs needed. How will you know?
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together
Gods, that's really beautifully put.
I can't agree with you more on this, when you love someone, romatic or platonic, your heart never forgets them. Only your memory blurs a little.
When people matter, when you're still thinking about them, it's worth a reach out. Maybe you can start again or pick up where you left or even get closure. It's worth it.
Always chase what your inner self tells you to go after. See what it's trying to tell you.
Beautiful response â¤ď¸âđŠš
hi, same anon from earlier asking about needs and wants. I just wanted to say your response helped me a lot, thanks again for the advice and space to send the ask
Iâm very lucky to have recently gotten back into therapy, but I never really knew what to bring up and how, and now I have starting points! which is really helpful
no need to respond (unless you want to), just wanted to say thanks
Weâre thrilled to hear that you took the initiative and big step to resume mental health care, and even moreso that we could help you have talking points. We know sometimes therapy can be a fearful process, both due to uncertainty and due to the fear of what it will dig up. But it is worth it. You make yourself better for YOU, and then you take that best current version of you and feel secure and safe in that youâre putting in the work to love yourself and someone else in a better place than before.
For what it is worth, anon, weâre all very proud of you!
Weâre so happy to have been this safe place for you. All we ask is you spread the message, and spread some kindness today â¤ď¸âđŠš
You are worthy of love. You are worthy of care. You have needs. We all do.
Itâs just deciding if that one you ran away from is because they canât fulfill those needs, or if youâre afraid theyâre able to, because what control that gives a person to know you. To know how to love you. To know how to make you feel safe, heard, seen, respected, loved, and valued.
Maybe, just maybe, you can have it all.
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš

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Attachment Style Isnât a Personality. Stop Using It as a Shield.
Attachment theory is usefulâuntil people turn it into a personality quiz and start hiding behind it like a diagnosis they found on Instagram.
Saying âIâm just anxiousâ or âIâm super avoidantâ might help explain a pattern. But an explanation isnât an excuse. It doesnât give you a pass to ghost people, chase validation, or emotionally disappear and call it boundaries. Thatâs not growth. Thatâs just dressing up your damage with clinical language.
Your attachment style is not a personality type. Itâs a set of survival responses your nervous system built early on, when your brain was still wiring itself around how safe it felt to need people. If your caregivers were unpredictable, dismissive, or inconsistent, your system adaptedâeither by clinging or shutting down. In clinical terms, these are internal working modelsâyour blueprint for what to expect from others and what you think you have to do to be loved.
The catch? Those models donât update on their own. They feel like âwho you areâ because theyâve been running in the background for years. But theyâre not hardwired. Theyâre habits. And the moment you treat them like permanent traits, you stop giving yourself the chance to change.
So yeah, know your style. Understand your tendencies. But if youâre using attachment theory to justify bad behavior instead of working through it, thatâs not insight. Thatâs emotional self-sabotage with a psych degree.
Is your attachment style something you're working to shift or just a convenient reason to stay stuck?
WeâŚhave nothing really to add here.
Except maybe itâs time to break the cycle.
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together â¤ď¸âđŠš
When your phone buzzes,will you quietly hope it's me?
- Evenlis
Maybe that one you ran from is hoping itâs you.
Maybe youâre hoping itâs them, even if you left no way for them to.
Maybe if you call theyâll answer. Maybe theyâll say âitâs ok. I missed you. I love you. I want you. We both need to do some healing, but youâre always welcome.â Maybe, just maybe, theyâll have learned better how to love you. How to recognize and ask. How to give space when itâs needed. How will you know?
Reach out.
Talk to them.
Heal together