š« katniss/gale
LOL. Well, everyone would be miserable. Listen, I am less allergic to exploring this terrible relationship dynamic in writing than a lot of people (on the way to something better, of course), but like letās talk about WHY. A really compelling part of Everlark to me is that they both have some really warped core beliefs about their own worth and value to other people in relationships, and they ultimately heal this by choosing each other.Ā
But where do these core beliefs come from? We talk a lot about their mothers, but Katnissā fear of Asteridās depression doesnāt really explain a lot of things about her senses of guilt and obligation and relationships being tit-for-tat and suspicion. You know what does? The older kid she desperately glommed onto for survival at 12 years old and looked up to because she was a literal baby and he seemed so much more mature and wise, who thinks all that shit himself and feels entitled to her simply because heās put in the time. Sheās always so anxious about his reactions because deep down she knows his reactions are not nice. He is the one who taught her that relationships are transactional.
Anyway Iām old enough to know that, for better or worse, sometimes the only way out of a bad core belief like that is through it, so sometimes Iām up for therapeutically writing about that as a stop on a journey to a happy ending where she unlearns the bad things he taught her about other people and her own worth. But Gale and Katniss will fall apart in any universe, because they donāt have similar values at all and he is absolutely responsible for many of her self-esteem issues.
I love this analysis that Gale is the person who made Katniss view relationships transactionally. Itās not much of a stretch, heās a great option for the source of that world view.
I think often about this moment in the first arena when Katniss needs to ditch Peeta to hunt successfully. She works hard to phrase it in a way that wonāt bruise his ego and sheās surprised when heās not angry with her. WHO do we think taught her that a boys pride needs to be protected or else heāll get upset? This is after she took off her shoes along with him so he wouldnāt think heās the only problem when definitely he is. She never coddles him like this again, once she knows him better. She did this because she always had to do it with Gale.




















