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> “I’M GONNA GET HIM PREGNANT!”/“the boy impregnator”/anything similar where the joke is that the idea of a pregnant man is absurd, impossible, or outside of the realm of reality.

> Pregnant man emoji reactions to Discord messages.

> Commenting on the pregnancies of real men with anything about ao3, fanfiction, or omegaverse.

Shout out to trans people who don't have cis counterparts.

Shout out to multigender trans people who still identify with their original assigned gender alongside other genders.

Shout out to intersex people who identify as trans despite their gender lining up with the gender they were originally assigned at birth due to their bodies feeling incongruous with their gender identity or to being reassigned a different gender later in their childhood/life.

None of this makes any of you less trans. Your gender experience is yours to define and if you say you're trans, you are trans. It's okay and, in fact, pretty normal to have a complicated relationship with gender.

Shows you how much you know

I know several trans men who can piss standing up without meta or phallo. I've seen it for myself quite a few times now actually.

Step 2: feet shoulder width apart (if at toilet have shins/knees touching or right in front of bowl) with pants down far enough to allow that (down to knees for me)

Step 3: hook fingers on either side of tdick and pull back to the sides

Step 4: jut hips out forward a bit but not too far, kinda aim urethra with your fingers (hard to explain sry)

Step 5: piss. Adjust aim if necessary.

A teenager cannot get body modifications. But a parent can pierce a baby's ears.

A teenager (or even a 20 year old) cannot buy cigarettes. But a parent can smoke in places where their toddler is forced to be.

Compulsory dyadism was coined by Celeste Orr in the book Cripping Intersex. It's a term to describe a system of oppression that targets intersex people.

Specifically, compulsory dyadism is the idea that there are immense amounts of societal pressure to conform to a mythical sex binary, and that society builds different structures and mechanisms of violence to try to enforce this sex binary.

the myth of the sex binary is that everyone can be sorted into either a male or female sex, and that everyone who is "female" has to have XX chromosomes and a uterus and ovaries and is capable of becoming pregnant and a vulva and a vagina that's capable of having penetrative sex (it also becomes clear how gender roles + sexual norms get attached to sex traits) and the "right" amount of body hair and a predominantly estrogen based hormone system etc etc etc. and the idea that everyone who is "male" has to have XY chromosomes and a large penis and testes capable of producing sperm and a flat chest and the "right" amount of body hair and a predominantly testosterone based hormone system etc etc etc.

in truth, even among endosex (non-intersex) people, there are plenty of ways that not all these boxes are going to line up. there are plenty of endosex people with uteruses who are not able to get pregnant, there are plenty of endosex people with penises that are not considered sufficiently large compared to this mythical ideal. and this is where the compulsory part of compulsory dyadism comes in--in response, we see all kinds of societal pressure to conform to these "ideal" sex traits. for example, there are so many different kinds of hair removal products marketed to women. there is widespread acceptance of jokes where the punchline is around shaming dick size.

compulsory dyadism impacts everyone to a certain degree, but intersex people are the most impacted. our bodies inherently disprove the myth of the sex binary, and as such, become treated as a threat that needs to be eradicated. this can look like nonconsensual surgery, sterilization, and other examples of curative violence; structural discrimination that makes it impossible to be legally intersex (i can't get a passport in the US right now, for example); and all sorts of ideas, practices, social norms and policies that are violent towards intersex people.

i think compulsory dyadism is a useful framework for helping us think about how "biological sex" is a socially constructed phenomenon, and i think it can help us look at ways that ideas about sex traits change in different times and contexts. it can help us identity ideas + practices that contribute to the oppression of intersex people, even when those ideas or practices might seem unconnected and might not on the surface talk about intersex issues.

i also think compulsory dyadism is a useful way to look at how other systems of oppression work together, and how all these combined forces define what is considered "normal" and "abnormal." in my post before this I was talking a lot about how eugenics, white supremacy, and antiblack racism collide with compulsory dyadism to create different kinds of violence. I've also been thinking a lot about compulsory dyadism and transmisogyny and some specific transmisogynistic pressures around dyadic sex traits and the sex binary. (as always my blog is a space for transfeminist intersex community and I will block transmisogynists who try to engage with my intersex posts.)

short answer: yeah, probably.

long answer: this is not really something that i personally feel called to spend a ton of energy going around confronting people every single time i see a joke because it just really does not feel at all worth my time. but i think it is something people should be thinking about a little deeper than a lot of people are right now. because all the jokes do add up to create a social environment where it's understood that micropenises are shameful.

and i can't find the link right now, but there was an article published in some bioethics journal several years ago evaluating doctor perspectives on what kinds of intersex surgeries are "medically necessary" or not. and one of the common arguments that they saw doctors making to parents is that they would argue that infant surgery was medically necessary not because of anatomical function reasons, but for the "psychosocial wellbeing" of the child, because without intervention, the child would face shame for their penis size as they got older, and that would be bad for the self esteem of the child. and like there's a lot of bullshit to unpack in that logic around medicalization there, but i think that's a pretty clear example of how societal norms around penis size + compulsory dyadism escalate into causing direct violence towards intersex people.

"You cannot transition to being intersex as it is a congenital sex status that describes the way the body naturally develops. Inferring that someone can become/transition to being intersex is harmful because also implies that the reverse is true, and that those of us subjected to Intersex Genital Mutilation, medical abuse, and harm are no longer intersex. It implies that we can be "corrected" to perisex and that we can be erased. People who have neutral, nonbinary, or mixed sex transition goals/acquired anatomy can use "Altersex" instead of appropriating the intersex label."

this is the most concise explanation, but here's more:

"It is a common misconception to confuse intersex and trans experiences. We share some, but being intersex doesn't make you trans. Same as being trans does not make you intersex. However it is very much possible to have an intersex condition and be trans at the same time. For some of us this is a very painful reality when the individual got altered as an infant without consent only to realize later in life to re-alter what got forced upon them."

And as far as the "say you're intersex to avoid transphobia" thing goes:

"Not only is it inappropriate to pretend to be part of a minority group you have to be born into but it also harms us as you will misrepresent our experience, struggles, etc. and this contributes to our erasure. It is offensive and ignorant of our realities.