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okay, here goes: i loved the way that this show had these two entangled from the start. having selina as the sole witness to the wayne murder besides bruce was an interesting twist and it felt almost like fate. of all the alleys she could have ended up in she ended up here, and while she was witnessing the most horrific event of bruceâs life - as awful as that was -, their destinies were now entwined.
having them meet and develop a bond as children really added depth to the bond that they inevitably share. other than me being a sucker for the childhood freinds romance trope, it made their connection feel more emotional and mental rather than just physical. they just connected. like the reason they know and understand each other so well is because theyâve been there. theyâve seen every single shade of each other and stuck with each other through all of it. itâs safe to say that (with the exception of alfred on bruceâs side) they know each other better than anyone else. and itâs clear in the relationship that they share. frequently over the course of the show, theyâre able to get through to each other in a way that no one else does. they call each other out on their shit and (i believe david and camren have said this as well) they each leave their arguments taking on board what the other has said. bruce realises heâs been an ass and strives to do better and apologise for it, and selina makes an effort to make more of herself (âiâm tired of just surviving, i want moreâ) and opens herself up a little more.
the parallels between to two of them were also really well done. you always got the sense that they were both walking the line, and while bruce always fell on the ârightâ side of this line, selina could fall both sides. and this in itself gave them an interesting dynamic. that they could be so similar and yet so different. and this is just another reason that they worked as a pairing (in whatever form that took). selina could always pick up the tasks that bruce couldnât (stealing things for him and using violence in a more extreme sense than bruce). and they both influenced each other - selina helped bruce see that things werenât always quite so black and white sometimes and that some things are necessary for survival and bruce often pulled selina back towards a moral centre if she fell too much the other way.
and even with all of this they always remained individuals and they never lost sight of that individuality no matter how strong and deep that connection was. they didnât sacrifice any part of themselves to be together and most of the time they respected each otherâs differences. selina did her best frequently to ensure that bruce didnât have to kill, because she knew that that wasnât who he was and that he wouldnât be able to deal with it (even if she herself would be able to) and while she encouraged some of his darker side, she made sure that he stayed the same pure hearted kid that she met (itâs good youâre changing just donât change too muchâ). and while bruce struggles to accept some of selinaâs darker acts in favour of insisting that theyâre the same, he never tries to force her into being anything other than herself, even if it hurts him to watch her spiral. another thing i loved about them was that, while they were amazing together (a true power couple honestly), their stories never revolved around the other. they remind me lot of that post that compared soulmates to a pair of socks. theyâre each a whole complete sock on their own and can manage perfectly well on their own, but theyâre amazing when they come back together as a pair. they had their own storylines going on and yet that connection remained very strong regardless. no matter how far away from each other they drifted, they always came back together. their bond is inevitable. they could have not spoken for months or been so mad at the other but even they, they still protected each other. we saw this in season 3 with selina. she breaks away from bruce in the fallout of her motherâs return and hasnât seen him for months and yet when five shows up and she realised bruce is missing, she stands up for bruce and decides to tell alfred so that he can find bruce. and selina at various points throughout the show saves bruceâs life. even if it almost breaks her rule of self-preservation. she often tells bruce that sheâs unwilling to go somewhere that puts her life in danger (âiâm not going backâ), but when bruce is the one in danger, more often than not, she does. she checks on him in 2x03, helps save him from galavan in 2x11, stays behind to get him, gordon and lucius out of arkham at the end of s2, comes to help him in 3x11 and proceeds to stand protectively in front of him and alfred when theyâre threatened, she goes to the diner in 4x16 and saves him from the fear gas in 4x21. and bruce similarly puts his own life in danger to save her. and it never comes across like selina is a damsel for him to save. most of the time she saves herself. theyâre true equals and i love that about them.
also this show gave them so many lighthearted moments as well which truly emphasised that love is at the basis of their connection. they truly care about each other and make each other happy. you see that the connection they share isnât just based on destiny or their similarities, thereâs a genuine emotional bond there which is truly what ties them to each other. they flirted/bantered, went on dates, comforted each other, and selina was the first person to get bruce to act like a kid and just have childlike joy in something since his parents died (despite alfredâs best efforts for the first part of s1). jim told bruce that there would be light and selina gave that to him. so much so that even alfred knew how connected they were regardless of his own feelings about selina, and he let her stay at the manor after all.
as you can probably tell by now, i have a lot of feelings about gothamâs batcat, they were really well written and brilliantly portrayed by david and camren. they worked really well together on screen and brought the writing to life. they made you believe that these two loved each other through everything they went through. the good, the bad, all of it. what they meant to each other was never in doubt. thereâs a whole lot of a soulmate feel to them. the fact that they always come back to each other, the fact that selina could calm bruce even as heâs living his worst fear (4x21), how similar they are and the fact that even after a 10 year separation, they can sense each otherâs presence still and their connection has not dimmed. and while it hurt a little to know that they werenât together at the end of the show, their rooftop scene gave me a lot of hope. selina finally verbalised her feelings for bruce (to him) - a rarity - and asks what will happen now. he tell her that he doesnât know (itâs up to her) but that heâll never leave gotham (her) again, before telling her to âreturn the diamondâ. it sounds almost playful and their game has begun. he knows she wonât return the diamond and she knows he wonât force her to, and now she knows that he did see her steal it and didnât do anything to stop her. (after all sheâs got him wrapped around her pinky.
just some thoughts to finish off with. there are a few lines in this show that i feel really sum up their relationship. the first: âwhy canât we just be us?â. selina doesnât like the label of âgirlfriendâ or âcoupleâ but on a deeper level the âusâ fits them a lot better. bruce and selinaâs relationship transcends a lot of these labels. theyâre more than just a couple and they are a lot of different things to each other. so many things that âgirlfriendâ and âcoupleâ doesnât seem to do their connection justice and feels like and oversimplification. secondly âiâll be here whenever you need meâ and âwhose side are you on, bruce?â/âyours. always.â. this is what their bond is. theyâre almost on their own side. no matter what selina is always there when bruce needs her and vice versa. as iâve said no matter how far they drift apart, it doesnât matter because they are always there for each other.