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I will always advocate for every queer person's right to be a fully autonomous sexual being-and that always must and always will include asexuals. Recognizing the significance of queer sex should not mean that every queer person should be mandated to meet an arbitrary sexual prerequisite in order for their queerness to be affirmed. Centering queerness around sex leaves very little room for queer folks for whom sex is insignificant, or for whom sex is never or rarely possible, or for queer folks who have never had sex before, or for queer folks whose only sexual experiences have been violent. It also leaves a lot of queer people, especially young ones, feeling pressured to have a certain amount or certain type of sex in order to legitimate or prove their queerness to themselves or to someone else.
-Sherronda J. Brown, Refusing compulsory sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture
... I want this on a shirt
i feel so seen!!
(twitter thread)
Examining 'gender detachment' in the asexual community

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I want old aros so badly. I want a history. I want a future. I want tales of lives that I understand. I want to see myself in a future where I’m happy and comfortable.
But I don’t have that, so I’ll have to build it.
I’ve got a story!
When I told my grandmother’s friend group about aromanticism most of them didn’t understand, they were polite and asked a lot of questions, some didn’t really believe it bc well, people in their 70s are rarely that open minded; but there was this one lady that looked pensive and when the others quieted down she asked me if the name for it had existed long, and when I said no she told me about her best friend:
A 74 year old woman who had married young, back when my country was in a fascist dictatorship and women couldn’t have/make their own money, so their only hope was marriage. They lived together years, and I’m not sure if they had children, but as soon as it was legal for her to divorce she did, and, living in a small town, she faced her neighbours’ questions and judgement: Was he a bad husband? Did he cheat or treat her badly? Was it the other way around? He wasn’t “man enough”? And many less nice things.
Her answer to all of them was that her now ex husband was a wonderful man, and that they’d remain friends as they’d always been, because on her side that’s all there could be, because she didn’t find it in herself to love, not him nor any man or woman, but still cared deeply for him as she did for all her friends.
She now lives happily in retirement, traveling around the country with her friends, ex husband included, and also has a cat.
When the lady told me this she sounded doubtful at first, afraid she was appropiating but when I told her that the experience sounded like those on our community she looked so happy, and kindly asked me to write down the terms and what they mean on a paper so she could show her friend when she went back home, tell her that she wasn’t alone that there were more people who had united and have a name and are fighting to be recognised.
That day I realised something: That there are more of us than we know about, that in this age of information many of the older generation were still estranged from the net and among them there are aromantic people too. And that for those people who have probably felt other and wrong most of their lives, the knowledge of the label and community, the confirmed existence of others like them that feel it’s important enough to recognise that feeling or lack thereof, can be just as healing, reassuring and important as it was for us, the newer generation who stumbled upon the term on the internet when we were teens.
The internet is great, of course, but if we want to find the older aros de have to look for them, because they most surely haven’t found themselves in that label yet either. And to do so we must share our terms and experiences and shout to the world that we exist outside the screens, that we are real. I know it can be risky or even dangerous but if we wish to find them, and hopefully make them a bit happier, it’s all we can do.
TL,DR: There are old aros out there, we just have to find them by spreading our visibility, not only for us, but for them too.
this makes me so happy to hear! thank you for sharing
We never really talked about it but The Ugly Ducking that grew up to be a beautiful swan was still probably pretty fugly from a duck’s perspective
Like that story isn’t about an ugly duckling that grew up sexy, it’s a fucking swan was judged as a duck and hated itself as a duck until it found out it wasn’t a duck and stopped trying to be a duck.
The actual ducks in the neighborhood were probably still looking around at perfectly normal swans like “damn, look at those busted ass ducks”
This is pretty important, actually. The good ending is finding the other swans, not tearing yourself to pieces trying to impress the ducks.
asexual galahad not understanding what's so hard about keeping a vow of chastity
he is simply not tempted!!
(from A Companion to Malory, p. 210)
diversity win! god's favourite knight is asexual
Sometimes they fancy a shag, sometimes they don't, sometimes they never do or only for special moments or people. REGARDLESS THEY MATTER AND DESERVE TO TAKE UP SPACE.
Yesterday was International Asexuality Day, but ace books are good to read all year round. Asexual means a person doesn't feel sexual feelings or attraction to others, but this is a spectrum and can vary widely from person to person. Note that attraction does not equal romance, and asexual is not the same as aromantic. Some people are sex repulsed, some are not. Some people are sex positive, some are not.
Demisexuality falls under the asexual umbrella, and means a person doesn't feel attraction until developing a strong connection with a person. Two of my books, Phantom and Rook, and Matsdotter and Adrastus, have demisexual mains.
There are many different shades of Ace, and many different types of stories just waiting for you to read.
Happy International Asexuality Day!!! 🖤🩶🤍💜

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Happy International Asexuality Day, Black Asexuals! 🖤🩶🤍💜
Yasmin Benoit helped to co-found this day in 2021 to celebrate the asexual identity and ace experiences. I have to be honest and say given recent events I'm not in the celebrating mood, but I'm still gonna try to boost Black asexuality today just like every other day. Creating Black ace spaces and content is important because we're the only ones who can. Just like Yasmin, we have to create the Black ace representation that we want and need. We are the representation. Don't be afraid to take up space and speak your truth. Don't shrink yourself to make mainstream bigger ace spaces more comfortable. Don't feel like you have to downplay or 'fix' your Blackness for anybody ace or not. And most importantly, have a great day!
A lot of the time when I find lists of books with asexual characters, they have loads of YA and coming-of-age books, which is great! It's lovely! And it's certainly relatable for a lot of young aces. But I'm 30 and I didn't figure out I was aspec until I was an adult.
I'm perfectly capable of projecting aspec identities on unlabeled characters (I have lots of practice) but it would be nice to have more aspec characters who are already adults and past the coming-of-age stage of life.
Anyone got recs like that?
Yes! Here is a list of adult books with aspec main characters!
That Kind of Guy by Talia Hibbert- demi mc, contemporary romance
Role Playing by Cathy Yardly- demi mc, contemporary romance
The Romantic Agenda by Claire Kann- ace mc, contemporary romance
How To Be a Normal Person by TJ Klune- ace love interest, contemporary romance
I'd also recommend the nonfiction book Ace by Angela Chen, which is an ace reporter going over her experiences and interviewing adults in the ace community.
Interesting! Thank you!
I didn't add Refusing Compulsory Sexuality by Sherronda J. Brown since it's less narrative than Ace but if you like nonfiction, I highly recommend it!!
on love arriving unannounced
so overwhelmed by the love my little poem received, i wanna cry
Introduce a law to legally protect the right of those aged 18 and over to transition using NHS services. This should specifically cover phys
Uk peeps!! Let’s get this going! 🏳️⚧️🇬🇧
...Non-UK peeps, please reblog for reach ❤️
aro & ace books: Indigenous authors
This post is combining global Indigenous identities, not soley North American!
Elatsoe - YA fantasy / Lipan Apache / aro-coded ace MC
A Snake Falls To Earth - YA fantasy / Lipan Apache / ace MC
The Summer of Bitter and Sweet - YA contemporary / Indigenous Canadian/Métis / demisexual MC
The Witch King - YA fantasy / Seminole / demisexual LI, ace SC
Godly Heathens - YA fantasy / Seminole / demiromantic MC
Màgòdiz - dystopian/fantasy / I believe the author identifies as 'having Mi'kmaq/Anishinabe heritage while not being registered' / an aroace MC
Muneera and the Moon - folktale anthology / Palestinian / some with ace characters or queerplatonic themes (author also has lots of other short fiction!)
Odd Blood - paranormal romcom / Kanaka Maoli / demisexual MC
The Bone People - litfic / Māori / aroace coded MC
#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

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We have always existed, and we always will.
Behold the tiny arowlmantic and the genderqueer owl, with their buddies the pansexuowl, bisexuowl and asexuowl <3
Making more soon! If you like a different owl poke at me and I can dive into my yarn stash
https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/prideandpunk
So I don't sell these anymore (ugh Etsy and ugh moving to a different country) but if you want to make your own little queer owl: I used this awesome free pattern for the owls, starting at the base with the lowest colour of the flag:
https://patterncenter.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Baby_Owl_Ornaments_Pattern_by_A_Morning_Cup_of_Jo_Creations-1.pdf
It's an easy pattern, you'll need to do a little circle (magic circle optional), increase, decrease and single crochet, no fancy stitches, just colour changes when you need to. It's a bit of a learning process to work out when to switch colours, but if you have some time to faff about with yarn and a hook: do it!
Happy pride ♥️