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Meowdern Intersex Purrspectives
@intersexcat-tboy
tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
Well what about [XYZ]?
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I am not interested in going over your intersex OC concepts. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
Some Tags:
#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
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Frankly I think a lot of Tumblr users think there is no overlap between trans women and gay men like there is between trans men and lesbians 1. because RuPaul did a great job intentionally convincing at least two generations of baby queers that gay men and trans women don't share culture because he's a transmisogynist piece of shit who intentionally kept trans women off Drag Race for years - shattering the perception of our community overlap in the eyes of the mainstream, 1.5. and that culture he cultivated in the mainstream made you afraid of drag as an art so you're uncurious about it, and 2. you're afraid of learning about balls because they're not sanitized white queer culture.
Once upon a time a huge proportion of trans women came out from the gay community. My trans mentor was one such person. It was a core part of our history, one of the only communities where we could experiment without (much) fear. Trans women who still ID as gay (for men) fucking exist, just like trans men who still ID as lesbians. It’s pretty normal to want to keep IDing with the community which gave you your life and stay part of it. Transitioning shouldn’t mean giving up that community, and the expectation that we should is transphobia.
In my experience, one of the reasons the idea of "brain gender" is such a persistent gremlin even in ostensibly progressive spaces is that a lot of folks haven't really abandoned the bioessentialist framework of gender, they've just modified it to include trans people, and trans-inclusive bioessentialism falls apart if brain gender isn't real.
(above meme by @intersexcat-tboy your brain is massive ty)
Transmedicalism is still transmedicalism, even when you dress it up in new and "more progressive" language, and just about any intersex person – myself included – can tell you that hyper-pathologization is no path to liberation.
At no point should the goal ever be to make an already-vulnerable demographic that’s often mistreated by medical establishments into an even more vulnerable demographic that medical establishments hold even more structural power over. Reject "brain gender" rhetoric TODAY!
Getting hit w the "it'd be different if you physically couldn't, but I know you do [this one specific activity often], you just don't feel like [doing a different activity]" from my partner , once again affirming the eternal fear of being a burden due to my disabilities and that, I must accept that I will exist in my own alone state of understanding without anyone by my side, to carry it solo, that it will continue be seen as some choice of a moral failing and not an accomodation
i feel like sexism and transphobia are two sides of the same coin
ppl often say that trans women are “too masculine” to be women (and the inverse goes for trans men)
but that brings up so many questions:
why are they too masc/fem?
what assumptions are you making?
what cis women do you think of as truly feminine?
what about cis tomboys? are they not real women either?
also when ppl say trans people aren’t their gender they usually call trans women: aggressive and demanding. this implies that cis women can’t be these things, that they must be dainty and quiet. this is compounded by the fact that when a trans man is quieter or more demure, he is called feminine and not masculine enough - proving that in the mind of a transphobe women are supposed to be submissive and overly-classy.
I saw someone on reddit say something along the lines of "congrats you just learned trans girls behave like girls and trans women behave like women" how exactly does a girl or woman behave to be labeled a girl/woman? Are you (not you) genuinely unaware how many girls and women have been oppressed under the guise of not "behaving like a girl/woman"?
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holy fuck threatening detransition against a whole group of trans individuals for not performing as you desire is so fucking disgusting. "trans inclusive" my ass, you're just a terf perpetuating the patriachy that forces trans people into boxes that kills them. this is literally an example of transmascs and trans men getting punished for their masculinity, it specifies transmascs and trans men and sets a punishment that specifically target transgender individuals (note how it isn't "forcefem cis men for not performing masculinity as i desire" (<- also gross and perpetuates misogynistic ideas) but specifically "detransition")
also if that last ask wasn't anon PLEASE delete it, i don't really want anyone to know that i didn't know i had a vagina for fhe longest time
It was, and it's okay!! It's totally understandable if you weren't prepared/expecting to have such anatomy. I'm glad you've been able to learn more about your body ☺️
I'm sorry if this is a dumb question, but what does vesicoureteral reflux mean? I just recently learned I have a vagina (I didn't know why I had a weird canal by my balls for the longest time) and I'm trying to learn all the vagina stuff right now, and I'd much rather hear what another intersex person has to say about it rather than anyone else.
It can happen to anyone! It's not just a thing that occurs in people with vaginas (:
In short, it's when urine travels backwards from the bladder up the ureters, which are the tubes that connect your kidneys to your bladder, and back into the kidneys. The grades (1-5) are determined by how far it goes. 4 & 5 are the most severe, causing severe swelling and twisting of the kidneys
Is there any connection between vesicoureteral reflux (VUR) and vulvar hypospadias?
Yes, absolutely there is. There are a few studies that mention it in my overview (link) if you haven't checked it yet!
One (link) mentions that "the incidence of urinary abnormalities in [people with vaginas] who have CAH is significantly higher (21.2%) than in the general population (2-4%). They include vesicoureteric reflux grades 1 to 3, hydronephrosis, and renal duplication." This doesn't give us a number for VUR specifically, but it helps give us an idea.
Another study (link) mentions of the 220 people with varying forms of hypospadias, 16 of them had VUR! Doing quick math, gives us about 7.25% occurrence rate
X “trans men MUST have male privilege because cis men have male privilege. If you say trans men DON’T have male privilege then you must not see trans men as real men!”
-defines manhood through a cissexist framework and tries to force trans men’s experiences to fit within that framework. denies the manhood of any trans man whose experiences cannot be easily mapped onto cis men.
✓ “trans men ARE real men, but they are not granted systemic access to male privilege, and whatever benefits individual trans men ARE able to access are limited and highly conditional. We should expand our understanding of men/masculinity to better account for their unique experiences.”
-acknowledges trans men as men first and foremost. accounts for the material reality of trans men’s experiences and expands our understanding of manhood accordingly.
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TERFs, on a fundamental and very literal level, genuinely don't think (cis perisex) women can ever do anything wrong. You can clearly see this in how they talk about cis men and trans women: they say "men" are, essentially, biologically wired and socially encouraged to be sexually violent predators towards "women," who are apparently never encouraged to be sexually violent in any way, and that's one of their many reasons as to why they think trans women aren't women, because "real women can't be [sexual predators.]" When confronted with the fact that this obviously false to any normal person, they say, "It's not possible for women to rape men because men hold such an overwhelming amount of privilege over women that a woman sexually assaulting a man wouldn't be nearly as traumatizing as the inverse situation, so it's not comparable to call both of those situations by the same word. Also men are basically robots who don't feel pain anyway, and if they did, they'd deserve it lol."
... HOWEVER, when a gay trans man dates a cis man, they immediately drop their whole "women are precious little angels who can do no wrong" act. Suddenly it becomes "You're a predatory homophobic woman forcing gay men to have sex with a female," even though they claim women can't be rapists and the feelings of men don't even matter because they deserve to be hurt for being male. And that's kind of my whole problem with the idea that "TERFs love trans men/TERFs only hate trans women," because when you really analyze it, you notice they just... don't treat us and talk about us the same way they talk about fellow cis perisex women. Everything that applies to "women" doesn't apply to us when they want to villanize and misgender us. They claim that they love us because they feel they have some inherent kinship with us, but when it comes to trans men and cis men, TERFs will always side with cis men no matter what.
TERFs do not love trans men, just like abusers don't love their victims. They "love" the idea of being able to force us to detransition so we can be "normal women" again. If someone loves the idea of trans men detransitioning back into a cis perisex woman, then they don't love trans men: they only love cis perisex women.
There was something that a trans masc friend told me that truly hit me so deep in my gut that I can't ever forget. This was before I interacted much with the online trans community or even other trans people much at all (outside of close uni friends).
It was that his whole life being seen as a women, he was never taken seriously, ignored, called whiny and dramatic. And now as a trans men, he gets the exact same treatment but from within the community as much as without. And he's expected to just put up with it because if he gets angry and fights back, he's immediately portrayed as the angry man who takes the angry hormone (testosterone). But up until that point, he's a whiny, insecure little bitch every time he dares to ever speak up about his experiences and problems.
I think what gets me about "Society wants trans women dead, and trans men to detransition" is that there's this...potential implication that is very infantilizing to trans men and our struggles.
Many people have pointed out how this idea poses being detransitioned back into being a cis woman as a privilege, or a less cruel fate.
But here's what I think those who believe detrans is better than death are missing, and also what they are implying.
They are missing/ignoring the countless trans men who would fight tooth and nail to remain as trans men. The ones who would refuse to go down without a fight. Who would rather be killed than made into someone's pregnant and barefoot trophy wife. And subsequently the consequences of doing that.
And then the implication is that detransitioning, for trans men, is either "not that bad" or...trans men would just comply. We would be told "You aren't a man, you're a woman, now lay down and get pregnant" and just...accept that? That we are somehow so malleable, so placid, that if enough people told us to stop being men, we just...would?
Like this is just some big game of pretend we're playing, rather than some major part of our identities?
Y'all know what I mean? "Society JUST wants trans men to detransition" as though us trans guys would just huff and sigh begrudgingly as we are institutionalized, forcefully wedded, and so on? That it's some mild inconvenience to be removed of our autonomy, and forced into something we aren't?
That we would just go along with it, while our trans sisters are murdered in the streets??
Like, are you fucking serious?
Again, anyone else getting this vibe from these people who really downplay this shit? "JUST detransition" like "JUST put on your dress so we can go to Church already!!" as though we're a bunch of fussy children who are throwing tantrums over silly things? It's so fucking gross, and while I would hope that's not what these people mean, I think many of us have also seen how eager these people are to infantilize trans men and transmascs.
People will disparagingly make comments about hypothetical he/hims with visible breasts without pondering the circumstances of the him in particular.
Are they a choice he has made, or are they a circumstance he simply has to live with? Is he low-income, does he have health care, does his health care cover gender confirming surgery? Does he have medical conditions that make binding dangerous? Will his family block him from pursing the surgery? Does his partner beg him not to lop them off because they’re so fun to play with? Will his transphobic boss get suspicious if he takes time off and returns with a flat chest?
Why are we assuming that the choice he has made now is the choice he will make forever, or a choice made without coercion?
And if he does retain his breasts fully of his own volition... why are we disparaging him for making a decision about the shape of his own body?
I have to say the whole thing with estrogen being potentially regulated and TRFs taking the moment to, instead of talking about, say, governmental abuse and transmisogny, immediately started going off about how "SEE this is PROOF we're SO much more oppressed than those evil whiny cuntboy zippertit Tee-Em-Ees"
Only for it to be pointed out by hundreds of people that testosterone has been regulated for NEARLY FOURTY YEARS.
Yeah that circus act basically sums up the entire discourse in one go tbh
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Really pisses me off when someone makes what would be a really good post about misogyny but then drags trans men into it, and wildly misconstrues their experiences to paint then as benefactors and/or perpetrators of said misogyny. And then when people (usually trans men) point out that what they're saying about trans men is not accurate and usually transphobic they start in on the whole "typical man you want to talk about everything except misogyny don't you". Like no, I would love to have a genuine conversation about the way misogyny has shaped out culture and the effects that has, you're the one insisting on shoving your head in the sand and refusing to listen to marginalized people about their experiences.
This post is so funny literally proving OOP’s point. Most of “transfeminist” Tumblr can’t handle how queer people described themselves in the 90’s either. Ntm that at least 50% of these are clearly transfems describing themselves, which it’s pretty fucking transmisogynistic to police the language they’re using. The only possible issue is the use of the h-word if said person wasn’t intersex but it’s the 90’s. All these people sound cool as fuck and would probably call OP a cop
Also this is "My Gender Workbook" by Kate Bornstein a transfem who literally helped to pave way for transfeminism (in fact this book is arguably the first ever transfeminist workbook) and these are the replies that she chose to include in her book about gender diversity.
It's very clear that for many people, the mere act of supporting a transgender man or transmasc person is enough to throw trans women and transfem people under the bus, even including transfem people who have spent decades developing transfeminism and gender activism.
