tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
Well what about [XYZ]?
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
Some Tags:
#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
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B-but people with micropenises are my emotional support minority to bully!! 🥺🥺 B-but it's funny that their penises are small!! 🥺🥺 B-but I only make fun of BAD people by calling their penises small!! 🥺🥺 I have good reason to make fun of people with micropenises!! 🥺🥺 It's not intersexism if it's funny!! 🥺🥺 It's sooo funny because their penises are small!! 🥺🥺 Guys it's sooo funny come on!! 🥺🥺
Hmm I wonder why trans men would relate to characters who are insecure in their masculinity or feel out of place among other guys. I wonder why trans men might think that a weird man who wears baggy clothes and tries too hard to be masculine could be transgender. It’s probably because tmes are evil right
"wish you guys could have our backs" WELL, if you call them slurs the minute ONE trans man says or does something wrong or transmisogynistic and you say you are "not surprised", you are basically doing the same fucking thing but transandrophobic. Treat others how you want to be treated.
oh it's so nice to shit on trans men and generalize them when 90% are NOT transmisogynistic and also cherrypick marginal examples and make them the rule, right?/s
EDIT: what's funnier to me is that the guy that they are talking about did not even fucking say that, so not only they made a bigotted broad generalization, but they also misunderstood what he meant.
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Flag description: A six-striped horizontal flag. From top to bottom, the stripes are light pink, warm brown, (off) white, dark charcoal gray, muted medium blue, and coral red. Four stripes are equal in height. The two center colors, white and charcoal gray stripes, are each half the height of the other stripes and together equal the height of one full stripe
Flag meaning:
Pink: Wifehood, the identity and role of being a wife.
Brown: Domestic responsibilities and traditional wife duties
White: The idealized image of the "perfect wife" and the expectations attached to that role
Black: Failing to meet those expectations or fulfill those duties.
Blue: The pathetic, awkward, "soggy" yet endearing nature of the wife failure archetype.
Red: Being loved, cherished, and adored despite, in fact FOR, that failure
Pink > brown > white: sorry honey I burnt dinner, let's have ice cream
I used an off white and off black to be easier on the eyes / not so harsh
The argument that trans men and transmascs are overrepresented in feminist and lgbtq activism is a particularly rancid and stupid argument for a lot of reasons but one is because it directly conflicts with the idea that they "have no culture" and "do not contribute anything real to the community." Hmmmm it's almost like the enemy is both strong and weak or something... 🤔
If I see one more transmasc suggest lying about being intersex to pass better I'm going to lose my fucking mind.
"But what if they ask why my voice is so high?" Literally just laugh it off, make a joke or say something to the affect 'idk' or if your still a teen/preteen say 'my voice hasn't dropped yet'. That's what cis men with high voices do.
If you've done this in the past just please don't do it anymore.
I think it would certainly be an experience to have only an ounce of a dose, just once, of whatever self-righteous, ego-fueled power trip elasticveins is on that makes him think calling strangers insane, disgusting, weird, bitches who should grow a brain is "respectful" but I fear being an asshole (that's bigoted) to strangers simply bc they disagree w me regarding a fucking headcanon would make me sick to my core and I would hate my own existence until I felt I had done enough to repent at least three times the damage I had dealt during that time.
I think only positives could come from not receiving any more anons regarding him even if we are pointing out his bullshittery 🙏 just keep that in mind anons but don't feel guilty, I just have other things to be getting to rather than spending nearly a month on the same unhealthy thing. While I can't stop people from sending him anons, all I can do is suggest an request you don't poke the egotistical bear
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the refusal to analyze manhood and masculinity as an axis of identity that intersects with all other facets of identity and influences the way one is treated beyond the most basic, surface-level “man = privileged” is an example of male defaultism and i’m tired of people pretending it’s not.
flags coined by an indigenous queer belonging to the tsalagi and mvskoke nations, requested by an indigenous queer who belongs to the cheroenhaka nation
the purple and white motif used across these flags is to represent wampum. the red, blue, and white colorings and hue tones in the flags is representative of the cheroenhaka tribal colors, which represent loyalty and patriotism and are seen commonly in regalia
the acorn and feathers are symbols taken from the cheroenhaka tribal shield. the acorn and leaf represent the fall season, an season with important cultural events and significance. the feathers represent eagles, the four directions, and forced removal from tribal homeland
The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.
It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.
After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.
If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!
Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com
The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.
I think most people, even within the queer community, fail to recognize trans men as an entity in itself. You're either trans or a man.
The idea that someone can be fully and wholly a man and still not be afforded the privileges given to cis men is foreign to most. The identity of "man" is synonymous with privilege and power, so when trans men say "hey I'm not as privileged as you think I am, there's more to it" that's unbelievable to most. They think we're purposely misgendering ourselves to gain imaginary oppression points. They compare us to cis men who refuse to acknowledge the privileges they do have because there's no such thing as a man that isn't privileged.
Its upsetting because it puts us in a bind. Either we suck it up and take the very real oppression we face head on and keep it to ourselves, or we advocate for ourselves and face ridicule for implying we aren't privileged or we're outright misgendered.
it both saddens me and really fucking aggravates me when some types of trans men pride themselves on being good, quiet, pliant men, and put down the ones that want to be outspoken.
when the subject at hand is how we're erased in topics that affect and often outright kill us (see: reproductive health, homelessness, sexual assault rates, etc), I don't see anything admirable about going "well, we're still men, so this isn't our place to speak over women." it's speaking over women to say we experience this too?
if I want to be blunter than usual, I'd say this "sitting down and being a good little trans guy" shtick only helps the people that want us dead. if talking about how we're oppressed (instead of rocketing up to some place of absolute privilege like they assume) upsets some people, frankly, I don't give a shit. I'll maybe give a shit when my trans brothers stop dying of sepsis, slaughter and suicide. until then, I hope being forced to acknowledge us makes you feel guilty enough to listen.
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“gay trans boys always have ‘bi’ boyfriends who are actually straight and see them as women” you are normalizing abuse
trans men, and especially younger trans boys, who are attracted to men are specifically targeted by abusers who attempt to limit their transitions and ignore their boundaries, especially sexual boundaries. trans men are told growing up that under patriarchy, our value comes from our bodies, and that by transitioning we ruin this. this leads to a belief that once we transition we will be unloveable, and that the pleasure our bodies bring to men is more important than what we want. this makes trans men incredibly vulnerable to this type of abuse.
and yet, instead of addressing these boyfriends as abusers, the queer community laughs about it. many of these jokes are self deprecating jokes by trans men, yet they rarely call out the dynamic as abusive. when non trans men make these jokes, it is even worse, making fun of minorities for being victims of abuse
if you see a trans man, especially a younger trans boy in a relationship like this, treat it as seriously as you would any other type of abuse
