tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
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#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
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flags coined by an indigenous queer belonging to the tsalagi and mvskoke nations, requested by an indigenous queer who belongs to the cheroenhaka nation
the purple and white motif used across these flags is to represent wampum. the red, blue, and white colorings and hue tones in the flags is representative of the cheroenhaka tribal colors, which represent loyalty and patriotism and are seen commonly in regalia
the acorn and feathers are symbols taken from the cheroenhaka tribal shield. the acorn and leaf represent the fall season, an season with important cultural events and significance. the feathers represent eagles, the four directions, and forced removal from tribal homeland
The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.
It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.
After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.
If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!
Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com
The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.
I think most people, even within the queer community, fail to recognize trans men as an entity in itself. You're either trans or a man.
The idea that someone can be fully and wholly a man and still not be afforded the privileges given to cis men is foreign to most. The identity of "man" is synonymous with privilege and power, so when trans men say "hey I'm not as privileged as you think I am, there's more to it" that's unbelievable to most. They think we're purposely misgendering ourselves to gain imaginary oppression points. They compare us to cis men who refuse to acknowledge the privileges they do have because there's no such thing as a man that isn't privileged.
Its upsetting because it puts us in a bind. Either we suck it up and take the very real oppression we face head on and keep it to ourselves, or we advocate for ourselves and face ridicule for implying we aren't privileged or we're outright misgendered.
it both saddens me and really fucking aggravates me when some types of trans men pride themselves on being good, quiet, pliant men, and put down the ones that want to be outspoken.
when the subject at hand is how we're erased in topics that affect and often outright kill us (see: reproductive health, homelessness, sexual assault rates, etc), I don't see anything admirable about going "well, we're still men, so this isn't our place to speak over women." it's speaking over women to say we experience this too?
if I want to be blunter than usual, I'd say this "sitting down and being a good little trans guy" shtick only helps the people that want us dead. if talking about how we're oppressed (instead of rocketing up to some place of absolute privilege like they assume) upsets some people, frankly, I don't give a shit. I'll maybe give a shit when my trans brothers stop dying of sepsis, slaughter and suicide. until then, I hope being forced to acknowledge us makes you feel guilty enough to listen.
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“gay trans boys always have ‘bi’ boyfriends who are actually straight and see them as women” you are normalizing abuse
trans men, and especially younger trans boys, who are attracted to men are specifically targeted by abusers who attempt to limit their transitions and ignore their boundaries, especially sexual boundaries. trans men are told growing up that under patriarchy, our value comes from our bodies, and that by transitioning we ruin this. this leads to a belief that once we transition we will be unloveable, and that the pleasure our bodies bring to men is more important than what we want. this makes trans men incredibly vulnerable to this type of abuse.
and yet, instead of addressing these boyfriends as abusers, the queer community laughs about it. many of these jokes are self deprecating jokes by trans men, yet they rarely call out the dynamic as abusive. when non trans men make these jokes, it is even worse, making fun of minorities for being victims of abuse
if you see a trans man, especially a younger trans boy in a relationship like this, treat it as seriously as you would any other type of abuse
I’m writing this from personal experience. To make this very clear I’m not saying this is universal proof of anything just my personal experience with an event and my minimal experience in general with pride events.
I was invited back to NYC Pride again this year, but I won't be going. In the past, I've had other trans men tell me to 'go touch grass' because there are fewer trans women like that in the real world, but my actual experience told a different story.
I don't go out much for Pride to begin with, and what happened when I did go to NYC completely shut me down to it. I was marching in the protest against the Broadway production of Jagged Little Pill regarding their erasure and mistreatment of the trans/non-binary community. It was a space that should have been rooted in solidarity. Instead, a trans woman took the microphone and explicitly told trans men to stay to the side and keep quiet on community issues, claiming that trans women are doing things right and have it worse. As I remember it, she actually specifically told us to shut up.
I haven't been back to an NYC Pride-related event since. Even at a rally meant to stand up for the community, my friends and I were told to shut up. What made it worse was that her behavior was applauded by women in the crowd and fully accepted by whoever coordinated the speaker lineup. She was allowed to continue to talk. (To add here there was WAY less applause than other things she said during this event but it was still generally accepted to say)
You can say it's my own fault for letting one terrible experience make me throw my hands up and be done, but it didn't help at all. Now, I will barely even go to a gay bar without fully researching the venue and the event to guarantee it is genuinely transmasc-affirming. If I can be promised a space where trans men are actually safe and respected, I’ll go. But I refuse to step back into a generalized “trans affirming experience” that treats transmasculine people this way.
Anyways happy pride to everyone and especially people who accept trans men.
If I see one more person do this I’m actually gonna tweak out. That cis guy character can be a trans man. That cis woman character can be a trans man. Headcannoning a cis character as trans is not killing anyone’s representation and that is pretty obvious.
Blocked the person who said this but What the fuck. Actually it’s incredibly gross and weird to headcannon a TRANS WOMAN as a man what is wrong with you. Genuinely grow a brain you’re disgusting for this.
It's funny, OP, how the trans part of trans man suddenly gets dropped so you can dramatically and performatively act as if a trans woman is being misgendered. It's also funny how you intentionally changed transfeminine to trans woman, implying that all transfeminine people are trans women, which simply isn't the case. The same can be said of how you change transmasculine to man, implying all transmasculine people are men. Congrats, you walked face first into being exorsexist.
Ppl keep assuming that all the ppl doing this are changing the characters into their own genders when I've literally seen many trans women hc trans women as trans men, and trans men hc trans men as trans women. They're still trans. It's a head canon. If you have a reasoning behind it I don't think it's ... [Checks notes] disgusting
Got blocked for this lmao. Anyways veins has made it apparent (link) that he is not only exorsexist, but transphobic overall, as well as racist, and saneist (and thus, abliest)
Heads up for the block list: user antisocial-club-penguin
They post incredibly racist rhetoric, they're anti semitic, they use ableist slurs, and they make posts saying that all trans people should commit suicide. All of their posts are vile and they're using various trans tags. Stay safe!
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Being transmasculine is odd cus on one end of the spectrum everyone is telling you that you're privileged and evil and basically just a cis man (even if you're nonpassing), and on the other end you're watching your brothers being raped and murdered and buried under their dead names while being falsely listed as a femicide. (this faulty documention will be wielded as proof of your privilege)
"oppression olympics" is a term that reeks of reactionary sentiment. ever heard of v-coding? do better.
Thank you for asking this with your blog name attached, makes it much easier to block you
"kill all femboys forever", over a fictional character no less, seem kind of reactionary, don't you think?
Also wow. Yes I know what v-coding is. Your casual use here tells me that you might not. Or that you don't care.
Using something as vile as that in comparison to, what, saying that oppression isn't a hierarchy? is honestly pretty disgusting and disrespectful to the victims, while also watering down such a heinous crime. What, did you feel like calling me a pedophile wasn't me enough?
"Why there isn't more trans men in history, contributing to queer advancements?" damn I wonder why people who were previously women that were forced into marriages and into being property either of their fathers or husbands would have a hard time coming out as a trans man. Truly a mystery. Oh wait you're also telling me people that lived their whole lives as men but were outed after they died are actually lesbians that did that to scape sexism? That's so cool. What more are you wrong about.
"materialism" is a really funny word/concept on the face of it, like, what do you mean you need a special word for "politics based on observable verifiable things actually happening In Real Life". and then you look at the stuff materialists are criticizing and go "ohhhhh okay"
A few years ago I went to pride and I think someone wanted to say my mobility aids were cool but didn't want to sound weird so they went "I like your.. stickers! on your mobility aids (:" bc saying "I like your mobility aids" could sound weird as fuck but I would've understood what they meant lmao.
How do you go "same hat!!" when you don't have yours w you? I think maybe that's what happened. Or maybe just happy to see diversity or bc my crutches ARE cool and decked out
A few weeks later, I went to a flea market. At one point one of the vendors went "those are some niiice forearm crutches" and we chatted a bit, I talked about how they're made in our state which I thought was cool (:
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ugh stop letting a few niche micro bloggers on tumblr make you think transfeminism has an issue with antitransmasculinity…wait no don’t look at any other social media site either… no no don’t look at the most popular published transfeminists …. fuck no shit wait don’t look at the coiner of transmisogyny …
it’s not a tumblr issue. it’s not a bluesky issue. it’s not a twitter issue. its not an instagram issue. it’s not a tiktok issue. it’s not a fucking reddit issue. it is on every goddamn site i have looked for community. it is on fucking youtube for christ’s sake. it’s in the literature staples. it’s in the academia. it’s in the in-person community. story after story and story responded to with “this isn’t a wide spread issue it’s just happening in [insert whichever specific place that person was].”
i repeat for what feels like the hundredth time though i think it’s only the fifth: if you do not think an axis of oppression exists then you will without a doubt be perpetuating it.
most transfeminists i have seen over the last three years of observation do not think they can be meaningfully bigoted towards trans men and mascs. they do not think they can meaningfully hurt us. they do not think they need to check their biases. so their biases are going unchecked, and my god is the harm and bigotry abundant.
the problem is fucking everywhere. stop belittling us every time we try to bring it up bc it’s just a [blank] issue. i am going to scream now okay? okay.
thing i've noticed: tumblr users will be like "ugh tumblr users can't take a joke!!" and then the joke is always "kill all [minority group]"….. call me woke, but i think, if you can't handle being told that your "joke" is fucked-up & bigoted, maybe don't tell fucked-up & bigoted "jokes"..?
