Hyperfixation Diary

putting ketchup on fries is too permanent for me … i have to dip . i control the sauce

The upside to the adhd forgetting that you made yourself a drink thing is thinking to yourself “man I could go for a drink right now” and looking to your right and seeing a drink has appeared there. Thank you, past me. I lost you somewhere but you have still provided.

someone said it's also a cautionary tale about mistreating your wife and I think that's spot on especially for other related types of stories e.g. the crane wife. like I think these stories are very much Husband Anxiety Stories. the Woman-Creatures are black boxes whose interior experience it is impossible to know and who have strange and often seemingly arbitrary rules that you must follow or else they will disappear. idk. like. that's why I think that any empowering-to-women-ness qualities of these stories is incidental. I think they're externalized anxiety about coercive societal heterosexuality and the inability to truly Know one's wife in such circumstances.

oooo yes absolutely!

was just talking to Story about this and he told me about one folktale where a guy meets a beautiful woman at a lake and she brings a bountiful dowry of like one million fat cows and such and she is of course a fairy so she's like "my one requirement in our bargain is that if you strike me three times I will leave" and in many versions of the story the husband doesn't ""actually"" strike her -- each time it's something like, one 'strike' involves her forgetting her gloves inside and he walks out and taps her on the shoulder with her gloves, but she tells him that counts as striking her. this sort of thing. which is TRANSPARENTLY like "whoa wouldn't it be fucked up if your wife could enforce consequences for behavior she said was harmful, even if according to your cultural norms it was fine, and you didn't see it as a big deal?" like... lol. what if women could actually be the ones who decided whether or not any given action their husbands took against them was harmful? IMAGINE... PREDEY SCARY....

Half of the comments on this are taking it to be about literal snakes and I just want all of you to know that I love you

Now that ALL of the comments are taking it literally, I take all of it back

@official-graveyard-posts

Official graveyard post

“it isnt something you have to read critically” well 😭

this technically is true but I think this also perfectly encapsulates why I am inherently distrustful of like. “”cozy”” “turn your brain off” fiction lmfao. like okay WHO gets to turn their brain off and who has to suffer through bigoted caricatures of themselves while everyone else is having cozy silly no brain time 😐

No fictional character gaslights themself more than Katniss Everdeen. “It feels pointless comparing [Gale’s kiss] to my many kisses with Peeta. I’m still not sure if any of those counted,” she claimed, KNOWING DAMN WELL. All that evasive effort just to later on expose how she did indeed cement the one kiss that gave her a stirring sensation and a craving for another into her mind. But yes, Katniss, being able to detect that Gale’s lips are in fact warmer than the chilled air and that he ate oranges earlier - while you had your fists tightly clenched against his chest in discomfort - is totally in the same ballpark.