tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) ⢠Vulvar Hypospadias advocate ⢠Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system ⢠neutroix hermafagdyke ⢠one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is notâoccasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotryâthis means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like âtransitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etcâ]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigotsâ"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"âwill be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiorityânamely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bĂŚddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" đ)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bĂŚddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of âTboy Strapâ (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGABâs Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
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#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
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"Why there isn't more trans men in history, contributing to queer advancements?" damn I wonder why people who were previously women that were forced into marriages and into being property either of their fathers or husbands would have a hard time coming out as a trans man. Truly a mystery. Oh wait you're also telling me people that lived their whole lives as men but were outed after they died are actually lesbians that did that to scape sexism? That's so cool. What more are you wrong about.
"materialism" is a really funny word/concept on the face of it, like, what do you mean you need a special word for "politics based on observable verifiable things actually happening In Real Life". and then you look at the stuff materialists are criticizing and go "ohhhhh okay"
A few years ago I went to pride and I think someone wanted to say my mobility aids were cool but didn't want to sound weird so they went "I like your.. stickers! on your mobility aids (:" bc saying "I like your mobility aids" could sound weird as fuck but I would've understood what they meant lmao.
How do you go "same hat!!" when you don't have yours w you? I think maybe that's what happened. Or maybe just happy to see diversity or bc my crutches ARE cool and decked out
A few weeks later, I went to a flea market. At one point one of the vendors went "those are some niiice forearm crutches" and we chatted a bit, I talked about how they're made in our state which I thought was cool (:
ugh stop letting a few niche micro bloggers on tumblr make you think transfeminism has an issue with antitransmasculinityâŚwait no donât look at any other social media site either⌠no no donât look at the most popular published transfeminists âŚ. fuck no shit wait donât look at the coiner of transmisogyny âŚ
itâs not a tumblr issue. itâs not a bluesky issue. itâs not a twitter issue. its not an instagram issue. itâs not a tiktok issue. itâs not a fucking reddit issue. it is on every goddamn site i have looked for community. it is on fucking youtube for christâs sake. itâs in the literature staples. itâs in the academia. itâs in the in-person community. story after story and story responded to with âthis isnât a wide spread issue itâs just happening in [insert whichever specific place that person was].â
i repeat for what feels like the hundredth time though i think itâs only the fifth: if you do not think an axis of oppression exists then you will without a doubt be perpetuating it.Â
most transfeminists i have seen over the last three years of observation do not think they can be meaningfully bigoted towards trans men and mascs. they do not think they can meaningfully hurt us. they do not think they need to check their biases. so their biases are going unchecked, and my god is the harm and bigotry abundant.
the problem is fucking everywhere. stop belittling us every time we try to bring it up bc itâs just a [blank] issue. i am going to scream now okay? okay.
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thing i've noticed: tumblr users will be like "ugh tumblr users can't take a joke!!" and then the joke is always "kill all [minority group]"âŚ.. call me woke, but i think, if you can't handle being told that your "joke" is fucked-up & bigoted, maybe don't tell fucked-up & bigoted "jokes"..?
it pisses me off when I see people on here who shit on trans mascs/trans men for existing (cis and trans people alike) who try to act like they arenât just singling out trans mascs/men. âno no, I hate all men! itâs not transphobic!â but like. you scroll through their posts and itâs all âstupid birthdays boysâ âthese whiny transandrocuntsâ âtheyfabsâ. none of these people will EVER hate a real cis man as much as they hate the trans masc straw man in their mind who is apparently responsible for every transphobic policy ever pushed.
I almost want to go out of my way to ask why is it only directed towards trans men and trans mascs but I know that no productive conversation would come from that.
To any trans man who needs to hear this: When they say they âhate all menâ or want to âkill all men,â you donât have to just accept that. Itâs okay to feel hurt, itâs okay to feel unsafe. Itâs okay to recognize that they are either othering your manhood or demonizing you for it, and to call them out for it if youâre in a position to. If they have trauma around men, they can work on that in private instead of expressing harmful sentiments around their marginalized male friends. You deserve love and safety. I love you and I hope I can help you feel safe.
I used to say things like that when I was a worse person and far less happy.
Not only do you not have to accept it, you SHOULDN'T accept it. Push back, your gender has all the capacity in the world to be beautiful and wonderful and amazing. It shouldn't just be respected, it should be fucking cherished.
If you're a man, live to be the best man you can fucking be, be fucking proud of it! Not cause it's any better or worse than any other, but because it's YOU, and there are people, including myself, who love you <3
People hate trans men so much that they outright fabricate events to justify their hate. I just had someone tell me, when I asked how the "trans man was whining," tell me that his girlfriend said it. When I pressed how his girlfriend explaining the situation was him whining, I get "because she was explaining what he said to the bouncer, are you dense?" I said that the OP clearly said the bouncer never spoke to him, and she never mentioned him speaking to her. "Well I misremembered one small fact that doesn't disprove my point" that was the majority of your point... This is just TODAYS example of such fabrication
Bonus: when I made a post about this last year I found this flier. Take comfort in the fact that trans people did see this and did make noise about it!
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This is a really good example of how TERFs disguise their attacks against trans men, and why itâs so harmful to consider TERF attitudes towards trans mascs as infantilizing.
The post is made to appear sympathetic to the man they are mocking. âLook at this poor âgirlâ and how heâs mutilated himselfâ sounds sympathetic, especially to trans people who are subjected to aggressive, direct attacks on their identities and humanity.
But this performative sympathy is just a front so that TERFs can enjoy being cruel without appearing as the aggressor. This allows the audience to still enjoy the pleasure of engaging in cruelty while dressing it up as pity.
This plays into the broader tactic TERFs deploy with trans mascs.
Rarely ever do they confront us directly the way they do with trans women.
In fact, because they see us as women, their primary objective is to make sure we are never ever heard at all, so that they can maintain the narrative that none of us would ever transition of our own free will.
Instead, they poison the well. They talk to our âhandlersâ. Our parents, our doctors and psychiatrists, our husbands, boyfriends, our pastors.
The veneer of sympathy is not to appeal to trans men. It is to appeal to those they see as having ownership over us. When trans men fight back against this, the malice comes out in full force.
Trans men do not get attacked less. The attacks are simply not recognized as such, because even in protesting oppression, we place it on a hierarchy.
But this performative sympathy is just a front so that TERFs can enjoy being cruel without appearing as the aggressor. This allows the audience to still enjoy the pleasure of engaging in cruelty while dressing it up as pity.
Perisex trans people you have to actually listen to intersex people and not just occasionally remember we exist when it's time to use us as a talking point. This means you need to accept that our relationships with things like agab and sig will be fundamentally different from perisex people's. This means you need to accept that we will not fit neatly into any model in which you separate people or make assumptions on lived experiences or needs based on agab.
with the amount of people who make fun of transmascs and shit on us for expressing anger or any other less palatable emotion â¨because weâre menâ¨, youâd think we were actually allowed to feel those emotions in the first place, and werenât just denied this dimension of the human spectrum of feeling our entire lives, yknow, like we were perceived as and treated as women or something
The whole "men can't show emotion that's a woman thing" to make people think "women are allowed to have emotions" never made sense to me. Like y'all realize women are still not allowed to have emotions bc then they're being "stereotypical annoying emotional women who can't think rationally" right. In the patriarchy no one is actually allowed to feel and express their emotions, they're so punished for it
I hate that people keep pretending that trans menâs being men isnât related at all to their oppression.
If a trans man werenât a man, he wouldnât be trans.
His claiming of man as his gender is the exact thing he is being oppressed for.
This is how intersectionality as a framework is supposed to be used to look at this, not, âman doesnât add another oppressive force.â
And before I get, âbut if man doesnât add an oppressive force, how can the oppression be intersectional. Isnât that just transphobia now?â
Thatâs still a huge misunderstanding of intersectionality, and Iâm not sure Iâm going to be able to be the one to help here.
But simply, the best try I have, is that the patriarchy and sexism still create something else which oppresses trans men that isnât âjust transphobiaâ. It targets them specifically for claiming manhood, as well as for anatomy they may have been born with as trans men which society uses to see them as being not men, and social knowledge of them âhaving been a womanââŚ
Manhood doesnât add protection for trans men except in the extreme circumstance of being absolutely stealth (as in youâve managed to have a life where no one you have to interact with for the rest of your life will ever be able to figure out that youâre trans, and youâve cut off anyone who knew you pre-transition).
And it fascinates me that people like to claim that non-passingness means that trans men will be seen as precious little girl flowers who are cherished. Because often we have mixed sex characteristics. And intersex people and trans women talk extensively about how having mixed sex characteristics is dangerous. But weâre never thought of as having mixed sex characteristics, only as perfectly stealth or pre-everything. And why is it that stealthing privilege is considered for trans men, but not trans women?
Oh, because women are oppressed anyway so they canât be safe really? Okay then why are pre-everything trans men so safe? If a person who is assumed a woman is actually a trans man, thatâs someone who will be treated as harmless and beautiful, and if that person assumed to be a woman is actually a trans woman, that someone will still be at the mercy of misogynists? How does that work? Are we really doing a fucking âthey can always tellâ?
Or maybe itâs that a trans man can state that heâs a man and the oppression would stop? I can tell you that the opposite is true; that asserting youâre a man when someone has assumed youâre a woman and is mistreating you for that, only gets you treated worse. And again, why is this something only available to trans men? Can people not lie to try to be safer? Is that not what stealthing and closeting are to a degree?
Anyway, that got a little off the rails from my original point. But it does show the absolute absurdity that you have to accept to disbelieve a marginalized community trying to speak on the oppression they face.
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transmascs : hey so our lives are closely tied to women's rights, we are affected by legislature restricting reproductive rights, and we would not be able to express ourselves at all if it wasn't for the work of feminists in the last two centuries and -
TRFs : transmen need to shut THE FUCK UP about feminism it's not about YOU birthday boy, check your privilege #bombthatkillsallTMEs #transfeminism
