tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I am not interested in going over your intersex OC concepts. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
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#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
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the word "transandrophobia" does not imply a systemic hatred of men it implies a systemic hatred of trans men. notice that prefix? trans? we're not talking about cis men here, stop changing the subject. we're talking about the systemic oppression of trans men.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: the bioessentialist lense of radfem ideology will always swing back to hurt you, even as a transfeminine person endorsing this supposedly new strain of """trans inclusive""" radical feminism.
you might hate men, manhood and masculinity, you might personify the oppressing class of the patriarchy in every expression of these things but ultimately you’re raising a beast that’ll bite you too.
the moment you start feeling dysphoric you’ll see a man in the mirror and you’ll hate him just like you hate all men.
the body hair and facial stubble you’ve decreed to be the mark of the enemy you will find growing on you.
the edges and shapes that you’ve declared embodiment of all you despise you’ll see in every mirror.
Your transandrophobia IS transmisogyny as well.
Feminism cannot grow to healthy things from hatred and aversion.
Feminism is for men and women, it’s for nonbinary people and for agender folks.
Your childish desire to demonize a class of people will come around to hurt you too.
puppygirl logic 101: trans women's genitalia has no inherent sex or gender and is totally value neutral. a penis is the same as a vulva. trans women can refer to their cocks and balls endlessly, including their their blog usernames, and this doesn't indicate any connection to maleness, masculinity, or manhood, because genitalia is neutral. but if and when a transandrocunt refers to his uterus, vagina, vulva, menstrual cycle, or reproductive capacity in any regard, that is a sexist attack on trans women, an insinuation that he is more authentically female them, and a clear indicator that he isn't actually a man and has a lingering and possibly filthy or dangerous connection to femaleness or womanhood. it isn't sexist to think this way because genitalia and reproductive organs have no sex.
it's intersexism to benefit from IGM by lying about being intersex to access medical care btw. perpetuating and upholding intersex medical abuse for your own benefit is intersexist and claiming that intersex people (who can also be trans, mind you.) should support that and be okay with it is not only obtuse but dangerous for us.
it is not transphobic or infantilizing to trans people for us to say it's dangerous and ignorant for perisex trans people to claim to be intersex. and I'm tired of the idea that intersex people are uniquely out to destroy trans people's ability to transition comfortably.
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Okay so 🙏 that's one of my irl friends (NOT op, the person in the screenshot, Skail/Ajax). And here's the thing. She was born with a vagina but had it closed as an infant because fae was forcibly assigned into being a boy? Like given a masculine now-deadname and parents originally used he/him and still hasn't changed pups legal gender. Which I feel like could be obvious for an intersex person? It and I actually have the same intersex condition so I expect the same for myself honestly after us talking. But I only became a trans woman more recently and Skail came out as a trans girl at 13 before they even KNEW that they were intersex or even realized they didn't have "typical" genitalia (since we have talked and both have ambiguous genitalia). Infinte killing of intersexists holy shit.
"I am an intersex trans woman"
"I am a plural trans woman"
"I am a non-binary trans woman"
Without everyone and their dog asking "ERM so are you one of those FAKE trans women (woman pretending to be a man pretending to be a woman) or are you a (man pretending to be a woman ) REAL trans woman"
LET GO OF YOUR IDEAS OF "AGAB" DICTATING "WHICH TYPE OF TRANNY YOU ARE" RIGHT NOW PLEASE I AM BEGGING. Listen to intersex, non-binary, and plural trans women!!
hey so trans men are being forcibly detransitioned in prisons in the hopes to preserve their fertility. and the president admitted this but it didnt even start under him its been happening. why arent we talking about this? why isnt this a discussion?
I know I'm trans fem but adding onto this since I'm a felon whose been inside and the issue is actually more fucked than it appears.
Part of why it isn't talked about is because of the method of detransition isn't always so black and white and it gives prisons a way to hide what they're doing. A devious and immoral slight of hand with the beurocracy.
When trans men are OFFERED to be put into the mens section, it's specifically as a threat. It's "Hey, we CAN put you with the other "men" but you know how men are....right? You KNOW how MEN ARE...right?"
There is a threat of rape and exploitation there far above what other inmates experience.
My pod mates were super chill with me being trans. Rules are different and you can't get offended easily, but it was the guards who kept touching me up, it was a guard who stabbed my hand with a pencil and gave me a scar there, and it was a guard who raped me.
So it's not just that trans men are being denied hrt and forcibly detransitioned.
It's that they are being told they have to pick between forced detransition in an environment where it will be AFAB bodied people exploiting them or they stick to their hrt and are in an environment where AMAB bodied people will be exploiting them.
These kinds of threats are big for trans people who are incarcerated. Many prisons and jails avoid it by just putting the person into lock down their entire stay (like me. My cell was 16 hand by 12 hands wide. I could walk my cell wirh 3 large steps. Sucked)
My language is imperfect but I hope my point is coming across that the issue is actually more devious than it comes across
"Go outside" not in the sense of "be in nature to reset your brain a bit" but in the sense of "go and look at how the world actually operates when you aren't in a bubble of people with your shared thoughts and beliefs every so often to remind yourself of how privilege actually operates in the real world."
"Trans men aren't victims of real transphobic violence, they're just seen as mentally ill girls (and therefore safe)" is a belief that only exists if you have never seen how women with schizophrenia are treated. Look at how conservatives SNEER the words "mentally ill" when talking about LGBT people they want to murder. Them calling you "mentally ill" is not a sign they want to protect you and help you "recover" like you think it is due to spending time on sites that are generally more positive to mentally ill people. When conservatives call someone mentally ill, they want that person locked up and forcibly medicated for the rest of their natural lives at best, and killed at worst. Go outside. Watch.
"transandrophobia isnt real! trans men suffer bc theyre trans, not bc they're men! just how like black men suffer because they're black, not because they're men!" loud incorrect buzzer. first of all, black men suffer because they're BLACK men *and* because they're black MEN. do you not know about the hypermasculization of black boys, for example? a black boy does something vaguely negative, and headlines are all "Black Male Attempted To Kill Young White Girl" and then it's a 15 year old black boy standing up for himself when some middled aged white woman calls him slurs.
Now, onto trans men. Just one example: when a trans man (or masc) wants to start T, he is met with "no, dont get on t! testosterone makes you aggressive!" "testosterone makes you hairy!" "testosterone makes you ugly!" "testosterone makes you xyz!". this experience is unique to trans men and mascs. trans and cis women dont go through this, and neither do cis men. this is called transandrophobia, which is transphobia unique to trans men and mascs, or a type of transphobia that mainly targets trans men and mascs.
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Yeah I'll kick the hornets nest: you should not be making egg jokes about strangers, especially to their face. These kinds of jokes are potentially damaging to closeted trans people, because you don't know someone's situation. Maybe they already know they're trans, but are in an unsafe situation. Maybe they just aren't ready to address it. Maybe they'll start doubting if they actually want to transition or they only think they want to because a bunch of people told them they do. And it's especially bad if, say, you're making a transfem egg joke to a trans man who isn't open about his transness, which could lead to serious dysphoria (and vice versa for trans women). Not to mention how terrible it is to do this to nonbinary people. Do not joke about a nonbinary person being a binary trans egg, it's extremely disrespectful and transphobic to do so. And it's hard not to notice how implying someone is an egg only extends towards binary genders. Imagine someone is doubting their gender, and everyone is telling them they're obviously a trans man egg. They might end up forcing themself into that binary because they think that's what everyone wants.
All of this isn't to say you can't kindly and respectfully say "the things you've been saying sound very similar to the trans experience, I think it's possible you may be trans, but ofc it's up to you to decide whether or not to look into it". I very much encourage that, especially if the person is your friend and seems to be struggling. The thing that's really bad is making jokes at the possible closeted trans person's expense, or thinking of "cracking an egg" as something to brag about and not something to help someone through because you care about them
i think its interesting how lesboys are talked about as “men INVADING the lesbian community” but you hear almost nothing about turigirls (if thats not the right word lmk)…some of yall really are radfems in all but name bc this is just infantilizing women/fems and demonizing men/mascs yet again, can we stop????
im really appreciating the conversations around masc pregnancy as a trans man who wants to be a dad one day, bc unless something changes for me the most efficient and simplest way for me to be a dad is through pregnancy and childbirth. and i want to live in a world where i can freely and safely do this without compromising on my own existence. this does tie in with the conversations about how many trans masculine people with uteruses face the prospect of forced detransition through pregnancy, because ultimately we all have the same need: for pregnancy care (to both continue and end it) to be degendered, for visible pregnancy to not directly equate to femininity, and for ALL pregnant people to be treated with dignity and respect and given as much bodily autonomy as possible.
I don't know what else I could add to the discourse around this cause hooooooly shit yeah, a lot of people on tumblr do the whole, "I don't know anything, I'm just a widdle puppy/baby"
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Julian Nadeau Obituary: 21-Year-Old Killed in Fatal Stabbing Near I-295 and Tukey’s Bridge, Community Mourns
Julian Nadeau Obituary: 21-Year-Old Killed in Fatal Stabbing Near I-295 and Tukey’s Bridge, Community Mourns
The community is mourning the tragic loss of Julian Nadeau, a 21-year-old whose life was cut short following a fatal stabbing near I-295 and Tukey’s Bridge. His sudden passing has left family members, friends, and loved ones devastated as they remember a young man taken far too soon.
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She was better known as JuJu and was deeply loved by her friends (such as @/cedar_yote , @/DakotaHeeler and @/RiveFreakhound on twitter) in the fursuiting community
If you believe trans men are "only" seen as confused girls then you are, more likely than not, willfully ignoring the transmasculine experience. Trans men and mascs have been talking for years and years about how there is more to it than that.
First, there's the ignorance about what being treated as a "confused girl" means. It means being infantilized, it means being institutionalized, it means having your body autonomy stripped from you, it means being put in your place through rape and abuse, it means being property, it means forced to become a wife and mother. Thats what happens when you're a "confused girl".
Second, the "confused girl" stereotype dwindles the more masculine a trans man/masc becomes. Then he's dangerous. He's a predator; here to steal your daughters away to become hysterical, defective, unfuckable things like himself. He's going to take her fertility, her beauty, her ability to contribute to "proper" society. He's invading women's spaces. He's tricking straight women into being lesbians and gay men into being straight. He is past the point of no return; he can no longer be "fixed"; he must be killed.
To ignore these; to assert that trans men and mascs are "only" seen as confused girls, are never seen as predators, is contributing to systemic transmasculine erasure. Do better.
